I'm truly struggling - in tears as I write this. Just had our first born several days ago, male, and against my wishes, wife had him circumcised, well, the wife and her mother - I told her I'm against it on many occasions - her response was, its my fault, I should have gave more explanation or reason.

It's one of the things I wanted to share as a bond with him, to be uncut. Not to take anything away from those who are circumcised but its one of the things I'm proud of, being uncut that is, I would have gladly shown him how to care for himself as he got older.

I'm heartbroken in more ways than I can express right now, feels like I've failed him as I had to hear the screams of other infants in the same area. The lack of apology, remorse or anything from her is something I'm not sure if I can forgive. I can feel anger in everything I do, this is not healthy - how could she?