Would you tell your close friends you have mental depression and thats why you get moody sometimes?

Filmguy000 · 2019-12-29T10:36:46+00:00

I wouldn't do the "open book" thing with close friends. I did this in the past and always saw the dynamic change over time. I would realize that I was less and less respected by those same friends. People like to listen to a broken person's issues because its entertaining. But a broken person is broken therefore not worth a whole lot. I'm not saying you or others with issues are worthless, but people don't look up to people who share how they feel (when its negative). It implies weakness to the listener's subconscious. Its just one of those shitty things about us humans. That's just my opinion and experience.

Bruchibre · 2019-12-29T11:12:40+00:00

Only to people who understand what it means. Most guys won't understand and will think you just need to cheer up.

asktrpmax · 2019-12-29T09:52:31+00:00

I’ve recently started opening up a bit more to my close male friends over the last couple of months and you know what. Each and everyone of my boys had some serious shit they actually want to talk about, opening up and getting it out helps organise your mind.

Since I’ve been open like this I have not struggled to make friends one little bit which I know many guys on this subreddit struggle with. One conversation like this and we have a closer bond, there’s guys out there that now know my story and have my back, and I have there’s. We are a team.

2019-12-29T09:36:02+00:00

I’ve done this but only to two friends. One that introduced me to RP and the other is just a live long friend. The one that introduced me to RP engaged in a very long conversation about it and how he think would be the best way to view my depression. He never babied me through the conversation, he guided me without holding my hand if that makes sense. My other friend didn’t have much to say which in turn made me alittle upset because I had an expectation of some sort of care. Odds are I say keep it to yourself unless you see a professional (which I have and say you prefer holistic healing over meds) or if you have someone like my RP friend. Also get a dog, best thing that has happened to me since my mental downfall. Keeps you accountable for another life, obligations, and if loyal as fuck.

thrwy75479 · 2019-12-29T08:25:28+00:00

Great that you feel better.

What do you want, or expect to happen by telling them?

monky-loves-you · 2019-12-29T08:40:30+00:00

Just say something like you're tired or just want some time out to let them know you're not mad, you don't need to open up to them.

Kevchenkoo · 2019-12-29T12:29:38+00:00

I did that in my situation and it sure as hell helped me out. It is not weird at all, its okay to talk to your boys about depression

theredsperg · 2019-12-29T15:35:35+00:00

no one cares, they only care when it suits them.

take it from me, i'm depressed most of the time and i avoid my friends when they're in a worse position.

there is a very small minority of people that will accept this, but they will still try and drag you out of your misery, associate with these people

thesatellite23 · 2019-12-29T22:48:10+00:00

My closest friend -- and maybe the most alpha dude I know -- has told me multiple times about some of his problems and how he goes to therapy. Yet he still attracts people like a magnet.

theUnBannableHulk · 2019-12-29T09:51:30+00:00

The habit of explaining yourself to people just to make them comfortable is Beta.

Cut it out.

Women share their feeeelz, Men deal with them in their own time and become stronger. Do you wanna choose to be more womanly or more manly?

If any of these phags really cared about you, they’d ask, “bro you ok, why you always mad” then you could say “just going through some shit, I’ll be ok”

That’s the extent of your sharing as a Man.

Tough but we have to BECOME MEN.

Women just have TO BE.

Kill the boy, Become The Man.

PUA_Fan · 2019-12-29T12:17:13+00:00

U get moody cuz of estrogen bro

Raise your test, makes u calm

RPNorvell · 2019-12-29T08:38:29+00:00

Don't ever display weakness.

Title	Would you tell your close friends you have mental depression and thats why you get moody sometimes?
Author	themangu6
Upvotes	10
Comments	38
Date	December 29, 2019 8:17 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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