Long post incoming.

Age: 26 Height: 6’ 0” Weight: 215lbs Body Fat: ~22% as of last scan I have been lifting on and off for the past few years. Solid shoulder and chest outline but not lean by any means yet.

Admittedly I haven’t referenced much of the sidebar here but have read at least the top 10-15 posts in this subreddit. I’ve been a reader of TRP for around 3 years.

I currently work as a Pipeline Surveyor. I broke into this industry in June 2017 as a laborer and began surveying in April 2018. I bring home roughly 6500 a month after taxes & insurance. Since May ‘18 I’ve been fixing my credit and saving an emergency fund in case of future layoffs. Once I have a base fund saved I plan begin paying on my medical debt which is currently around 25k before asking for any reductions, etc. In May ‘18 my credit score was at 551, now Credit Karma estimates a 664. Had two large collections accounts removed due to creditor’s inability to provide a statement of charges, have paid the remaining items in collections which have also been removed and have 2 credit cards (1 secured, 1 unsecured) with 2 good payments so far.


So I’m finally close to being “established” in life after many years of being broke and struggling. My current relationship with Christ is not as close as I’d like. I’ve recently found a girl with Bumble and have been sexual with her knowing full well I’m in the wrong. I’ve had maybe 3 sexual partners in 4 years and its been rough. I’ve been reading & studying about sex outside of marriage for a while now yet apparently I don’t feel strongly enough about celibacy to stick to it. I’ve allowed this to meddle with my prayer and have felt guilty yet sexually gratified - dangerous. I know repentance is necessary now. I’m fighting this battle internally & working to repair my relationship with Christ.

Due to my traveling lifestyle with work, and ever-increasing age I’m worried about how to get from here to a family. My intention has always been to save for a business in a few years and get out of this line of work for something more stable. In 4 years I’ll be 31 - not too old for a family but older than I wanted to be. Its proving very difficult to meet Women where I travel for work. It took 20-30 matches on Bumble to finally have a solid few dates with one. I’m worried that my life’s direction isn’t conducive to meeting quality Christian Women much less asking one to marry me when I never know where or when I’ll be told to move to next. I’m holding fast to my entrepreneurial dreams and they keep me pointed in a single direction at least.

2 main areas I greatly need advice in: 1.) Being Christlike in an environment where I’m surrounded by athiests and immoral people 24/7. Not just Christlike but consistently growing in relationship with Christ in an environment like this. 2.) Meeting quality Christian Women when travelling often or gradually directing my life to a place that those Women will be willing to marry into. I would never ask a Woman to marry me in my current lifestyle. Any other words Jesus gives you guys for me are appreciated as well.

Thank you all for your attention, advice, and time!