Better Late than Never: Unplugging and Self-Improving at 31

NoodleeAppendage · 2017-04-15T01:56:56+00:00

You're taking the right steps dude! One thing I've learned in my life (given I'm in my early 20s) is that if you do things for the sake of impressing someone else (i.e. women) you aren't going to stick with it or give it as much effort as you would if you're doing it for yourself. Good luck bud!

Mangoinhand · 2017-04-16T00:09:21+00:00

I'm 33 and only took TRP last year. No regrets. Life actually gets better in your 30's.

I keep getting older, but they stay the same age!

scissor_me_timbers00 · 2017-04-15T14:47:28+00:00

31 ain't even old. Especially for men, lots of guys don't grow out of their boyishness til about 30. And with your "type", the thinker, at least you developed your mind and now you're entering the world with a deeper character. As long as you keep your health robust and your mind sharp and optimistic, you can make up for that "missed potential". I'm not quite your age but I also spent majority of my 20s overdeveloping my intellect. At least i have a much better tool for thinking than majority of society though.

NotMyBestEffort · 2017-04-15T08:09:31+00:00

You will probably live a lot longer than you anticipate - keep working like you have 50 years to go - while recognizing that you could perish at any time.

Mckallidon · 2017-04-16T18:39:29+00:00

It's not that. I had tons of pussy in my twenties and still had the same problem. Oneitus is the result of you basing your self worth on how she validates it. It's a goal that gets you nowhere. It's insanity because it sets you on the path of repeating this, never getting g what you need, being worse off and more reliant on your shitty life strategy because it's renewed by continued decline.

Guys that feel like they're accomplishing and improving don't need female validation. They validate themselves. You have to focus on yourself to the point that not just any woman is a lifestyle upgrade. When you're at the point where most women are a liability, you'll never have oneitus. You'll start being like "how do I get all these catfarming whores away from me?"

Read sidebar. Read handbook. Def the handbook. Best of the best. I lurked for years before I read it and it did more for me in 5 days than two years of random lurking because it's comprehensive and builds on Itself. Other aspects of TRP reinforce each other so each time you strengthen one you strengthen the rest.

The most important lesson of all: fuck women = fuck more women. Give zero fucks what they think. They don't even care what they think. Worry about what you think. They're more worried about that than what they think. When you're truly in touch with and satisfied with yourself you're far more attractive than any other more superficial improvement. You can have everything but confidence and you're boned. Real confidence is intrinsic in nature. False confidence depends on other people's validation to temporarily inflate a false ego.

aigamithite · 2017-04-15T04:50:05+00:00

Maybe I can help, since what you are describing yourself as like my other half of the puzzle i.e. we more or less started on the same point but I excel in what you don't and you excel in what I suck at. I am a bit younger however and almost done with graduate school (STEM).

In any case, building credit is easy if you don't overextend; keep receipts if you can to track what you spend. Make a table of all your unavoidable expenses. These should be:

Food (groceries only)
Rent
Insurance
Transportation

Everything else can potentially go, meaning nights out, clothes, fast food, new tv, you name it. After you have your absolutely necessary expenses down, depending on the amount of money remaining, you can distribute a portion of it to the less important ones.

Depending on how much you make, I would try to save 20% of your income for a start. Out of that, 50% could go to some small time investments (I am in favor of index, options or a fund). Options could be a bit tricky, since they require monitoring and some experience, but they can generate a steady return of 5 to 10% yearly if you are willing to do research and put in some work. Index is the safest and tends to give a much better yearly return than a savings account. Funds (mutuals) have higher returns than indices but they involve a tad more risk. Personally I prefer funds. There's a lot of reading behind all these, and I am a novice myself, since my income as a graduate student does not allow me for much maneuverability yet. A good place to start would be interactive brokers or ameritrade. There is some good advice on red pill for personal finance, and a ton of information around the internet. Most important step however, is to make sure that until you make real money, you should cut down on unnecessary expenses. Spending 10 $ for lunch at work might not seem much, but with 20$ you can make lunch at home and bring it with you (+ hone your cooking skills), and it saves a lot of money in the long run. Same with eating pizzas etc. These things sound ridiculous I know, but you will slowly (on a yearly timescale) accumulate money.

When you say you are looking for professional education do you have anything specific in mind? Something like an MBA? Since you are also looking to change jobs and get education at the same time, you could give it a shot and apply for an internship. I know it might suck having to compete with college kids, but probably you can do their job better, and if you play your cards right, secure a position. Have the same abundance mentality as with women; keep throwing nets till you catch fish. The more nets, the bigger the chances. If a company things that your skills are indispensable they can pay for additional education if it suits their purpose. Do some research first though; make sure you can sell yourself as the ideal match for whatever position you apply. Play on all your strong points academic or social.

For the rent part, maybe you could get a roommate to share the costs or move somewhere cheaper. If the roommate happens to be Chad, he can also greatly expand your potential plates.

Hope this helps even in the slightest; even if a single point is of help to you, it's a success. Otherwise if it's garbage the red pill gods will downvote me to death as I deserve.

alexplex86 · 2017-04-17T13:37:35+00:00

Wow, this was almost like reading about myself. I'm at the same age as you and I too feel like I wasted my twenties. Only recently have I discovered that life as a single is better for me and that I want to work to improve every aspect of my life. I have achieved most of that today, great job, great confidence.

The only thing that is left for me now is to work on my body and life style. I found this to be the hardest part because I tend to be lazy. I'm trying to lift at least twice a week.

Keep working on yourself and eventually you will get what you want. Your whole life is ahead of you and its never ever to late.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-04-16T15:23:46+00:00

Any advice would be appreciated.

Life After 30: How to Be an Old Guy

j2d4 · 2017-04-15T23:38:34+00:00

I've got one year on you. I've had 0 luck so far with the hot 18-22 or the early to mid 20s set.

Really interested to see how you get on with this.

Only recommendation I have is a disciplined meditation routine, at least twice daily, vipissana or other.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2017-04-17T11:46:02+00:00

I discovered TRP some time ago, and it had vastly improved my life. It takes time for everything to really sink in and become natural but once it does you truly stop giving a fuck about other people. Self improvement leads to confidence, confidence leads to more self improvement, and that makes you attractive. Spinning plates was fun for awhile, but these days women bore me. I've removed lots of toxicity from my life and I'm a better person for it. Stay the path brother. It only gets better.

Title	Better Late than Never: Unplugging and Self-Improving at 31
Author	Dark_Caesar
Upvotes	40
Comments	21
Date	April 14, 2017 11:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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