A lot of the questions in the seduction community boil down to "I'm interested in this specific girl, how should I approach the situation?" Another popular one is "how do I know she'll be down if I make a move?"

Usually, in response to such questions, all of the dregs of TRP come out of the woodwork and unhelpfully regurgitate tired phrases like "you have oneitis, bro" and "read the sidebar, bro".

While it's possible that the OP needs to revisit the sidebar, and perhaps he does actually have oneitis, it frustrates the hell out of me when that is the response to legitimate questions.

But I digress.

Here's the answer I wish someone had told me back in the day: she's just not that into you, bro.

-Returns your texts but too busy to see you? Get over her.

-Hangs out with you in a one on one setting, but shies away when you touch her? Move on.

-Any ambiguity whatsoever, in the grey zone and not sure where things stand? She's just not that into you, bro.

Somewhat tangentially, there was recently a thread in askTRP about how to bring a girl to orgasm. In the thread, /u/Whisper offered an enlightening perspective -- the game is psychological. There is no amount of physical technique in bed that will fully substitute what I call enthusiastic consent.1

It's possible you've never experienced enthusiastic consent. I didn't until recently. She should be so excited to see you, to spend time with you and to suck your dick that there should be no question in your mind that she's into it.

That is what Whisper was trying to get across, and will be the key to your sexual success. There are enough women out there that you shouldn't be settling for anything less than enthusiastic consent.

And if you aren't getting such a response from any women, well, hit the gym fatso. Watch some stand-up comedy. Get a hobby. It's time for some self-improvement.

So next time you're on a date with some chick you picked up in the vegetable aisle, or you're at a bar grinding against some slut who's showing more skin than a Chicago pickup game, and you're not sure if you should escalate, don't ask her like a sperg if you should kiss her. And don't ask yourself if you should kiss her. That's the wrong question.

What you should be asking is why you would even want to be with a girl who doesn't want to be with you? She doesn't even like you, dude.

1 Apparently this is a real thing, I'd never heard the phrase till googling it just now and it certainly was not my intention to allude to whatever they're talking about.