This post is more so aimed at my sister than the rest of my family.

Last time my father visited I spent time with her as she said we know nothing about each other besides we look like. She said she wanted to connect with me. But she didn't really get to know me. All she did was ask if I have a boyfriend yet, if I'm a virgin or not, and she kept pressuring me to drink. I feel like with her she keeps trying to "fix" me to become a party person like her.

Which there's absolutely nothing wrong with being party person! But I'm really shy and I don't talk much. I don't like drinking. She kept saying things like "don't worry you'll find a guy", "you'll getting a boyfriend one of these days" and like asking me for stories if I been with any guys sexually. She didn't ask me about what I was doing in school and she barely asked about my hobbies.

It was annoying how she basically expected me to become an extrovert and a drinker but wouldn't even bother to play video games with me. So im supposed to conform to what she likes but she can't do the same? 🙄. During the time we spent together she kept giving me advice on dealing with men but I couldn't even take her seriously because she ended up telling me she lets her boyfriend's sleep at her house and she would cook for them. She got drunk and gave me sex advice too and that also made me really uncomfortable (she also twerked on me for the 3rd time sigh ).

My cousin had to step in and tell her to stop because she was making me uncomfortable. My sister was low-key shaming me (saying things like "she's not ready for these kinds of conversations" and asking if anyone has even taught me about how sex works. New flash, just because I don't want to talk about it doesn't mean I don't know about it 🤦🏾‍♀️) because I wasn't comfortable with talking about sex and boyfriends.

She tries to get me to change my clothing style too. I can kinda understand because I would like to wear more girly things. But I'm just not comfortable showing skin. It makes me feel exposed. She's offered to take me shopping for better clothes and basically said again that she'll "fix" me.

I also don't like how she tries to get me away from my mother. So I understand where she's coming from. I don't get out much and don't have that much life experience. She's big sis trying to help me live life and I get that. But I don't like comments like "you can't live with "mommy" forever" (that comment felt condescending because we don't have the same mother). She keeps trying to encourage me to move away from my mom .

And I don't understand why. My mother is my best friend. I talked to my mother about what her thoughts were on me moving out and she told me in many cultures the daughter stays home until she gets married. So she doesn't mind doing that with me as long as I'm getting things done around the house, working, going to college, and just having a plan after college. But for some reason my sister doesn't like this.

I'm not sure if my dad told her to tell me those things because he wants me to move too. It's really weird. Anyway, yeah that's my rant. I don't really feel comfortable with getting to know my sister anymore because I feel like she wants to mold me into a mini her and will lead me down a bad path.

Do you have any experiences like this? And whats your thoughts on her behavior?