Men say I’m “too good” for them, and I’m confused....

TheCleanSlates · 2019-11-23T03:20:42+00:00

jesus christ i cant believe i have to explain this to a 41 year old.

"your too good for me" actually means "i dont want to be with you but to minimise drama i am going to blame my own inadequacy as a cop out"

nobody of sound mind would turn down a good deal, there might be a small handful of sensitive men who genuinely are intimidated and scared by having strong feelings for a woman, as real love can lead to real pain, but for the most part if someone is telling you "you are too good" they actually mean "i dont actually want you, but i am being tactful to make it seem like its my fault and not yours"

of course many women eat this shit up and believe they can do no wrong, the same sort of women that think being a headstrong career orientated bitch makes them "too intimidating" to men.

the reality is that men pretty much want the universal kind compassionate sweet feminine type, they basically want what they don't have. men occupy the world of harsh extremes and brutal realities, as a partner they want the idealistic innocent faithful kind and compassionate women who is uncorrupted by the harsh realities of the world.

dont believe me ask yourself this: after a hard days work doing an extreme job like an army medic or something on the cutting edge of extreme performance/reality, would you rather come home to a hard-nosed business woman, or a kind and compassionate caring idealist?

The traditionalist gender exchange is that women provide men with the compassionate naivety and kindness that makes life more tolerable/magical, and men provide women with the reason and security/protection of being tuned into reality.

a classic scene of married life is a man comes homes after a hard days graft doing something that robs his soul of its humanity and its restored by the loving gentle tenderness of the woman, something he cannot get anywhere else, and enriches him as an individual. likewise, the woman benefits from the strong stable mind and character of the husband who brings calm and security to the woman when she loses touch or perspective over something.

both provide and care for the other in the skill unique to them and both are important to each other.

in 2019 though feminists and their supporters have fucked everything up, and made themselves really unattractive prospects that are just not worth investing in.

MrWojak · 2019-11-23T02:56:45+00:00

THUNDERBUTTBALLKICKR · 2019-11-23T03:30:27+00:00

Funny, this reads like a "nice guy" who all the girls say he's a great guy and who they will want to marry eventually while they fuck with the bad boys. She says they say all these nice things to her but won't offer commitment. I'd say they are just being nice and don't want to hurt your feelings while denying you.
Doesn't feel good when the shoe is on the other foot does it? How the turntables

thisisnotreal666 · 2019-11-23T03:49:15+00:00

If she's as good as she claims we can all assume she's dating likewise positioned men ie successful charming Chad types. Why would these prized men want a 41 all down hill woman when they could easily land a hottie half her age?

Stahlboden · 2019-11-23T08:57:49+00:00

There are 3 ages of a woman:

Childhood

Youth

I look young for my age

notanerdlikeu · 2019-11-23T05:24:58+00:00

"I prioritized school/career in my 20s and 30s, thinking I’d meet someone organically."

Yeah, we did the same thing hunny bunny. Nothing wrong with an education. I'm sure she was swarmed with options among her peers... but she had her eye on the upper echelon/powerful men, and ignored the guys on her level.

madriverdog · 2019-11-23T03:55:42+00:00

”nice” == boring af. They are being polite.

Thetrvler · 2019-11-23T09:36:41+00:00

Unless the spouse died, any single woman over 26 is defective. Period.

meerita · 2019-11-23T08:43:44+00:00

Sadly, this woman feels so entitled that she doesn't pick the irony.

The men who say these phrases are afraid of the aggressive responses they (women) usually give when they are rejected. Women are not accustomed to rejection and their first reaction is simply to embarrass you by calling you gay, small penis, bald, fat, ugly, short, etc. an endless number of other disqualifiers that women will use because they think that way you will accept them and you'll accept them and you'll also recognize that you've made a very big mistake. In other words, that they are totally sick and delusional

harharry · 2019-11-23T03:05:36+00:00

“I’m, like, really, like, a catch, buuuuuuuut...”

Well there you go.

FirmFirefighter · 2019-11-23T07:02:13+00:00

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Mundane_Batrachian · 2019-11-23T09:31:36+00:00

JFC.

There's so much here it's difficult to even know where to begin. It sounds like these men are shocked to discover she's 41 and are fumbling for an excuse to call things off.

BluepillProfessor · 2019-11-23T17:11:12+00:00

Yes I am sure that is the entire story. Nothing more to add? Speak up now.

For a start, she admits she is selecting and banging guys on OLD that suddenly flake after the bang. What could possibly be the problem? Hmmm, let's think about who is doing the selecting.

Let me put it in terms that men can understand. Imagine shopping at the grocery store. You are at the bin of apples and it is full to the very top with plump, juicy red apples. Suppose every time you pick out an apple and bring it home it turns out to have a worm.

A man's first thought is, maybe I need to learn to look for worms before selecting the apple. Maybe I need to work on selecting better apples and more importantly NOT selecting bad apples.

A woman's first (and last) thought is, why are all the apples bad? There must be a problem with those apples. What could be wrong with those apples? I'm confused.

RealMcGonzo · 2019-11-23T16:50:43+00:00

She's fat and she's chasing Chads or other men well above her SMV. It's interesting that we see this so often. Funny how you don't read a lot about men saying "Damn, all these super models won't go out with me" LOL. But hamsters are so in control of the female mind that they cannot even imagine that Chad has hundreds of women that are better than her chasing him.

Sumfuc · 2019-11-23T17:54:49+00:00

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TheImpossible1 · 2019-11-23T09:58:18+00:00

They probably didn't want to be falsely accused of rape.

Lurkingnopost · 2019-11-23T23:39:48+00:00

Ya....7/10 from guy friends trying to fuck you. That gas a mininum 3 point modifier to make her feel preety.

Diogenes-- · 2019-11-23T19:59:24+00:00

We're reading her self-description, which I'd happily bet $50 is nothing like reality. She's probably fat and 4/10 despite what she says. And that's just how she looks, she's probably a bitchy feminist and/or entitled & spoiled to boot.

Gotta go guys, I need to buy more cat food stocks.

jihocech · 2019-11-24T20:33:20+00:00

Are "good girls" not sexy too many guys?

You are not a girl anymore!

Title	Men say I’m “too good” for them, and I’m confused....
Author	notanerdlikeu
Upvotes	153
Comments	99
Date	November 23, 2019 1:30 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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