How should I handle this?

socal83 · 2013-05-17T04:51:37+00:00

no you should definitely marry her and then let her get obese, become addicted to drugs, hang out with strange guys, and spend all your money.

StrOuttaAlphaville · 2013-05-17T05:32:19+00:00

"hey guys should i marry this ugly girl i fucking hate?"

AlwaysLateToThreads · 2013-05-17T05:11:32+00:00

Follow your heart.

2013-05-17T04:47:31+00:00

Pretty sure you answered your own question.

RedSunBlue · 2013-05-17T04:50:39+00:00

Dump her and have a bunch of our family and friends hate me

You know what to do.

Plus, who gives a fuck if her family hates you? You already dumped her.

halfbloodprinceton · 2013-05-17T05:09:10+00:00

Here's how you get the best of both worlds: 1. Don't marry her for chrissakes don't marry her. 2. Start dealing the drugs she does.

I guarantee you you'll have all the benefits you had before and more!

EvilCuttlefish · 2013-05-17T05:29:05+00:00

You are starting to alpha up. However you are still not doing the right thing for yourself because it may be hard for you. I think you still got some beta in you.

halfbloodprinceton · 2013-05-17T04:56:40+00:00

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2013-05-17T05:20:20+00:00

Are you serious man? The only way this could get any clearer is she was sucking off those guys on your couch and telling you that they're gay whenever she takes a break or is wiping her mouth.

I expected some more passive-aggressive, manipulative bullshit.

In any case, you know what to do. Forget cheating about her. She doesn't even have the security of "marriage", and she's already acting out. It's all downhill from here, I bet.

DaddyMonster · 2013-05-17T13:32:13+00:00

I interpret the OP as:

"I'm starting to come around, but could you gents here at TheRedPill give me the proverbial kick in the ass to go all the way? The consequences of what I actually want and need to do are daunting. Tally ho."

Just do it. It'll probably suck for a while, but in the long term you're guaranteed to be better off.

acousticnumber3 · 2013-05-17T05:44:23+00:00

In situations like this it's good to discern whether you are legitimately conflicted on the inside or whether the conflict is between what you know you truly want and what you've been told to want. Your post makes it rather obvious. OP, have the strength and the courage to follow your wants and desires, expectations be damned. That is what a true man is made of. You get no do-overs in this life, so you damn well better shoot for the moon this time around.

rebuildingMyself · 2013-05-17T12:08:40+00:00

You don't mention your age, but I imagine you to be in your 20's. Your SMV is rising and continuing to rise (Since gaining this confidence I've noticed a lot more girls in the 7-9 range paying attention to me). Hers is falling and falling fast. I would NEVER marry a druggie woman I rate as a 5. A woman WILL NOT GET MORE ATTRACTIVE, ONLY LESS!

Odds are she's cheating on you while the risks of getting caught aren't as severe (she's too stupid to realize she still wins if you divorce because she was a whore).

Don't worry about the consequences of ending it. It's over already. She's not fit to be a good wife, mother of your hypothetical children, or partner. The benefits of you ending it far outweigh any costs. So your future-ex's family hate you. They already hate you for all you know. Fuck 'em. Your family is YOUR family. They will take your side no matter what (unless they are assholes then their opinions don't matter anyway). Friends? Time to find out which ones are really your friends. Every now and then, you have to clean out the kitchen cabinet because there's expired goods in there.

makeyoucry · 2013-05-17T04:48:03+00:00

That's fucked...... I say call it off. Anyway, good Luck!

StuffBetweenThings · 2013-05-17T05:24:49+00:00

Get away from your main influences for a bit, and take stock. You need time to re-asses more than a potential shitty marriage - call the wedding off asap but do everything clearly with a safe contingency plan for your well-being.

Be aware that you are not going to be respected in the slightest in this scenario no matter which way it goes - might as well do the thing that's best for you long term and end it before it gets worse.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2013-05-17T09:38:22+00:00

If you marry this girl and it all goes horribly wrong, nobody will have any compassion for you. It will be your decision and your responsibility. You will also pay the price alone, and have to fix it all by yourself.

She, her family and friends, nobody at all will help with any of it. It is all on you.

Your FIRST responsibility is to yourself. Don't let any family, friends or internet strangers tell you different.

StrOuttaAlphaville · 2013-05-17T19:57:03+00:00

Eject NOW. Pick up that phone, call whoever you need to to call it off, and deal with the shit now.

If you think the little bit of shit that you'll have to deal with now is a turnoff, go ask for divorce stories in /r/mensrights -- that's the alternative.

I was in a similar situation, except the part where I never got around to alphaing up until after the divorce 10 years later. It's seductively easy to go along with what other people expect of you, even when you know it's not a good idea. Take it from someone on the otherside of that shithole of a marriage, it's not somewhere you want to go.

Bobsutan · 2013-05-17T11:20:27+00:00

End it. You'll thank us later.

itsmehobnob · 2013-05-17T15:24:45+00:00

Make sure you get the ring back before breaking up with her.

TehGinjaNinja · 2013-05-17T15:55:07+00:00

Why are you even asking this question? The answer is obvious: don't marry her. Even in Beta-world calling off a wedding because you've fallen out of love with you drug abusing fiancée is completely legit. Just dump her and get on with your life.

MdPhdVictor · 2013-05-17T20:55:21+00:00

Dump her immediately don't ever get close to her again change apartments or house if you have to. Run to another State she will probably try to sue you for every penny you have but nothing good can come from staying with her. RUN AWAY

CircleJerkAmbassador · 2013-05-18T02:43:44+00:00

Marry and cheat. If she really wants your attention, she should have to work at it. A 5 can always spruice up a bit. Plus if you're marrying her out of "love" she should be able to have the alphaness to out do any other 7-9. Flirt with other girls and see how she reacts. If she's not willing to up her game, she's not worth it at all.

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-05-17T06:49:59+00:00

Hang out with "lesbians."

If SHE breaks it off, you're not an asshole, you get sympathy. Although I really wouldn't have qualms about being the asshole in this situation. It just shows you have balls. They will secretly respect you for that.

Ragnar09 · 2013-05-18T18:11:44+00:00

Dump the bitch already

chikinpickle · 2013-05-19T04:53:27+00:00

Dump the fuck out of her. This is the best shes ever going to be.

Ive seen this before dude its not a good situation.

GlennBeckAmerica · 2013-07-25T18:34:18+00:00

Set the phaser to Alpha, and abort. Dump, dump, dump. If you're not happy, FUCK HER and leave it. Your happiness is the most important thing.

2013-05-17T14:23:21+00:00

OK so if you end it now, you don't lose money, but family will be pissed off. If you divorce her in two years, which is probably the max you can take, you can give the we really tried but sadly it did not work out sob story to your family who will be probably understanding, but you will probably lose money. So you need to ask yourself two questions, first, how pissed will be family, how big a problem would it be to you, if you end it now. Second, can you prenup and whatever so that the divorce does not cost you much in two years?

If you think your mom would disown you if you break up now, but you can divorce at 0 cost because you can blackmail her with the drug use or something, go on... if you think family will be a bit angry but will accept it and the divorce would cost, break up now.

But really, I think you should just tell her drug habit to your family and they won't have a problem if you break up now. Sure mom was trying on clothes and haircuts in the last 3 months and will feel kinda let down, but she would never want drug addict daughter in law, that is sure.

Title	How should I handle this?
Author	StrOuttaAlphaville
Upvotes	15
Comments	40
Date	May 17, 2013 4:40 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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