I posted this the other day in asktrp and just realized I never posted it here.

There are generally 3 types of women when it comes to loyalty, particularly when there are orbiters involved. Almost all will tell you when one of them makes a move and attempt to break out of the friend zone, which is a pretty standard shit test to see if you get rattled by competition. Not all women have a huge cloud of orbiters, but if we're being honest almost all hot women do these days. And yes, sometimes genuine friends do develop feelings later on because they were allowed to get too chummy for their own good. That being said, here's the three typical outcomes...

  1. She tells you what's up, and passes the loyalty test with flying colors because she told the orbiter she understands when he's selling, but she isn't buying, and more importantly... that they can't be friends anymore since he feels that way. To use a car metaphor, she pushed down the clutch and slammed that shifter into gear, no assistance required.

  2. She tells you what's up, pressed the clutch, but didn't put the shifter into gear because she needs strong leadership/captain of the ship and you have to hold her hand and guide the shifter into gear for her. This means telling her that the guy needs to go. Maybe not directly, but by qualifying her so she gets the point that you cannot be in a relationship with her if she keeps friends who want to be more than friends and don't respect the boundaries in place. It's just a mess waiting to happen.

  3. The third type I've found to be complete nutjobs, like BPD or Cluster B. She tells you what's up, but doesn't press the clutch in, so when you try to give her guidance and demonstrate leadership all that ends up happening is you grind the gears and it causes a bunch of noise and commotion. You fail to make any progress and the car grinds to a halt.

Using this metaphor as a guide, ask yourself which type of woman do you have in your life?

Note: the type of man you are and her level of respect for you can affect which response she exhibits.