I would advice any beta who is seeking for LTR to avoid Alpha Widow in a wide circle. I was a beta in relationship with AP I wouldn't recommend anyone to try to build a relationship with a person who will consider you second best, her backup plan, spare tire... you get the point.

Now I had met this new Alpha Widow who got interested in me and immediately my survival instincts took over so I pulled up the good old wall (more like a fort) from my old life and kept her at the distance.

That did the opposite of what I was hoping for and she is even more interested (probably thinking I'm some mysterious guy) and this wall did gave me time and space to gather info analyse the situation and think things through .

She is certainly a good material to just fuck, and she would be a good material for LTR IF she wasn't an Alpha Widow. So the problem is the fact that she is Alpha Widow, and I'm not wiling to be anyone's second best. Her Chad? They were both students they were in a relationship, and they had tons of fun. She graduated, he didn't, parent's stop sending money, and the fun stoped. So she moved on. Now she is seeking for security, and would even settle with a beta.

Now I am a good LTR material I could go straight for a LTR with her but that would be a baaaaad idea. Why?

Let's say I do that. He has provided fun to her, I would provide "benefits". Once she gets herself comfortable and starts taking her security as granted she will remember all the fun that she had with Chad. And in LTR I can't provide her at the same time with benefits and equal or better fun. Not only that but she is going to pedestal him, forget about all bad things and in her fantasies she will remember having 2x more fun.

I do not like that game one bit. :/ But I had thought of another game :)

The challenge is to be better then Chad at his own game. Have ton's of fun and f... her brains out. All those benefit things are not just there for the tanking. I had built those things for myself, and if she want's a piece of it she will have to lock me down. And I do not intend to make it easy for her.

Share your thought's, good advice would be appreciated.