A girl I have been dating, lead me on, got oneitis for, just flaked on me for the 2nd time in a row with an obvious bullshit excuse. Not gonna lie boys, it fucking stings, and has hurt my self confidence.

I was a fat stoner in an LTR for most of my college days. After my LTR ended I completed my masters degree, I went monk mode for 2 years. I trained boxing like an animal. I came out of monk mode pretty much a virgin again, however...

  • landed a top tier job, approaching 6 figures
  • I purchased my own house with the money I saved
  • I digested as much RP content from here as I could, fucked over 30 women
  • Skinny, with some muscle (boxer physique) chest-heavy with raging 8 pack
  • Age 26

Met this girl I really clicked with, went on 2 dates then I went overseas for 2 months for a work research trip. She stayed in my orbit making sure I didn’t forget her. I got back, she set the date, she flakes. I was out at a bar and I saw her there a week later, she was all over me, even went and dragged me across the bar to introduce me to her brother. Because she flaked the first time, I didn’t set another date for 2 weeks. After 2 weeks, she was orbiting me every day so I set another date and guess fucking what - she flakes again with another “muh headache” excuse. She even took off work and sent me her text exchanges with her boss to confirm this. Flaked right before.

I am sitting here, hot, bothered, hurt and emotional like a little fucking bitch. What the fuck is up with women? Why invest so much effort into me just to flake? Why spend weeks trying to ensure I don’t forget you just to pull out last minute, AGAIN? Why introduce me to your family and then start pulling the fuck back?

I have spun plates and I’m done with it. The drive to fuck these 7/10s is gone as I approach my 30’s been there, done that. I’d rather jack off than fuck anything under an 8.

*How to fight this feeling of wanting to build a family?

I am thinking of going monk mode for 6 months and saving my money, buying a new car, fixing up my house, competing in amateur boxing a few times and then hit the dating scene again. But I can’t help but think, I’m 28, losing my hair and going grey, I’m not gonna be as desirable as I am now for much longer as my youth fades... is monk mode a bad idea in my place? Am I wasting my prime youth/pussy years by locking myself down and stoping chasing ass for 6 months to get my shit straight?*

Yeah I get it, oneitis oneitis. I got sucked the fuck in, I’m pissed and it fuckings stings. My confidence and self worth has taken a massive blow. I chose to apply SPECIFIC red pill advice where I saw fit instead of the whole ideology. For example, I chose not to text for logistics only. Shit like that.

The last girl I dated and we got close to progressing to LTR who started flaking on me I got emotional with and questioned why she was flaking to her. Then blocked her when I didn’t get what I wanted like the emotional bitch I am.

This time I calmly responded “Damn, unlucky. Hope you feel better” and left it there. She will no doubt try orbit again and I’m leaving her on seen.

Drill me, please