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After finally dumping my ex of 2 years, I decided that I will never again entertain a man who regularly watches porn. This article perfectly sums up my reasoning.

bluemexicanblanket

December 31, 2020

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https://medium.com/@tesiablake/why-i-prefer-a-guy-whos-seen-porn-over-a-guy-who-watches-porn-7f45a0ccb88b

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Title	After finally dumping my ex of 2 years, I decided that I will never again entertain a man who regularly watches porn. This article perfectly sums up my reasoning.
Author	bluemexicanblanket
Upvotes	174
Comments	18
Date	December 31, 2020 4:45 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/knj4s6/after_finally_dumping_my_ex_of_2_years_i_decided/
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[–]vmuzondiFDS Disciple63 points64 points65 points 5 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link

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There is a lot to dissect here. This article seems to be promoting porn as a great place to learn how to have sex, that has the side effect of ED and low effort in bed, not to mention, promotes the lie that porn usage should be treated as something so normal that it's a matter of how much porn someone watches. Let's take a few examples.

"and maybe still goes back to it once or twice a year when sex with a partner, for some reason or another, becomes scarce. " (Regarding porn usage.)

No HVM will "go back to porn". And the lie that all men watch porn, therefore this is what you have to settle for. There is no reason you want a guy who's seen porn over a guy who hasn't. Just because they aren't a complete addict doesn't mean that they aren't still fuelling an industry that is heavily complicit in the trafficking of millions of women worldwide. Not every man watches porn, even if a lot do, and we don't have to put up with men who watch porn whenever sex is scarce. We aren't looking to add the lesser evil to our lives; we're only going to add something or someone good. You don't want some sleaze who's constantly in relationships for sex either. If he's constantly having sex with women and jerking off whenever he's not getting any, he's not HVM.

"A guy who’s seen porn might come up with a position or two you’ve never heard of before — but that’s actually more pleasurable than you’d expect at first glance. "

A true HVM don't replace creativity with porn, and understands that the positions used in porn are highly performative. He would also not pressure you into a position that you don't think is pleasurable "at first glance".

"A guy who’s seen porn can usually hold on until you both get there. "

Nothing to say here. Congratulations, he doesn't have ED. Far below bare minimum.

"A guy who’s seen porn might touch parts of you no one has ever touched before — and make it feel good."

No chance. In porn, in how many videos do they actually focus on the pleasure of anyone but the male. Not to mention how many times they find the clit and use it (hint hint: If you guessed never, you're right). If he's actually doing that, it may be that you've just had very disappointing sex experiences.

"A guy who’s seen porn is usually better in bed because he’s done it more often than he’s seen it done... practice makes perfect"

It also puts them at higher chances for STDs that could threaten your health. Not to mention, not every woman is a cut and paste of every other woman. Having seen porn does nothing to better your performance in bed; it can only worsen it.

The porn industry is inherently wrong because it relies on the commodification of people's, specifically women's bodies and any man who does not understand that is a LVM at best and a total NVM at worst.

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my main reason is that, realistically, almost every person, male or female, has seen pornography in some shape or form. but the difference for me is actively looking for and consuming porn vs. having seen it in the past or very very occasionally.

ive seen porn before and fucking hated it; i absolutely do see it as exploitation. however, i also recognize that some forms of it are less demeaning than others, like onlyfans versus pornhub for example. even though it would be a complete deal breaker if the guy im seeing is subscribed to an onlyfans, in most cases the women who post on there are choosing to do so and aren’t being forced and their subscribers pay a monthly fee that goes almost directly to the girl. whereas pornhub is 1000000% exploiting and traumatizing women and girls consistently.

actively consuming any kind of porn on the regular is not ok with me, but (almost) everybody has seen porn before

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