Normally this is something I would bring up w my femininity coach, but she’s given me some conflicting advice.

The first few times I talked to her she was very firm about the fact that I needed to stop dating while fat and focus on my weight loss if I wanted results. I agreed with her and I stopped dating. I deleted all social media, all of my dating apps, and just focused on me. I work out every day but I still struggle with my diet.

I checked in with her recently and I had lost 20 pounds since we last spoke (I also had to save up the money to talk to her so it had been a while) and I confessed that I reconnected with a someone I met before from OLD and I knew I shouldn’t be dating but I didn’t want to mess up the opportunity. She told me it was good and I /needed/ to be dating and that I needed to practice for when I’m at my goal weight and I can get a good man.

Even though I lost the 20lbs I’m still fat and out of the weight range she told me for dating. I’m really afraid my femininity coach is becoming bluepilled and I need some honest advice. Because why would she tell me to be dating when she told me I shouldn’t have been before? I’m not dating right now because she was ultimately right. I’m still 15lbs from a healthy weight and I never get approached by men because of my body.

OLD is my only hope at my current weight, but I don’t know if it’s even worth it to jump back into it or not because my SMV is so low? My SMV otherwise is fine, I only wear skirts/dresses, wearing heels daily, wear my jewelry every day, always have my nails and lashes done, etc. I’m always extremely put together but my weight has tanked my SMV to a 2.