How should a woman in our ideal society "behave".

I saw a woman ask this question on this sub, and felt I needed to reply, but comments were locked. Here is my reply.

I read the title and all I could think of was the closing line from Rambo. "I would like my country to love me as much as I love it". Something like like that. I don't know about how a woman should "behave", but every interaction I've ever had with a woman from my mother on down has been this "I love you as long as it benefits me to do so". A not so brief rundown.

My mother got pregnant by her HS sweetheart at 16 married him and had my sister. 8 years later got pregnant with me despite being on birth control (the coil). Wanted an abortion and my grandparents agreed to raise me if she had me so she did. My father was a substance abusing car thief who cheated on her, but she stayed with him until his life caught up with him and he died when I was 11. We all lived together with my grandparents, and he wasn't dead a month before my mother moved in with her boyfriend, I stayed with my grandparent's. My mother went on to make something of herself working her way up on Wall St. in the early 80's from a secretary, and retired from her position as the VP of a major international bank a few years back a millionairess. Saw to all of her financial responsibilities for me, my needs were always met, but never an ounce of affection, compassion, or concern. I always looked at my friends mothers and how they treated them, and wanted the same for myself, never cv happened. I always tried to be a good kid, I got good grades, stayed out of trouble, and asked for very little. Now she's in her 70's, calls me all the time to chat because she has nothing else to do (I used to hear from her once every couple of months), ends the calls with "I love you". Needs me to be the executor of her will and so forth because my sister is a trainwreck. I'll do it, but I told her I don't want a cent of her money. Tells me lately that she wants to have a better relationship with my kids (now teens) whom she only sees twice a year on birthdays and Chistmass to give them a card stuffed with cash.

My sister: Daddy's little girl, for all his faults he was a nice guy who treated my sister and I with love. After he died my mother pushed my sister to marry her 18 year old boyfriend who got thrown out of his house for doing drugs and joined the airforce. She moved with him to California, got divorced, married another loser, moved home had 2 kids, another divorce, single mom ever since. Now my sister has the ability to pick up guys that borders on a superpower. Shes not especially good looking, but she has a charm that cant be taught and reels them in. I call her the enchantress. She usually has 2 or 3 boyfriends at any give time (I could never pull this off I'd get caught). She mercilessly used the good guys. If the House needs work she dates and uses a contractor. If she's tight on cash she finds a wealthy man to bankroll her. Legal issues, she finds a lawyer. When she doesn't need them any more they're gone. The ones she catches the feels for though are the unemployed alcoholics, the abusive muscle heads, the sick junkies. These guys get moved into the house to be around the kids. Both grown and moved out now thankfully, and want little to do with her. That and an ever growing menagerie of animals that she barely cares for.

Every grade school and HS crush: I like girl, I find out that girl likes me. We go on one or 2 dates, fool around a little, girl gets bored and moves on, and moves on and moves on.

First serious relationship: I was 17 she was 24. She was my first real LTR, first fuck. She was still living at home, I helped her find a place, helped her with cash (I worked 3 part time jobs while going to school not for her sake but I was always a worker) After a year and a half when she was in a better place she turned on me suddenly and became cruel. I found out she was cheating on me with a 16 year old. I was devastated, but got over it. We reconnected recently. She's been divorced a number of times, and is currently married to a man who is mentally disabled. She tells me she attracted to innocence, and her husband mentally perpetually a child, though she is tired of always having to take care of him. He's functional and has a job, but needs supervision.

My wife: Met her in college. She was 18 and living in a basement room putting herself through school. Her parents threw her out. They were from a conservative Muslim culture and wanted to marry her off. She worked, hard. She was lanky, dorky, and wore her brothers hand me clothes as she had no money to buy stuff of her own. We went to college together. I moved her in with me. She graduated and got a masters. We got married had 2 kids bought a home, and then a summer home. We both made good money, lived very well, travelled extensively. I remained fit and active. Our sex life was good. I finally had the type of Norman Rockwell family I always wanted but never had as a kid. Better still I was able to give this life to my children. She grew into her body and like the ugly ducking by 40 was a 6 foot tall goddess of legs, tits, and ass. It went to her head, social media didn't help. She started to treat me more like an incompetant house keeper than a friend and lover. The harder I tried to make her happy the less she respected me, or at least that's how I felt. About 2 years ago she suddenly turned on me and became evil. When have I seen this before? Found out she was cheating. With her ex. Who she found on FB. Who was the 20 something night janitor of her middle school who she saw secretly all throughout HS. Who was the reason she got thrown out of her house and was practically homeless when I met her. What's more, he's a married father of 3 with no intention of leaving his wife for her. Still she threw our life and our family away for him and she told me she's never once stopped loving him for the past 25 years (the life of our relationship)

There a line thrown around on this sub about who hurt you? Well there you have it. So you wan't to know how a woman should "behave" I don't know about that. I do know how people should treat one another, despite having received very little good treatment myself. I feel that everything I've been taught about how to treat a woman was a lie, but I'm not that type of person. As for me I'm 45. I have 2 great kids who love me very much. I have a good well paying job, am fit and in great health. And I'm done with you (Women generally). I'm tired of setting myself on fire to keep other people warm. I'm living for me now. I hope that was helpful.