Dear Coleen: I’m pregnant but he’s so cold and won't commit to me

stephcurryftw · 2019-04-06T23:33:10+00:00

Follow up letter in 10 years: Dear Coleen, I settled for a security blanket husband to support me and my child, but I'm still sleeping with my child's real father.

ihateshadylandlords · 2019-04-06T23:30:53+00:00

If he were available and attentive, she would’ve dried up like the Sahara. But naturally Chad wasn’t, so she made sure to get creampied without protection. We really need to bring back single mother shaming so this doesn’t happen anymore.

lorem6300118 · 2019-04-07T00:12:30+00:00

I can't wait for the return of single mother shaming so scum like this can rot on the rubbish tip of human civilisation.

It's a tale as old as time though, isn't it? Nice guy gets ignored, degenerate breeds her and dumps her. She then expects the same nice guy to 'man up' and raise the kid. Fuck off, you useless wastrel.

battyryder · 2019-04-06T23:46:42+00:00

I really cannot fathom the reasoning behind the 'keep a nigga baby', most particularly when the woman concerned knows full well that the dude fucking her has made it clear through lack of commitment that 'HE DOES NOT WANT A CHILD WITH HER'.

But she gets pregnant anyway, then she acts all surprised when he ghosts her.

0kool74 · 2019-04-07T00:17:59+00:00

which is why I keep going back for more, even though he doesn’t treat me very well and has always made it clear he’s not into an exclusive relationship.

The PERFECT representation of Chad! Treat 'em like shit and they'll keep coming back for more.

anon_likes_tendies · 2019-04-07T00:26:52+00:00

Analysis/Translations:

I’ve been seeing a guy on and off for the past two years. We are both 28 and I fancy him like crazy, which is why I keep going back for more, even though he doesn’t treat me very well and has always made it clear he’s not into an exclusive relationship.

Dear Coleen, this guy treats me like dirt, it turns me on to no end, but if I just keep trying, maybe he'll man up and commit to me

He moved to New York for a few months with his job and I visited him once out there for a few days. It was nice for some of the time but, if I’m honest, he wasn’t really bothered whether I was there or not.

I've shown him that his sub par treatment of me is acceptable because I keep coming back for more, but I'm flabbergasted as to why he doesn't worship my mere presence

He abandoned me on a couple of occasions to go out with friends, while I sat in his apartment, and he didn’t even take me to the airport when I was leaving to come home – he just stayed in bed with a hangover. He didn’t even make the effort to call me a cab or say a nice goodbye and I cried for nearly the entire plane journey home.

tingles tingles tingles tingles tingles. I'm hurt but I'm going to go back for more like a moth to the flame

He’s been in touch via email and a couple of times via Skype, and it’s like he has no idea of how his behavior has affected me. He clearly thinks the way he treats me is entirely acceptable.

I can't possibly fathom why he thinks his behavior is anything other than normal/acceptable when I go back for more

I know it probably seems obvious that I should dump him and move on, but after returning to the UK I discovered I was pregnant and now I’m even more confused than ever.

I know Stevie Wonder could see that I should stop being a masochist, but it never stopped me before, and getting knocked up isn't going to change that either. In Carol logic I need to double down on this behavior. Him ignoring our kid is going to supersize the tingles for 18 years

I haven’t told him and I’m in two minds about what to do about the pregnancy. What do you suggest?

I don't know whether to justify my crappy behavior by aborting it, or telling him he's going to be the deadbeat daddy. I can't wait to latch on to some government bennies and a beta male to take care of his kid. But fear not. I know I will go back to him, regardless.

Westernhagen · 2019-04-07T01:37:08+00:00

He clearly thinks the way he treats me is entirely acceptable.

She says, as she accepts his behavior along with his dick.

where_muh_good_mens · 2019-04-07T00:06:16+00:00

but after returning to the UK I discovered I was pregnant and now I’m even more confused than ever. I haven’t told him and I’m in two minds about what to do about the pregnancy. What do you suggest?

Hmm, I could get child support in my home country, or move to his and get his government to pay for me and my child both. Hmm, what to do and with how much...

anon_likes_tendies · 2019-04-07T00:45:41+00:00

Coleen's Response broken down:

OK, you’re not going to want to hear this, but as much as his behavior stinks, he’s been honest from the start about not wanting to be in an exclusive relationship. So, if you think that by telling him you’re pregnant is going to change things and you’ll run off into the sunset together, then you might be disappointed. The odds of him sticking around seem pretty slim from where I’m standing.

Dumbass, she already sounds disappointed. She expected him to wake up and one day and go "Gee Carol, I'm really sorry I've been treating you like dirt, let's get married, have 2.5 kids the volvo and the white picket fence".

Magic 8 ball says "highly unlikely". This isn't some crappy chick flick b-movie or a Nicholas Sparks book. Hollywood, and feminism has made this crap completely unrealistic.

The first thing to do is tell him and see how he reacts – at least give him that – but ultimately the decision is yours. He might be honest straightaway and say he’s not ready for parenthood or an exclusive relationship. Or he might say he’s willing to support the baby if you decide to have it, but that he doesn’t want a committed relationship.

Yes! Because if we double down on the dumbassery, we'll all eventually shape up and fly right. He didn't want to commit, and a kid out of wedlock across the pond isn't going to make him wake up on the other side of the mattress on the floor and change.

Just don’t have unrealistic romantic ideas before you speak to him.

Too late. He's not going to turn down his current pump and (literally) dump (on a plane) lifestyle for some fairy tale romance fresh off the Lifetime Network.

Realistically, if you continue with the pregnancy, you might be a single parent and that’s challenging. It’s also doable – I know lots of amazing single parents – but you’ll have to lean on other people in your life for support.

You'll have to lean on beta males and men you wouldn't have ever fathomed of settling for, because men you like (including Baby Daddy Chaddy), will want nothing to do with you, or your offspring from Mr. Abandonment. The wall is coming. Brace for impact.

Have the discussion whether he wants to be with you or not – after all, you didn’t make this baby on your own.

Yes, lets not only justify the dividends of bad investment, but reward them by passing the blame. We'll not even address the theory of this being a lockdown baby, or just not being responsible with birth control. We won't touch those ideas like you didn't touch men that would actually respect you.

But, given his track record, make sure you prioritize what you want.

Boom! HEADSHOT! It's been made pretty clear that his terrific track record of his relationship behavior is what she truly wants, hence her glorious reward for her predicament.

Coleen should handing out relationship advice at the same rate I should be working at NASA.

alleyteris · 2019-04-07T07:00:54+00:00

So she gets knocked up by a dude who made it cryatal clear that he will not be commiting to her

Boy oh boy when will woman understand that theybare not entitled to anything in life let alone Chads commitment, thats how single mothers are created baaaka!

Bing_Bang_Bam · 2019-04-07T05:26:06+00:00

She probably likes him because he doesn't care about her. Human psychology is ridiculous.

BluepillProfessor · 2019-04-07T15:49:06+00:00

I know how this script ends if she gets her way:

Stage 1: Chad commits. Sex drops from EVERY TIME to whenever she feels like it (1-2 times a week).

Stage 2: They get married and go deeply in debt for the wedding. On the Honeymoon sex drops to 1-2 times / week (it had picked up for a short time right before the wedding but IMMEDIATELY after it drops to 1-2/week). Chad experiences sexual denial and deprivation for the first time in his life.

Stage 3: Chad remains Chad. New mom IMMEDIATELY resents Chad, mercilessly nags Chad, beats down Chad bad mouths Chad, and continues to beret him until he is a mere shell that he once was. Chad doesn't know what has happened. Within a month of the wedding sex is denied more often than it is accepted. Sex drops to once every other week. Chad becomes more despondent and the sex drops further. Chad realizes that his sweet, kind hearted woman is a shrill, screeching harpy shrew. He may even stop initiating and sex will drop to about once a month.

Stage 4: In less than a year Chad has NO friends, no late nights, no parties, no joy, no happiness. The wife is a nagging, vicious cunt and CONSTANTLY berets him, criticizes him and emotionally abuses him. This continues nonstop without any possible end except suicide or infidelity. Sex is once a month, maybe. Chad is dejected and the spiral to a no sex marriage is almost complete.

Stage 5: Can take 1 of 3 forms, usually after years or even decades of constant emotional abuse.

Stage 5A: Chad can cheat, in which case the cycle begins at Stage 1.

Stage 5B: Chad can give up and stop initiating altogether. This is the goal of the woman. His enslavement is complete. He will go to the office every day and come home to a sharp, angry, hateful wife who delights in playing the hide-the-vagina game. He will die alone without family or spouse to comfort him. The family will pretend to cry and say a few nice things about what a good provider/slave he was at the funeral.

Stage 5C: Chad can emotionally withdraw and prepare to either go MGTOW or PUA- but either way he silently removes his emotional validation AND his emotional needs. He treats the wife with the contempt that she deserves. Chad realizes quietly that this woman (or any woman) is never going to satisfy his emotional needs and that he is not loved. He realizes he is nothing but a slave to the woman. He loses all hope. Losing all hope is freedom. Usually the woman responds with kindness and sweet, sexy behavior. He usually slips back to Stage 1 and the cycle repeats over and over again, each time taking less time to return to Stage 4.

BluepillProfessor · 2019-04-07T15:35:18+00:00

The money shot:

tell him and see how he reacts – at least give him that – but ultimately the decision is yours.

ULTIMATELY THE DECISION IS YOURS. YOU GO GIRLLLLZ!!!! YAY GIRL POWER!

SirKolbath · 2019-04-07T16:48:33+00:00

Dear Colleen,

I’m really hung up on this bad boy, I fucked him and got knocked up. Do you think he’ll commit to me now

Signed,

Needs dick in England.

harharry · 2019-04-07T13:14:02+00:00

Dear stupid:

Abort the kid and stop following your pussy. Don’t become a single mom if you care about landing a guy with greater means than you.

Yours truly,

Some redditor.

Pepe_the_Emperor · 2019-04-07T13:18:00+00:00

This is the only guide you need to read to understand the phenomenon of single mothers.

Sid_Insidious · 2019-04-08T02:16:16+00:00

Chad / Tryone won't commit? Stop the presses. She'll soon be on a dating site showing her pregnant belly ...and thirsty betas will take her to IHOP for eggs and tell her what kind of BAD GUY Chad / Tryone is... that they're not like that. (They're worse - they're virtue signalling to try and get a piece of single mom @$$.) Then beta boy will knock her up and HE will be the one wanting to get out of Dodge. Then, she goes after more welfare, more child support, and she's back on the dating sites and GUESS WHAT! Guys are lining up to buy food for a single mother with kids from multiple dads because they be THIRSTY! Takes a village indeed - a village full of horny idiots.

Tex236 · 2019-04-08T12:24:05+00:00

Not committed? Maybe you should have kept THAT in mind before you let him blow his load inside of you without birth control. Your actions have consequences...

RegiusGeralt · 2019-04-08T04:09:39+00:00

More like chadding his way out of here.

RealMcGonzo · 2019-04-09T01:10:36+00:00

He clearly thinks the way he treats me is entirely acceptable.

Wow, there's a truism. He thinks it because it's clearly true. He accepts it and she keeps cuming (heh) back for more.

Title	Dear Coleen: I’m pregnant but he’s so cold and won't commit to me
Author	anon_likes_tendies
Upvotes	104
Comments	41
Date	April 6, 2019 7:00 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/ba7ox5/dear_coleen_im_pregnant_but_hes_so_cold_and_wont/
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