Many of us come from a shitty place, I think that's well established by now. We always had difficulties with girls and nothing really seemed to go our way. We had no influence, no respect, no authority and it always seemed that the harder we tried, the less influence, respect and authority we got. Kind of a paradox, if you didn't know better.

In this body of text, I will be dealing with the importance of how No Game beats Expert Game every day of the year.

Expert Gamer

First and foremost, when I write Expert Game, I am talking about the guys who's been practicing Game for years and have become 100% fluent at it. They can basically pick up any girl for a ONS. The problem with Expert Game is that your brain is running on all 8 cylinders. It's going into overdrive, thinking "Alright, so now I did this, now I'm gonna move on to this next move and maybe initiate some kino" you know how the rest goes. There is absolutely not a moment of silence in the Gamers head, because he always has to be 1, 2 or 7 steps ahead. The Expert Gamer pretty much has tunnel vision and if, God forbid, he doesn't pick up a girl that night, the Expert Game might have a bit of a crisis with himself.

The Expert Gamer is locked down on one thing and that is what he's gonna say/do next. He is not flexible and the slightest thing might phase him. The Expert Gamer is basically forcing things to happen and I'll bet my old hat that deep down in his stomach, he know it doesn't feel 100% natural.

No Gamer

On the other hand, we have the No Gamer. This is the guy who doesn't care about gaming. With his "opting out the game", he's actually one of the strongest gamers you can find. Since he does not care about the Game, his respect, influence and authority rises with every word he utters. Women fall for him constantly, since he's not trying to impress them. The No Gamer trusts himself so much, that no woman will be able to phase him, no matter what they do. You know what the funniest part about this is? They pick up on those vibes and they throw their panties at the No Gamer. The No Gamer can pick and choose as he pleases and he never has to comprise who he is. The aforementioned cylinders have come to a stand still and contrary to the Expert Gamer, absolutely nothing is happening in his head. No thoughts about what he's gonna say or do next, no anxiety, no nothing. The No Gamer is just there. He's present. The No Gamer navigates in a 360 degree sphere just the way he wants. If one thing doesn't work out, he doesn't blame anyone and moves on, making the next thing work out.

The move from one place to another

This is all good and well, but how do we get there? There might be many ways to get there, but I sense a common theme between us guys here on TRP, in as many of us share the same background, personality wise, and therefore I would like to present the way I'm currently chipping at right now.

Many of us are neurotic. If you're not 100% sure what that means, look it up, it will help you greatly once you realize you're neurotic regarding girls. We've been telling ourselves "I can't pick up girls, I can't exercise influence etc.", but the truth is, is that these are lies that we're telling ourselves. Nobody have ever told us these things. It is things that we're buying into for absolutely no sound reason. There is no rationale behind it.

Maybe you got bullied as a kid and maybe that is still stuck with you until this day. Go see a psycho therapist. Those guys will set you straight and there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeing a shrink. Sometimes it is not possible to move forward unless you resolve some of the things that's been chipping at you for years. You can't hit that "state" you've been longing for unless you get professional help. All the self-help books in the world won't help you. Trust me.

With time, the feeling of the cylinders beating away like wardrums start disappearing. You start trusting yourself more and more and the constant thought process in your head while chatting to girls, starts disappearing. A little saying I used when I was first making this shift, was that whenever disturbing thoughts would come up as I was chatting to girls, I would say to myself "These thoughts are merely impressions and they do not represent what they illustrate in my head.". Acknowledge whatever pops into your head, shrug it off and gently return your attention to the task at hand, chatting to the girl.

Conclusion

I think what I'm trying to get at, is that for many of us, there are some problems we need to have solved by a shrink. We can't do that by ourselves. I recommend seeing a psycho therapist. Once we have cleared former issues, we start to notice how these issues that we're making up in our heads, start disappearing aswell. We start to notice how we become less neurotic and we find a much greater balance in our mind and soul. It's a rather Stoic perspective and if you haven't checked up on Stoicism yet, I recommend doing that as a side project while seeing a shrink.

I found this quote on my computer a while ago. Someone posted it on here back in late 2015/start 2016 and it is what inspired me to write this text. It is basically a TL;DR of what I've written for you here today.

A clear separation needs to be drawn between "PUA Game" and actual game. Pick-up artists, by definition, must only deceive their mark until they fuck her. It's full of tricks and gimmicks to inflate and / or misrepresent their otherwise nonexistent value in hopes that fucking enough women will somehow grant them actual value (spoiler: it doesn't). Good game, at least what I think of as such, has nothing to do with you. No "DHVing", no "AMOGing", no "Negging", none of that shit. By the time you need real game, your value should be self-evident to everyone. Game is about what you make her feel. It's about the experience you give to a woman to get her addicted to being around you.

With some effort, hopefully you will be able to make the shift from an Expert Gamer to a No Gamer.