I was in a long-term relationship with a woman who was 34 (I’m 3 years younger) - at first I didn’t think anything about this and even considered myself somewhat lucky to be with her as she had a very high SMV and was verrrry well known in and around our region. Looking back on it now, there’s a reason she was single at that age. And previous to us being in a relationship she was with someone for 10 years and then just up and left. More on this in a bit.

Despite her being very well known and conventionally attractive she was single when I met her which again I didn’t think much of - red flag! It wasn’t until we knew each other for a while that we became a couple after I initiated it. She was a freak and very sexual, immediately we were always together and did everything together. She introduced me to her family and friends - and made it all a big deal. I was pretty cool with all of this because as I said before she had a very high SMV (or at least perceived) and was very well known and pretty well respected in the area.

After all this love-bombing which I later found out was extremely typical of borderline and narcissistic women I was in deep. She was extremely controlling and at the time I was way too passive and agreeable. It got to the point where if we were at a restaurant she wouldn’t let me order certain foods and it wasn’t due to a financial constraint or anything like that. I’m sure these were all just tests so she could verify that I was still under her control.

Fast-forward a few years and she decides she needs to pop out some babies because all of her friends are having kids. She starts telling me that we should have a kid and will not drop the subject. Now she had literally zero foresight into this decision and had clearly not applied any critical thinking to the idea. We weren’t even married. She was currently in “recovery” for alcoholism (sober like 12 years?) but still a total psycho dry drunk I was realizing and she also had an uncontrollable eating disorder which she clearly didn’t want to work on - so did her mother - for 40 years RED FLAG. Anyways as she kept pushing it I told her I wasn’t going to have a kid out of marriage. So my dumb ass proposed a few months later. She said yes.

Anyways as time went on I was getting sick of the shit so I told her I didn’t want to have a kid with her as she was currently not in a very healthy place with her eating disorder but I was open to the idea down the road if she could show to me that she was actually getting better. I felt that this was totally reasonable and the mature thing to do. Not to mention the fact that during our relationship she had told me day and night about all my problems I had to fix - many times she even gave me the ultimatum of “fix this about yourself or I’m leaving you.” I fixed every single issue she brought up (again I was way too agreeable) - so I didn’t think that me bringing up her known faults was too out of line.

Turns out she couldn’t handle the criticism and it inflicted some serious narcissistic injury to her fragile as cracked glass ego.

The second she realized her grasp of me had slipped and I wasn’t her bitch to control and I stood up to her it was done. She started fucking the carpenter (another one of her degenerate “recovery” friends) who was renovating part of our house and then she broke up with me.

We were obviously still living together, so I moved into the guest room (I should have made her seeing as how I was paying the fucking mortgage - but she owned the home…lesson learned on this one!) - but she would be coming and going all hours of the day. One night at like 1am my dog starts growling out the window (very rare for him) I look out the window and the thot is crawling out of the carpenters truck. I go downstairs and wait for her to come inside and ask her what’s up. She said that they were just at a party together and they’re just friends. lmao. Meanwhile her hair is all fucked up as she had clearly just been fucking that dude. I called her on it again and she just denied it.

Absolutely degenerate.

Long story short I GTFO the house, took my dog, drove around the country for a while on a little bit of a road trip and worked remote.

She called and emailed and texted me, my family and even my co-workers trying to track me down because she was “concerned” LMAO - you weren’t too concerned when you were out thotting about.

After a few weeks I went back when I knew she was out of town, moved all my shit out, left every single light and appliance on in the house including the heat in the middle of the summer. Peace bitch. Petty I know, but I was heated at the moment.

She got home from her trip and texted me thanked me for getting all of my stuff out of the house. A few days later she claims I stole her mail and demanded that I mail her a check for mortgage payments and other bills. LOL fuck that get your new fuck buddy to pay for it (although he probably couldn’t as he had kids with some other woman I’m sure he was paying for.)

This part is hilarious because as I mentioned she had the house in her name and wouldn’t put me on it - which I always thought was weird but she did own it before we met. That was how all the bills were as well. She was extremely controlling with money. But it turned out okay though because I was not liable for any of those bills and legally didn’t owe her a penny, and not a penny she ever got from me again.

She’s since reached out to me about a dozen times over the past year (nearly always once a month) and they are so desperate. I've never responded once. She tries to play it cool in the messages but they are always super selfish, just telling me things - never once has she asked how I am, or what I’m up to. Always just stupid shit like demanding that I respond to her. She claimed she found some of my stuff months after I moved out which a) I doubt b) if she did, she can keep it, I clearly don’t need it.

While this experience sucked I’m pretty grateful for now as it woke me up to how evil people can be. I’ve been on my own since and I’m happy as a fucking clam. I got my own place now which is really nice, I do whatever the hell I want whenever the hell I want. My dog and I are going on vacation in a few days and I’m very excited.

I've been reading this sub and other stuff online about MGTOW and other ideas which have been very helpful and I'm glad I've found this place.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.