Zero motivation

Batman-von-Pepe · 2020-02-23T11:47:40+00:00

You don't need motivation, you need discipline. As for getting out of bed in the morning force yourself to get out by placing your alarm clock across the room. This only works if you have an obnoxious alarm that won't stop after a short time. Sometime just taking the first step can put you on the path to completing things.

Look into habit stacking to help build patterns and routines. This will help you establish some kind of discipline. To build a routine will take time. You just have to do it. Do anything, anything that isn't categorized as normal daily activity for you. You just have to get at it, that first step is the hardest but once you get going it things tend to snowball.

MVWeiss · 2020-02-23T10:53:40+00:00

Working out first thing in the morning.

Forcing yourself to push out at least 50 reps of push ups or squats will not only make your brain fog disappear, it’ll fill you with energy and start your motor.

Trust this, it works.

rochedo · 2020-02-23T12:13:46+00:00

Read David Goggins - Cant Hurt Me and then tell me about your stupid excuses. Also stop jerking off to porn, sounds like your dopamine is drained.

Musicgoon · 2020-02-23T13:48:10+00:00

Get to the gym and lift. Even if you hate it or don't feel like it. Go every day and beat the shit out if yourself. After a few weeks, life will change, and your motivation will return. That will light a fire under your ass.

boy_named_su · 2020-02-24T00:55:05+00:00

go doctor, get blood work (vitamins, minerals, hormones, inflammatory markers). fix any issues, preferably with diet
go buy and read Feeling Good by Burns. He's a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy guy. CBT is probably the best treatment for depression there is, and science backs it up.
then go buy and read A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy. It's the best intro to Stoicism. Stoicism and CBT are good friends
easy on the booze and weed. Get a lot of sleep

If you're not feeling better after that, I'll buy you lunch

There are audio book versions of both books

bpdloveoflife · 2020-02-23T13:26:46+00:00

When I had zero motivation for anything and couldnt get out of the bed, somewhere I read this, and it changed my life.

"When you love your kids, you discipline them for their own good. Similarly, when you love yourself, you discipline yourself for your own good. Self love is self discipline."

From that point onwards, self discipline to me felt like self love and I was able to push myself slowly, step by step - starting from getting off the bed and now I am back to my peak.

Don't worry about passion. Passion is overrated. Just enjoy what you do and dont do what you hate.

Also, do you have any negative factors in your life? A partner, a parent, a sibling or a friend, who says and does things that makes you feel negative about yourself. A lot of depression comes from micro-toxic people in our lives. They dont scream, they dont hit us, but they emotionally abuse us in small doses.

ThedragonCarnage · 2020-02-23T16:57:59+00:00

i swear when i clicked this i knew i will read " You don't need motivation, you need discipline ", but take it from someone who was in your shoes, discipline is close to impossible when you are depressed. get treat first.

OoRNG · 2020-02-23T12:45:04+00:00

Stop fapping

vintageBiscuit · 2020-02-23T14:01:28+00:00

Set goals that you can accomplish daily without exhausting yourself. Play the checkbox game.

IXseed · 2020-02-23T16:26:00+00:00

I would be able to handle all the depression if i had something that made me want to get out of bed in the morning.

So do that. Find a goal or a dream you want to accomplish. That's a part of why you can barely rise up from bed, you have to reason to.

Life is what you make it. If you don't give yourself a purpose, you don't see the reason to live.

skunkbear444 · 2020-02-23T18:30:04+00:00

Men love instructions. Discipline. Red pill has an over sensitive boner from this. And often success is rewarded to some type of discipline, when I think success comes from other deeper causes.

Desire comes from within. Fear comes within. These rule everything.

You pointed out your past is still holding on to you. I would become more emotionally in touch day to day. Instead of listening to your thoughts "I don't want to do anything today". Try to search for what feelings are going on let them in. Is it an anger about life? A fear or anxiety of failure? A sadness things haven't happened as you want?

Let those in and feel them out. They need to be felt so they can be let go. It may take awhile of emotional discovery if you haven't been honest with yourself about the emotions you have been having behind the curtain. These latent emotions may sometimes act as an extinguisher to desire before it can be sparked.

Keep searching for something that sparks inner desire. Some people by luck, have that desire sparked by many things and repeatedly. For many of us barely anything sparks that desire, much less repetitively so the same thing gets old you never get towards mastery.

I believe for men like us you often need to have camaraderie involved whether it is business or pleasure. The human connection keeps your coming back. Though ones that lack strong desires in life tend to be more lone wolf, I really think being a lone wolf is the worst thing for them. They need more incentive than internal desire to take action. They need accountability and larger group at stake. This was common back in communal tribes and larger extended family counting on you. Now it has to be sewn together yourself.

Getting involved in a rec sports team, fitness group, or something where you don't show up you let people you like down is a good start being forced by built in incentives.

WiterS2 · 2020-02-23T22:29:24+00:00

Get psichological help. It will not get better by itself. Probably you will get antidepressants, but you also need to fix your low self esteem, and to learn to feel that you are enough.

Your university probably has free help.

Go lift, so your mood improves. It raises your testosterone levels, and that's a natural antidepressant.

dalmooor · 2020-02-24T10:47:32+00:00

Discipline is the word healthy people use to make themselves proud of acomplishing things.

You have physical problems and you need to solve them first. Motivation and so called "discipline" comes later. Discipline is just the consequence. You can't discipline a depressed person.

Go see a nutritionist. Good food is not what we think it is. Go look into micronutrition, with prebiotics and probiotics. It takes months to a year to heal you liver and whole digestive system, but it is HIGHLY correlated to dopamine and serotonine receptors in your brain.

Good luck

povertymayne · 2020-02-23T21:22:23+00:00

You don’t lack motivation, you lack discipline.

Nofapislit · 2020-02-23T14:34:06+00:00

Go to a doctor and see if it’s clinical depression. If not find your purpose and everything becomes easier in life

SidMRP · 2020-02-23T20:53:30+00:00

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Title	Zero motivation
Author	SonnyFFC
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Date	February 23, 2020 10:43 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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