Wanted to post and say thank you for all of the wise words and advice I read on here! I have been out a handful of times over the past several weeks with what seems to be a HVM and would love any and all input.

Sometimes I have trouble determining if behaviors are bare minimum or green flag behaviors due to past experiences with men and them not even wanting to do bare minimum. Hope everyone has a safe and memorable thanksgiving! 💚

  • pre-planned first date, met him at a nice restaurant, he paid, planned second date shortly after

  • pre-planned second date using what I had told him I like (sushi) on the first date, he paid, consistently setting up next time to see me

  • asks questions about me and actually remembers what I say - about work, family, friends, etc

  • pumped and paid for my gas when I happened to be driving us to brunch (he had left his car parked from the previous night and ubered so he wouldn’t drive after having a few drinks)

  • compliments not just my physical appearance but my intelligence, work ethic, personality

  • at brunch I commented that I liked the coffee mug I was drinking out of (it was quirky and unique, the restaurant is very hipster and local) and while I was in the restroom he asked the bartender if he could buy it because I liked it so much. I got to take it home! (Thoughtful)

  • kind and considerate to those around him, including wait staff and bartenders

  • we got takeout one night at my place and he did the dishes without hesitating (a few bowls and plates)

  • travels for work, communicates well and often- schedules a time that works for me for a quick phone call to talk about our days

  • talks about future relationships in general wanting a partner and against traditional gender roles- ie women only doing housework, it’s a partnership