How the fuck do I deal with my strict ass parents.

Hellsteelz · 2020-10-08T12:40:24+00:00

By moving out. You can do whatever you wish by getting a job and moving out. But once you are in their house, it's their rules.

cunningcaring · 2020-10-08T12:26:29+00:00

You are like every other teenager. Your parents have your best interests in their hearts.

thecarryone · 2020-10-08T13:21:31+00:00

Move out.

Asktrp4427 · 2020-10-08T13:28:17+00:00

Move out. I got my own place at 17, but you’re gonna miss them once you do lol. Yours moms truly the only person who will love you. I’m 19 now

laiyaise · 2020-10-08T12:59:39+00:00

You can try sit them down and make your case that you need more independence, that preventing you from having these experiences will do a lot of harm to you than good and prevent you from fully becoming an adult. If that doesn't work and you think you can call their bluff without them kicking you out, then ask for forgiveness instead of permission. If they're not willing to put your ass out of the house then they have no power over you. If you got the kind of parents that will 100% kick you out then I'd say it's probably not the best time for that with all the instability, lockdowns, and what not.

Remember your parents are just doing what they think they should be doing, they're winging it, so they have to learn to accept your increasing desire for independence. I was in a similar position to you with hardcore Catholic parents with a temper to match and I would say go for it. Missing out on those experiences sucks and it's worth all the punishment to get them, especially if you have bulldozer/helicopter parents that are preventing you from experiencing life and learning from the mistakes you make along the way.

deeznutsbeswingin · 2020-10-08T13:11:08+00:00

I had the same problem, and i made the mistake of going to uni just to get out on my own. A hasty decision that cost me 10k. Get a job, get some cash saved up, then get an apartment with some room mates so rent is cheap, and then keep saving and plan your future.

fpuen · 2020-10-09T08:25:37+00:00

In my case moving out didn't even help as they began harassing me remotely, stealing my identity to manage my affairs etc. I had to completely cut contact. Even now, 5 years later, they're trying to get at me, I'm considering filing a restraining order. My dad in particular appears to have some sort of control related pathology.

Just to give you perspective, your parents are not the worst. But yes, follow the other advice to move out even if it makes you poorer. Some parents just don't get it and operate from a place of control instead of mutual care.

Title	How the fuck do I deal with my strict ass parents.
Author	____Weabooo_V2
Upvotes	5
Comments	16
Date	October 8, 2020 12:05 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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