I know this going to be some BP stuff but i just had to write this down.

We broke off after 1.5 years after she finally realizes that we don't have a future together (she wanted kids and move together ASAP, i don't and was always honest about it). Our breakup was clean and without much mess, she was already mentally prepared a week ago. She was very far from perfect, red flags here and there, higher n-count, but still liked her much, though never loved her. She was lower SMV than me and loved me really much. The breakup was 2 days ago, we still have to exchange our stuff.

I now feel guilty and very sorry for her that things didn't work out with us. I will get over it, but to know that she (maybe) won't for a long time really crushes me. What also really gets to me is that i didn't broke up when i knew things weren't working out, like half a year ago. She is 34 and i'm 29, so finding a new adequate partner is going to be harder for her.

Is there anything i can do to help her or comfort her which complies with TRP? Or am i being overly sensitive here and should just exchange our stuff and keep no contact? When should should we exchange our stuff? I really don't want to see her devastated.