FDS made me realize my dad is LVM and I swore to myself that I would never date someone like him

wagonwheel_ · 2020-12-31T19:51:23+00:00

Get your degree and a brilliant job. Buy your mom nice things when you can, and make sure it’s nothing your father can sell/return/use. When your father inevitably asks why he isn’t getting nice things, tell him that as long as he can’t afford to buy his WIFE a nice gift, he doesn’t get to have a nice gift.

2020-12-31T20:04:57+00:00

I am sorry to hear about this entire situation. Your dad was not funny for making a joke about beating you up. It's not even a joke and he was being passive agressive because you could see through his bs. Anyways, keep working hard for yourself and loving and valuing yourself always. I know its hard right now because you are not financially stable yet. But once you are, you will be able to set boundaries more firmly with him. I wish you the best of luck.

99power · 2020-12-31T20:20:26+00:00

Kick him in the nuts next time he makes one of those jokes. You’re better than him and you’re gonna find someone more worth your time, whether that’s you or a HVM.

dzgata · 2020-12-31T22:31:10+00:00

Wow he just stopped at 42, this is why we must be willing to leave a man no matter how deep into a marriage we get. They can do a complete 180 on you.

scritchandsnaff · 2020-12-31T20:27:44+00:00

I also went through the experience of realizing my dad was very much a LVM. It sucks, and I have no respect for him, but I find comfort in knowing I'm my own person and his actions don't represent me in any way.

Build your life in a way that best suits you, and If you ever wanna distance yourself from him I'm telling you that's completely fine. I hope you find lots of value in yourself.

AyemHerself · 2021-01-01T05:05:13+00:00

I was also a "daddy's girl" growing up and my father is a downright NVM. Lazy, apathetic, addicted mess who barely contributed to my and my brothers' upbringing. I think it's common for kids to bond to the more LV parent, and the common denominator is likely the lack of responsibilities. My mom was always the "stricter" parent who made sure we got good grades, got fed, did our chores, etc. My dad was the "fun" one who let things slide when he was in a good mood and told jokes that were funny when you're eight years old.

RabidWench · 2021-01-01T15:57:16+00:00

I'm curious as which alternate universe your parents are living in, where you would be a Daddy's Girl. He threatened you with physical violence. I would tell him in no uncertain terms that the first time he laid a hand on me, a police report would be filed and his delinquent derelict ass would never hear from me again. How the hell your mother puts up with that is beyond me because there is NO quality good enough to compensate for a person threatening my offspring (or anyone - massive deal breaker) with violence. Ever.

Title	FDS made me realize my dad is LVM and I swore to myself that I would never date someone like him
Author	asian-daughter
Upvotes	118
Comments	7
Date	December 31, 2020 6:33 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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