Alright, I will hear you out.

SeemedGood · 2017-02-26T04:17:30+00:00

You're not going to find this a friendly open forum where people care about how you feel. That's not how men operate with each other, and this is a men's space.

There's a lot of anger and frustration that gets vented here and there's good reason for that. If you're at all honestly self-observant, then you know that women objectify men and treat all but a very few men very poorly. Many (if not most) of us have had our souls defecated upon by women at least once, and cleaning some woman's feces off of your soul with a toothbrush isn't fun and doesn't generate good vibes. So we come here partially to vent, but more importantly to become more aware of ourselves, share experiences, and figure out what works to have satisfying relationships with women (satisfying from our point of view).

In the process many of us find a means to expand our consciousness and improve ourselves. Usually the result of that is that we stop caring about what you (women) think and say and occasionally react to what you do. Consequently, you (women) treat us better.

As for advice that will help you if you care to improve your situation:

Slow your roll. You've come here with a hefty dose of attitude and absolutely no humility, didn't bother to read the sidebar, and as a result violated protocol and custom with a whiny and entitled request for help to explain stuff you'd already know if you bothered to do the slightest bit of discovery. Not a smart way to "enter the lion's den." Maybe you think it's cute? It's not.
We can't solve your issues and there is no answer here for you, or anywhere external to yourself. You're unhappy because you're being led around through your life by your ego. It's got a giant ring through your nose. Try re-reading your post with some objective self-observation and honest self-criticism if you'd like to get a look at the ring and the lead. You're unhappy because you've been living your life unconsciously for the most part and you haven't bothered to have the curiosity and do the work to fix that by expanding your consciousness. Sounds like you've made a bunch of decisions that haven't worked out as you'd hoped, but rather than really look inwards with some objectivity you've externalized your enemies. Your ego is your enemy and you will not be able to be happy until you master it.

Pro Tip: If you want to get a running start to mastering your ego, drop the idea that you're a victim of anything but your own choices and lack of responsibility. That'll probably be tough because your post reads as if you have a lot of your identity invested in the idea that your group and certain other groups are victims of some other group(s). If you just focus on completely eliminating that idea from your way of thinking about yourself or others you'll be amazed at the power you'll gain to direct your life in a way that actually makes you happy.

MattyAnon · 2017-02-26T14:39:08+00:00

I did use my privilege to get primary custody of my son

Thankyou for admitting that female privilege is so big.

. I voted for Hillary and generally stand up for "women's rights" I don't use the word feminist but gender equality

Gender equality but when it comes down to it, you use your female privilege to get custody.

This is not equality you know - this is "equality with special treatment", the same thing women always want.

What I want to know redpill, is why am I still unhappy? Single? Alone? What is the missing piece for me. How can your ideology transform my behavior/thinking/life course? I'm up for any suggestions. What would you do to make me the perfect redpill wife?

What is missing is that you have fallen for society's belief that equality means you should be a man. You're trying to be a man - career, competing, fighting for equality (which is really fighting for special treatment), etc.

Working with kids is good, you are unhappy because you are not being lead by a strong man. Women avoid responsibility and too much responsibility makes them unhappy.

At 31, with something of a victim complex and more critically a child from a previous marriage - you are not the best option available for the very small percentage of men who have thrown off the shackles of our society and know how to truly lead and own a relationship and a family.

Worse than that - informed men know that the laws of our land are against them and behave accordingly. Women have managed to (legally enforced) combine male obligation with female freedom (ie alimony, child support, tax dollars supporting women more than men, the list goes on).

You'll do what women always do: fuck Chad, try to make a relationship with with Chad, then settle down to marry Billy Beta.

The only way to get better is to slightly compromise on the Chaddiness earlier in life and lock down a guy who is somewhat alpha and somewhat beta - before the best guys wise up about society and women. This is a lesson that women learn way too late in life, when it's too late.

Unless you're super hot or incredibly charming you're just gonna have to suck it up and marry some beta. It sure isn't going to be me.

What would you do to make me the perfect redpill wife?

See, this is the point. Marrying you would be a terrible idea. Marriage itself is a terrible fucking idea. Adopting someone else's child is a bad genetic strategy for anyone, and that translates into you not fully respecting a man who does it.

Also inherent in your question is "what would the man do to give me what I want" rather than "what can I do".

While masquerading as female humility, your post is full of all the same lack of responsibility, demands, privilege, selfishness and responsibility-shifting that women always do and that has landed society in the mess that it's now in.

Raise your kid. Have boyfriends. Ask yourself "what can I do" and "what can I be" rather than making further demands of men. You won't listen, but that's what you should do to be happier.

Cedulus · 2017-02-26T03:01:21+00:00

Go to / r / RedPillWomen. Your place is there.

RedEyesBlueShades · 2017-02-26T03:19:31+00:00

What I want to know redpill, is why am I still unhappy? Single? Alone?

You answered yourself:

stand up for "women's rights" I don't use the word feminist but gender equality it's not a subject I shy away from. I'm career oriented and I'm good at my job.

What this tells me is that you're likely a pain to be with. You nag and you moan that your partner needs to do this or that because it's not the patriarchy anymore. No RP man wants to listen to that shit.

What is the missing piece for me. How can your ideology transform my behavior/thinking/life course? I'm up for any suggestions. What would you do to make me the perfect redpill wife?

Start thinking of me, the man, and stop focusing on you and your rights. And your feelings, I'm not your shrink nor your emotional toilet. And if you ever manage to go so far as to see that women were always the privileged gender, even when 'sexually oppressed by the patriarchy', then maybe you'll be RP wife material.

Oh, and don't forget to take care of yourself physically, you are getting older but the 21yr olds are always 21.

BMeyerBA · 2017-02-26T03:04:37+00:00

If all of the super helpful guys are asleep right now, I'd recommend going to redpillwomen or redpillmarried. Their ideas may be a little more harder to grasp because they promote submissiveness, (plenty of ppl are instantly offended) so if you're willing to take that kind of advice, go there.

darknes66 · 2017-02-26T05:48:25+00:00

I'm always looking for a new plate if you're in the northern part of San Diego. Think of it as an interview process

Mr-Ed209 · 2017-02-26T07:52:05+00:00

Look at yourself honestly and what you can do differently in the future to achieve what will make you realistically happy.

What do you put as the reasons that your marriage broke down?

How will you ensure that you don't realise too late that your future partner is a 'child'. He might have done stuff wrong who are we to know, but you ultimately decided to marry the guy - so you have fault in that.

What do you feel at this point of your life would constitute a healthy attributes in a partner? e.g -Provider -Companion -Great sex

The problem you face as a 31 year old divorcee is you're now experiencing the shift whereby desirable males your age are becoming flooded with options they never had age 22. That guy with the stable job, nice house maybe even kids of his own. Has single women from 25 - 45 lining up to want to date to him. Welcome to every mans life up until this point. Everyone you are interested in is being competed for by everyone else fierce. You're going to have to start 'putting yourself out there' and approaching guys who you think you could make it work with. It's gonna suck to meet eligible guys who you could very well make a great wife/step mother for, only to realise they ain't the least bit interested in 'settling down' now they can have their play of the field. Deal with it, we did and now it's your turn.

abbafishhead · 2017-02-26T08:49:16+00:00

You're single and alone, because you're above 30 and have a kid in tow. If you're overweight, you've compounded your weaknesses, but even if you aren't you aren't starting out with the best set of circumstances.

Why would any desirable/high-value man settle down with you, when he has an endless supply of young, fit, childless options to go for? If you're so desperate to get married again, you'll be looking at the less-desirable men (e.g. older, poorer, possibly autistic) whose best option is a divorcee with a kid who's in her thirties.

Not many men would raise a kid that's not his own, not even the beta cucks that are so common within the male population.

TL;DR You're damaged goods. You can't unmarry, you can't unborn your child, and you can't unturn thirty. Lower your standards (seriously, you have to stoop way lower than you think) or deal with singlehood for life.

grewapair · 2017-02-26T03:22:24+00:00

You obviously don't understand red pill rule number 1 : don't get married. So the perfect red pill wife doesn't exist.

Second, the least desirable women are over 30 and with a child. You're both. You aren't going to be anywhere perfect no matter what you do.

So my best advice to you is to adopt cats. 9 or 10 of them. Then chant your women's rights slogans to them. The rest of us couldn't care less.

SLMC1 · 2017-02-26T03:09:06+00:00

Your attractiveness is going to be hands down the most important factor in your life generally. If you are overweight, basically no other consideration is worth addressing until you're fit. This is true of men but perhaps a little less so.

The doors that will be open to you if you're attractive are great. It will make the difference for you for the rest of your life. Do not underestimate it.

If you want to get married, you'll want to cultivate personality attributes that men find desirable in a wife: gratitude, generosity, etc. Then, meet guys and demonstrate those attributes. The bar is so low here, that it is stupid-simple to be in the top 5 percent in this regard. If I took a girl out and she texted me after and said "That was really fun. Thanks for spending time with me! Hopefully we'll get to see each other again soon" my mind would be blown the fuck open. It is quite rare to encounter true sweetness in women today.

RP "ideology" in my opinion is really about providing and expecting value. If you want a handsome, rich husband, you're going to want to get in fucking fantastic shape and cultivate desirable personality traits. The sheer fact that the vast majority of women don't deliberately pursue that course, which is why women are generally unhappy, makes you poised to really be in the top 5 percent of women without too much difficulty.

Mangoinhand · 2017-02-26T20:17:01+00:00

Perfect redpill wife? Does not exist.

Signing a one-sided agreement with the government does not make sense for strong men (as the laws are currently written)

Perhaps you mean Common Law married?

For starters:

excellent and voracious deep throating skills
no drama (perhaps 20 seconds of drama is acceptable once a year)
loves to cook and feed a man
be attractive and fit
accept that he will bang FWB's on the side and give him no drama over it
give him the kids he desires (if any)

That would be a great start.

MrTyler_Durden · 2017-02-26T17:28:19+00:00

Stop fighting for women's rights and spend more time making yourself desirable so that some alpha male will come scoop you up. You'll feel happy then. A lot of guys are saying that you need to accept that your alpha is fucking other women but I disagree. There are plenty of alpha males out there who won't go astray if you show good behavior 99% of the time.

Title	Alright, I will hear you out.
Author	serendipitydoodaa
Upvotes	0
Comments	39
Date	February 26, 2017 2:58 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5w82iw/alright_i_will_hear_you_out/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/alright-i-will-hear-you-out.41234 https://theredarchive.com/post/41234

Comments