Maybe the dudes that actually pull off being alpha are happy, but 99% of the red pill just seems like dudes with inferiority complexes that are constantly projecting their own wounded masculinity onto others or posturing about how tough and attractive they are to cover up a seriously fractured ego. And the red pill women are just as obsessed with masculinity as the dudes are. They vicariously affirm their own self-worth through them by talking about how big their bf/husbands dick is, or how tough he is or whatever. It’s sort of pathetic. Not to mention I never hear these women say anything that suggests there’s anything real in their relationship. I’ve never heard one speak with real passion about their love and even their boasts about sex sound phoned in. I feel like both the red pill guys and the dudes are just dead inside underneath it all and possibly incapable of actual intimacy or love.

Edit because mod said I had to go in depth. I’ll start with things red pill guys do, specifically on this sub. Every time someone mentions having sex or attracting women, they have to chime in about how much sex they’ve had or how attractive they are to women. I don’t see why they would feel the need to always do this unless it’s motivated by ego. They see someone else is successful with women and it makes them feel insecure so they have to chime about all the plates they’re spinning or some shit. It’s possible this is related to triggers which I’ll talk about in the next paragraph.

Then there is the projection. This happens when you bring up things outside of the red pill ideology. They will chime in with how weak or beta or whatever you are and will often do itnwith irrational anger. I think this is an expression of what’s sitting below the facade they adopted after finding the red pill. Before trp, something seriously wounded their ego and masculine pride and instead of processing and dealing with it, they adopted an ideology that allowed them to channel all that anger and angst onto women, society and beta males. It’s the same reason people join cults and how certain political movements take hold (nazism or ultra right wing in modern America). Every time this wound is triggered, the person lashes out, or alternately uses sarcasm, deflection or any other defense mechanisms they’ve adopted. I was harsh when I wrote this because I was reading a bunch of bullshit here and it was annoying but after writing all that I feel bad for them again.

Anyway, as for the women, like I said, they are masculinity obsessed as well. They always have to chime in about how “big” their husband is or how alpha and tough he is or whatever. They’re defining their self worth through their partner, which all people do but usually not by obsessively focusing on specific traits. I think they do this because they suffer from something similar to what red pill guys do. Some sort of sensitivity to real or perceived power differentials only theirs is usually expressed vicariously through a mate as women aren’t expected to be directly dominant or powerful like men. So they go for these uber masculine “alpha” dudes in order to placate their power and dominance obsessed brain.

As for the serial dating comment, these men are often emotionally unavailable and just not good partner material which leads to them just going from relationship to relationship without ever learning their lesson or realizing why it’s not working. Then they either settle down with a nice dude, but still hold onto their power obsession and secretly thinks less of their partner for not being dominant enough. Or they settle down with some red pill dude who’s realized he can’t chase vagina forever and so decides to become monogamous. This dude can’t really love though because he’s shut off that part of himself and he is also still wrapped up in an ideology that nags at him and reminds him that he’s not a man if he’s not sleeping with a bunch of girls. And he is also trapped in a certain wya of acting forever because otherwise the girl will leave him. He is never able to let his guard down, show emotion or be anything but the emotional equivalent of a rock. Sad.

So basically I think quite a few of the firls here are in the latter type of relationship and that the relationship is boring and emotionally unfulfilling so the only way they can feel something is by coming here and talking about how masculine their dude is. They do this in an attempt to fulfill their power fix and also to try and create jealousy because they are mentally still in high school.

Edit: More elaboration. These red pill dudes are also unable to admit to weakness or things like going through dry spells. Which is actually something that NpD people do (a lot of red pill seems like learning how to be a narc). Every dude goes through dry spells and every dude gets sad or lonely or whatever unless they completely ignore (repress) any negative emotions. There are two types of people who do the latter a lot. People who are way too pleasant and positivity obsessed and thus can’t face the negative things. Or people who are power and dominance obsessed and this can’t face any weakness. Repressions is just the unconscious denial of anything which is deemed unacceptable, usually in comparison to a persons schema/worldview/morals/whatever. So basically these red pill dudes (and probably the red pill lady dudes) are unable to face anything that conflicts with what is ultimately a radicalized and oversimplified ideology.