Feminine upkeep

strawberrisubmarine · 2019-12-02T00:13:36+00:00

I agree with the majority of the other ladies on this post! :) Here are some of my tips:

SKIN: I use coconut oil everyday on my face to keep it fresh youthful and smelling great, it also helps with acne and dirty pores. I also shave my face (including the peach fuzz) to keep it smooth and it helps with skin clarity and putting on my makeup easier. I also recommend eye serum and anti aging cream (even if you’re young). I have friends who are 40 who look 22 (seriously). Use a moisturizing lip balm every night before you go to sleep and buy a bunch to keep in your car, purse etc, so that your lips are always hydrated.

HAIR: I braid my hair every night, it is quite long, but when I take the braid out it usually has no tangles and has a very beautiful and effortless wave to it that I love. To keep your hair healthy I would suggest getting a trim about every 8 weeks to get rid of any dead ends and usually the salon shampoo and deep conditioning does wonders as well. I like to keep my hair color within the same shade range but I do mix it up in the seasons. I’m a natural redhead but in the summer I go for a more strawberry blonde and in the fall/winter a darker auburn. I think one big issue is dying your hair or bleaching it a color that will be hard to maintain and may not flatter your skin tone.

NAILS: I always get my nails done because I’m really bad at painting them myself, but whenever I’m low on cash I always make sure that they are looking nice and fresh with no nail polish at all. No polish is better than chipped polish.

MAKEUP: find what style suits you best and what brings you the most confidence! Look up tutorials on YouTube or try playing around with it to see what you think looks most flattering on you. I tend to mostly do natural makeup, but I usually add a red lip because I think it really makes my makeup pop. On some more special occasions or fun occasions I may try out other styles.

SCENT: Find a signature fragrance that suits you best. I tend to like vanilla or floral scents but I think certain scents compliment certain women. Stick to this fragrance and it will make you more memorable. TRUST ME. I’ve had many men tell me that they thought of me when a certain women walked by that had a similar fragrance or that they miss the way I smell. People will begin to tell you that whenever they smell vanilla (or whatever your fragrance has) they will think of you. Also of course make sure that you are using deodorant, and I also use coconut oil under my armpits and other areas that helps me sweat a LOT less than usual

CLOTHING: Find clothing that excites you and suits both your body shape and personality. But on the same turn don’t buy something just to buy it. Only buy clothes if you immediately light up when you try it on. If your whole closet makes you feel this way you will feel a lot more feminine and confident. I feel like many women just seem to be like “hmm okay this fits” and buy it anyways even if it doesn’t make you super excited to see it on your actual body.

I highly recommend the YouTube channel AlyArt she has several videos on finding what particular looks may flatter your body shape and face shape to help you get in deeper touch with your femininity :)

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXLdps0aVzxxet8avg9OLYQ

missdeerest · 2019-12-01T16:45:58+00:00

I am bad and only get a haircut once a year if that. This year I got two because I am growing out bangs and that’s a challenge!

I have a skincare routine Bc I have chronically dry skin and the winter just makes it worse. Always always always a light sunscreen!!!

Makeup...with the skincare routine I don’t need as much. I can get away with mascara and chapstick 99% of the time. I wash my face with Ponds cold cream, never a cleanser or soap.

I never wear pants. Tights are warmer in winter than jeans anyway. A little suffering and a collection of cute boots and men feel special when they see me “dressed down.”

knc217 · 2019-12-02T03:21:35+00:00

Hair: I have the unfortunate combination of a very oily and very flaky scalp. Aveeno's Scalp Soothing Oat Milk Blend Shampoo is the only shampoo I've ever used that lets me go more than two days without washing it. It's sulfate- and paraben-free too! It did take my hair a week or two to get used to it, but ever since it's been great! I also use Love Beauty & Planet's murumuru butter & rose conditioner. It's meant for color-treated hair (which I don't have) but it's their best-smelling product, IMO, and it makes my hair insanely soft. It's also cruelty-free, paraben-free, etc. etc.

These two products smell AWESOME together!

Also! Only wash the top of your hair unless the bottom gets insanely dirty (e.g. mud, paint); when you rinse the top the suds will gently clean the bottom of your hair. Any more than that will dry out your ends! In the winter/when it's been really windy I'll put a few drops of jojoba oil in my hands and rub it over my ends about 20 minutes before I shower to give it some extra nourishment. You can also do this all over your hair + scalp overnight if you put a towel on your pillow and wear a nightcap.

I have very fine, very straight mid-length hair, so I have to braid it every night or I wake up with a bird's nest. It also gives me a slight wave, which I like. Usually I shower at night and let it air-dry before bed. Don't go to sleep with wet hair! I used to do that, and while my hair was always really soft when I woke up, it was so much more prone to breakage :(

Skin: I oil cleanse with Aura Cacia's jojoba oil and it makes my skin SO soft + nourished. It's noncomedogenic and really gentle on the skin. I'll use this to remove my makeup at night and will also use a small dab in the morning to perk my face up before applying makeup. I take a clean washcloth and soak it in cool water, then gently dab away the oil, leaving a very thin layer. I then pat dry and apply CeraVe's Daily Moisturizing Lotion in two stages: a thin layer I rub in, then a thicker layer I pat on once the first has dried. (Patting presses it into your skin better).

I recently started using The Ordinary's niacinamide and AHA + BHA peel. I have to add a drop or two of niacinamide to my moisturizer or else it's too strong. Both work well, though I'm only on week two of using them.

Also, kinda niche, but I have super dry eyelids (eyelid contact dermatitis ftw!). If I don't moisturize them religiously they will get red and peel. After I oil cleanse I put a cool wet washcloth over my eyes for a few minutes, then smear Vaseline all over them (including my eyelashes). This keeps them from drying out overnight.

Makeup: I prefer a semi-natural look so I just use CoverGirl's CG Smoothers (blends wonderfully, doesn't splotch unless your skin is dry, layers easily), drugstore mascara and felt-tip eyeliner (I only line my waterline, which makes my eyes pop but not in an over-the-top way), and a nude Wet n Wild palette I got at Target. I just use my pinky to swipe on some cream-colored shadow, use my ring finger to add some light brown or pale pink, and use a small brush to blend the top transition color into my creases. I use a sturdy eyeshadow brush to fill in my brows just a tad with the bottom transition color (my brows are black). Usually I'll just use Burt's Bees lipbalm, but if I'm going out with my boyfriend I'll swipe on a bit of this lipstick.

Clothing: I am currently trying to transition my wardrobe to just dresses and cute tops/skirts. Maurice's has incredible tops; I literally have ten shirts from them. Their plain 24/7 tees (short and long-sleeve) are perfect for pairing with a cute skirt, and they also have so many nice floral tees if you want something feminine to go with jeans. Amazon has tons of cute dresses to choose from; I personally like Laksmi and oxiuly brands, as they're super soft, modest, breastfeeding-friendly (for when I'll need that option), and can withstand lots of wear. I personally have these two (1 2). Perfect for church and teaching!

YouTube recommendations:

It goes without saying that Mrs. Midwest is the go-to for this sub! Even if you're not a Christian you can still glean a wealth of knowledge from her channel.
Loepsie posts beauty and fashion tutorials + looks, with a focus on the vintage. Love her!
Audrey Coyne is an incredible resource for fashion advice. She also has an incredibly soothing voice; I may or may not have fallen asleep listening to her videos once....
Hyram posts skincare advice. I have learned so much from him, and his videos are always highly entertaining.

BeginningSomewhere3 · 2019-12-01T19:28:03+00:00

I have long, slightly wavy hair. My style is casually feminine on most days, so I just wear it natural, in sort of an "undone" fashion. When it comes to hair care, I get a trim anytime I can see or feel my split ends getting bad, usually works out to 2-3 times a year. I use a phthalate free shampoo and condition my hair often. If it feels especially dry, I use a hair mask to bring back some of the moisture. If for some reason I need to have my hair looking more done, I use a texturizing spray and/or throw it up into a nice bun. Nothing super complex.

For skincare, I use a non-medicated facial scrub every couple of days to keep dry skin patches at bay. I also use a sugar scrub for the rest of my body when I feel it's needed. I use an oil free facial moisturizer every night and every morning. I add some SPF if I know I'm going to be in the sun a lot that day.

Makeup is pretty simple. I use a good translucent powder all over and most days just add mascara and chapstick. If I have time, I go through a simple eyeshadow routine and might add a lipstick every now and then. I almost never use foundation, but have been known to reach for a BB cream with SPF added during the summer months.

My nails stay plain. Filed and maybe some clear polish every now and then. I hate colored nail polish on myself, so I don't ever wear it.

Banemus · 2019-12-02T19:08:42+00:00

Hey, I wanted to give my 2 cents about this. I'm a man though so do what you will with it.

SKIN: When you take a shower, try a few weeks without using soap. Just rinse your body with streaming water. Your skin is something amazing and it actually doesn't require soap. Soap destroys all bacteria including good ones. ( I got this from another woman btw. ) I was very surprised with the result! I haven't used soap for 3 years now and I feel perfectly fine. My skin isn't dry anymore. I barely sweat now, unless I work out of course, while I used to be sweating constantly. I even used to have smelly feet while I barely smell them now. And people don't smell anything wrong with me.

But this is what basically happens in this day and age: people use body soap to wash their body which makes their skin very dry and destroys all the good bacteria, then they smear a layer of product over their skin to make it less dry. What happens is that your skin isn't capable of breathing anymore because that layer of product is covering it. Let it breath!

Just try it out for a few weeks and see for yourself. The body does need time to regulate it back up because you have been using soap your entire life. If you don't like the result, you can always switch back to using soaps. Ow and the actual natural smell of a woman ain't half bad if I have to say so myself :p.

The only thing I still use is deodorant. Ow and washing the hair once every 3 days with shampoo but get one with 100% natural ingredients. ( I don't have hair myself but just in case you were wondering what to do with that ;) )

Holding back the aging process: Do some research on "intermittent fasting" + "autophagy". This is something that Buddhists and monks do a lot with good reason! We even do it subconsciously when we are sick! Sick Animals do it too.

Muscles: A very dangerous thing when we are old is actually falling down on the ground. This is something fatal for older people that barely trained their muscles. A bone structure can only hold of so much shock before it breaks, that is why muscles are very important. So make sure you do some sport once in a while. I know it ain't feminine but a strong body is always good to have, it's the only body you will ever have.

97wife · 2019-12-04T03:21:44+00:00

I've recently discovered a new tactic where I plan out my beauty routine so that it is efficient and doesn't take up too much time. I get my eyebrows done, bikini wax, nails if needed, restock on at home beauty products all on the same day, and I do this monthly.

Each week I maintain my nails with OPI nail envy, pluck any sparse brow hairs, shave, and do face masks. I also pick a certain day to do all of this.

This way I get it all out the way and usually feel good and put my best foot forward even with just a little mascara and lip balm, because I invested one day of the week to do all the prep work.

supcarl · 2019-12-01T16:32:54+00:00

I think hair is an area where you can get away with minimal effort; I get my hair cut maybe 2-3 times a year, use a nice leave-in to keep things smooth, blow-outs when the occasion calls for it.

Waxing (brows, nether regions, etc) only when I'm seeing my SO. I'm not as particular about skincare as I could be, but I'm always wearing sunscreen. I have exfoliation gloves that help out a lot during these winter months!

2019-12-02T12:20:11+00:00

Keep shaving my beard and tash.

2019-12-01T17:50:46+00:00

Skin: lotion, skincare (cleanser, moisturizer, SPF when going outside, retinol at night), shave/trim body hair 2-3x weekly. Exfoliate as needed.

Hair: I have curly hair, so either wearing it natural or straightening it. I tend to favor down or braided styles.

Makeup: mascara, concealer for dark circles, little bit of liner on my top lids, blush, and the occasional lip color. I prefer a lighter look for most days, though.

Misc.: I keep my nails done and DIY them once a week. Clothing is simple, yet feminine.

StepfordInTexas · 2019-12-02T20:49:49+00:00

I get dressed every day. I don’t just put on clothes; I choose and outfit appropriate for the day.

I color my hair every 8 weeks and haircuts as needed.

Gym 3-5 times per week to keep my body in shape.

Cleanse my face twice a day.

Rest_in_grace · 2019-12-01T17:08:00+00:00

I use face moisturizer everyday and use only a small amount of make up - eye shadow eye liner and mascara. I avoid foundation bc it can age your skin. I like to wear lipstick when we go out. That’s about it.

HunnyCitrus · 2019-12-02T17:46:08+00:00

I love this topic and appreciate all these tips! When it comes to hair though, I tend to leave mine alone as I'm growing it out. I do have other tips though!

My most favorite things for feminine upkeep are eyelash extensions, french manicures, full face and body moisturizing, sun hats/sunscreen, and always wearing heels!

Eyelash extensions are a MUST for me! I always feel girly and put together, even when I wake up in the morning. Thanks to my bomb lashes my makeup routine is only a bold lip and occasionally blush or highlighter.

Gel french manicures (white tips) are my absolute favorite because they are timeless, low maintenance and classy! When they start growing out I can get away with keeping them an extra week or two by adding a clear coat and they're my man's faaaavorite.

Moisturizing is my favorite ritual! I love smelling yummy and having soft skin. Hand washing in particular is super drying so I have a big colletion of hand creams and always carry some in my purse.

I stay out of the sun in general and when I can't help it I always wear a sun hat/sunscreen! I'm almost 30 and have no wrinkles so far. This has been a habit that has been ingrained in me since childhood by my mother.

As for heels, who doesn't feel feminine in heels?

2019-12-01T23:46:12+00:00

Keto diet, exercise, water, sleep, praying, meditation.

No medication, no makeup, no artificial enhancements. If I look less beautiful, it's because my health is tanking.

Title	Feminine upkeep
Author	insecurepetite22
Upvotes	27
Comments	14
Date	December 1, 2019 4:15 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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