Dominance Manifesto

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December 10, 2017


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An Introduction


I used to be the poster child for this movement. I got into game at 14 or 15, I was pulling consistently by the time I hit 17. I was ‘popular’ in a few friends but plenty of invites type of way. That’s because back then we lacked substance. The PUA teachings were ‘do this, it works’ with no consideration to the why. We were told to approach until our anxiety faded, but the explanations of our nervousness were pseudoscience and conjecture. No one even got over AA back then by the way. They used to say you’d fear forever and get used to it.


A counter-culture to the counter-culture started developing years later, during a time when I’d left the scene entirely. I was inactive and in love for two years while Goodlooking Loser and later, The Red Pill, started coming into fruition. When I came back I found a mix of things I’d already adopted (I’d been lifting for nearly a decade already) along with things I’d never heard of. Some of them were just rephrasing theories I’d already gathered, some falling victim to overly complex explanations and methodologies. I believe because of the roots in PUA, some of the- quite frankly- toxic elements seeped through. The issue with them was the theories came from men who struggled with women as they piddled into success. For the most part, the gifted writers and orators were either marketing wizards (David D) or physically gifted losers (Mystery). They had no idea what worked and what didn’t. When Mystery said “Negging works, trust me, I’m 6’5 and very good looking” people bought that shit hook, line and sinker. When Style said “DHV’s are where it’s at homies, trust me, I’m wealthy and very well connected in a desirable scene” people bought that shit. The reality is of course A) looks matter and B) status matters.


I criticise the reliance on tradition and the ignorant avoidance of contradictory information. Critical thinking seems to be sorely lacking in most movements although this one is among the most rational. Of course, a lot of figures who are still popular are arm-chair experts. I’m not going to go on a witch hunt, but some of the biggest names in PUA are absolute duds. I’ve met a lot of them and only a minority stand out as ‘getting it’. It shines through in writing when someone ‘gets it’. See, an expert will write about the big picture in terms of strategies: Live your life like this, believe in this, work on this. A secondary-guru (IE a gifted reposter living vicariously through the first group) will then latch onto specific examples and say: Do this, this and this! Three simple tips!


The second has innate appeal in that it, falsely, appears simpler. The reality is that when those directions do work not knowing why they worked is an arrow to the knee because you can’t improvise. Socializing is absolute chaos, which is why the adage used to be “1000 approaches until you’re not a beginner” The thing is, you don’t need 1000 approaches; what you need is to realize the true foundations of your success. Beliefs, values and lifestyle. The 1000 approaches were required to teach the dancing monkeys most of the reactions they’d face, they still couldn’t act in the face of novelty. Whereas the ‘’’’’naturals’’’’’ who were looked upon with awe and/or derided as ‘lucky’ would just fucking do it. Because they ‘got it’.


This article is about transitioning from someone who does it to someone who has it. It’s about becoming the act you’ve learned. This article isn’t for absolute beginners- if you have difficulty approaching a hot girl, go elsewhere. It’s for those men who can get results, but aren’t happy with them. It isn’t just about women, but I use women a lot as an example for a few reasons. Quite frankly, girls are easy. They want to have sex with attractive men and that’s why they go out a good portion of the time. It’s more about not fucking up than anything else. They are also a great litmus test: they’re either into you or they’re not and you can use that feedback to grow quickly. Being rejected 100 times in a row could be accomplished in a week and give you all the feedback 10 years in the wrong career would. Rejection saves pain because it’s the quickest accurate signal for change you can find.


This article is an example of thinking small for big results. It is the little things you stick to consistently which breed success, not the lofty targets or epic endeavours. It’s easier to grasp the small stuff and as such, I refer often to examples with women. As is often said here though: no one girl matters. It isn’t about your oneitis falling in love with you, it’s about being someone who women will love. It’s about being attractive, not attracting Jenny from accounting. When you’re reading this, remember that it is never about the girl and it’s always about you. Girls are the example for the aforementioned reasons, as well as being relatable, easy to improve with and easy to find. They’re not a good focus for your life but they’re a very good indicator for how well you’re doing overall, since they seem to have a sixth sense beyond us men when it comes to success and potential.




Part A

Intrinsic. Developing dominance within and of yourself. Your life begins and ends with you: the most important component of developing any trait.


Part B

Extrinsic. Looks, status and money. The tangible qualities which display worth, the proof of dominance and the tools which will lead to acceptance of your frame.


Part C

Interaction with others. You offer your reality, not force conformity. You display an enticing frame, you don’t try to push others into it. Influence beats control.


Part A: The Root of Dominance: Beliefs, Values, Desires and Self-Mastery

Self-mastery is the first step to true dominance. You can muster swagger, but you can’t exude calm confidence when you’re the grasshopper. Self-mastery is a holistic concept. It doesn’t mean being the best at any one thing or being the mostly manly man- at least, not necessarily. What it means is that you align all decisions to your true beliefs and desires. That you bypass the easy path to climb higher instead.


Managing your beliefs, values and desires is what it means to be a man. They are entirely under your control and they are the largest deciding factor within your life. Good beliefs breed good results, bad beliefs breed bad outcomes. Good values attract good people, bad values spiral you into shitty situations. Desiring the greater good puts you into a greater place, whereas desiring ‘good for now’ is settling into mediocrity.


Good beliefs include: “I am the cause of all of my limitations.” A painful belief to hold, it would be easier to drop that burden and blame someone else. I’ve wanted to, but when I feel blame shift away I pull it back jealously because it’s the fuel for the fire of improvement. ”What matters most is what I do, I cannot control others.” and ”Others perception of me is as much an indicator of themselves as of me.” are two others.


Good values include honesty and respect. As a man, your word is your bond. It is the spiritual projection of your character and as true a representation of you as your physical presence. A weak word is like a weak body. A mean word is an emotional disfigurement. As surely as an apple-sized cyst is a malformation, so too is the asshole who tries to hurt others emotionally deformed. Feeling the need to say rude things to people is a sign of inner issues which need to be conquered.


Good desires are obvious: If it makes you better overall, it’s positive. If it makes you worse off, it’s negative. Thus smoking is a bad desire, while exercise is a good one. Desires stem from your world-view, which is controlled by the other two. If you value improvement, you won’t want to do drugs in excess. If you value achievement, you won’t want to sleep 14 hours a day. Controlling your desires is a large component of self-mastery.


Self-mastery includes the following: Discipline, confidence, and openness. They crossover and each develops the others.



• Sacrifice. Save for the future. Don’t go out this weekend so you can work more. Conversely, doing all your study in two days so you can go out for five and finally get your dick wet. Sacrifice. What will have to be sacrificed and for what gain is an important decision.

• Deep improvement within facet/s of your life which hold ‘universal’ appeal. These include health/fitness, money, status, etc. The things which intelligent people will debate the how of, but only idiots will debate the why.

• Responsibility. Blaming others won’t get you anywhere because you can’t change them. Society is not the cause of your problems, neither is your family. You are the sole author of your discontent or pleasure. You make the choices which burden or free you.



• Self-belief which pre-empts your belief in or pursuit towards anything or anyone else.

• Confidence that you will make the right choices, take the right steps and achieve your goals as long as you stick to your guns.

• Persistence in the face of failure. You’ll miss more shots than you make. You must keep striving to improve and keep trying again.



• Broad novelty seeking. Expanding your comfort zone is easier in all directions than one, at least if you look at it as a skill within itself. A simple thing I do is try one new thing a month.

• Willingness to change your mind. Spoiler alert: it’s almost a guarantee that eventually, the way society is doing most things will be laughably inadequate.

• Flexibility. Any given person makes more mistakes than successes, along with persistence as per above you need to learn to change your approach or you’ll end up smashing into a wall instead of through one.


I’m going to describe how to develop each. Consider this like you would fiction. What works for me may not for you and thus when I write specific examples it isn’t me prescribing that action to you, it’s me describing the belief to you. You need to imagine yourself acting from the place where that is your truth to implement. It isn’t “in this scenario, do this!” it is more “if you believe this, you may respond like this.”



Nearly every time you make a decision, you already know what the right answer is. Give yourself the discipline to stick to it, be true to what you really want and do that. Don’t give in to petty temptations.


There is only one choice in life a lot of the time. It appears like there are more, but usually the choice is between good for now and better for later. The choice is, do you stay in Friday night for some FPS and anime titties, or do you go out and get some? Do you watch trashy TV to distract from reality, or do you grab your balls and carpe the diem out of the gym? Do you subsist on vicarious satisfaction from ‘famous’ people whose only talent is that they’re willing to put their nuts and necks on the line, or do you put your cards on the table and seize your own fate?


Discipline is easier if you’re obsessed. Every morning, get up and make a conscious decision to spend the first few minutes of the new day on your most important goal. Write the goal down on a piece of paper and make one contribution towards it. If your goal is to be ripped for Summer, write down “I am getting ripped” and then do twenty pushups. If your goal is to write a book, brainstorm ideas and write at least one line every morning- regardless of what your creative process is. It’s about always making small, manageable steps to keep momentum. With saving, contributing $1 to your savings every single day (on top of normal savings) gets you into the habit of doing it better than anything. It makes you think about what you want regularly, it keeps you from slipping into bad habits out of complacency.


One warning: never motivate with extrinsic rewards. It has been extensively researched and shown to be the worst way to motivate. It removes the fulfilment and pleasure from the activity itself, so instead of being intrinsically inspired towards affirming actions you require stimulus to continue. If you ‘reward’ yourself for the gym with a massage, you’ll never learn to love the gym. If you ‘reward’ yourself for approaching a girl, you’ll never learn to love the thrill of the chase. You need to grow appreciation for the attributes you wish to build or they will lack foundation.


Another aspect is judgement. You need to know what will improve you. Some things are steps on the right path even if they seem unrelated. Others seem like the right direction but aren’t. To a certain extent I would say getting laid is one of the most affirming and life-altering things a man can do. Being in control of your own sex-life is something women take for granted, something they’ll never understand the importance of. For a man though it is liberating because it means you’re joining the uppermost crust of our society. Realistically, the amount of men who choose whether they want to fuck on any given night is microscopic, even those in relationships usually have no say.


At the same time pushing your count into triple digits is pointless. I’ve realized recently that the less women I sleep with, the more I appreciate them. I know that’s obvious, but I sometimes look back and think “Wow, that girl was really cool. I should have kept hanging out with her. She was smart, fun and hot. Rare. Pity I dropped her to fuck a new girl whose name I don’t remember.” I’m saying don’t obsess over your lays. It means nothing in the end, what matters is your confidence that you can do it when you want.



Be confident because you’re the island of independence, you rely on no one and nothing to make you feel confident. Be confident because you’re competent, you’re good at what you’re doing and will get it done. Be confident that if you’re not already good, you will be, because what’s holding you back is knowledge you can learn and experience you can gain. “Good judgements come from experience. Experience comes from bad judgements.”


The real lesson though: Nothing is ever more fun than when you’re scared. I’d give my left-nut to get back that gut-wrenching feeling when talking to a ten. Those moments which make you grab your balls and go for it are what make life worth living. Courage is what you need to do things in the face of fear, you need to make that decision every single time. Eventually, consistency breeds competence and then the hurdle you must overcome is apathy. You motivate yourself to not be lazy because you know you could do it but do you really want to? That’s not as fun, trust me. The most vivid memories in my life include: The first time I stood up to a bully; I was 13 and he ran away. The first time I got hit in real life; he was six years and twenty kilos on me, but I remember thinking “this doesn’t hurt so bad” and giving as good as I got. The first time I ever approached a girl cold; my only knowledge of pickup was through Mens Health and I was shaking so bad she probably thought I had Parkinsons.


There is still satisfaction to being disciplined and taking right action, but there is fun by far in the thrill of overcoming your own limitations. The further along you get, the less of the latter you’ll see, so savour every step along the way.



Then there comes a point where you need to find new ways to grow. If you develop your character to The Red Pill ideals, you’ll have a good base. But a ripped body, able mind and strong will aren’t a personality. They’re a framework.


Again: you need to be true to you and do things you really do want to do. Try them, regardless of what others will think. The more you push your boundaries the better. I’ve tried a shitload of sports, some of which stuck and all of which taught me tangible lessons. About half of them got me laid too. I’ve done arts classes which were massive wastes of time, except I did learn how to draw something that resembles a face and got my dick sucked. Novelty is the spice of life and if you’re the adventurous type, you appeal to women. They want you to expand their realities because chicks get bored easily. You stand out in an amazing way if you’re the most masculine guy doing something non-masculine. Unless it’s getting butt-fucked while wearing a dress, no one will even question your sexuality over it. I’ve literally never been asked (by someone who isn’t a hopeful homo) if I’m gay, yet I have done dance, drawing, cooking, Body balance and still do yoga. None of these are stereotypically manly. The insecurities of others have no bearing on you. Just because some guys can’t comprehend being masculine is about doing what you want to do instead of living to another’s standards, doesn’t mean you can’t.


You need to be flexible so you don’t snap. Life will occasionally throw things at you; if you’re strong but brittle they can shatter you. You can’t force your way through life for long. You need to have passion for what you do and do what you have passion for to stick with it. Passion can be learned, obsession can be cultivated and when you harness those energies you tend to see things in perspective of the big picture more easily. Meaning you’re less likely to be rocked or misstep.


Emotional Mastery

I’ve written a whole piece about this, go and read it if you need to. What I want to say on the topic here is this: be in control of your emotions. Sometimes that means supressing them to assess a situation clearly and make a rational decision. Most of the time though it means feeling them and deciding how to use them. If you need to act on them, against them, use them as motivation, use them as a deterrent… usually your emotional feedback is valid communication from your subconscious about the right decision in situations where information is scarce. Socio-sexual situations come to mind immediately, where the timeliness of a choice matters as much as the choice. Trusting your instincts are correct trains you to use them, which breeds confidence, as well as improves them which enhances future judgement calls.


Anything in life where complexities exceed conscious management benefits from emotional intelligence. At any one time you’re capable of accessing about 1% of the input you’re receiving and will be actively engaged with <0.1%. In other words, the thoughts you have right now- your consciousness- are 0.1% of information you’re processing. 99.9% of it resides in your subconscious, which compiles and analyses the input based on heuristics and models you’ve developed throughout your life. It’s trainable, which is why athletes have superhuman reflexes.


Often it’s better to make the wrong decision at the right time than the right decision too late. Pulling the trigger and committing to a path is one of our most masculine traits because stepping onto virgin soil is scary. That’s why explorers are romanticized so highly.


Precision improves much the same on an instinctive level: experience improves heuristics improves judgements. There is the cognitive aspect to address as well however. You need to build critical thinking skills, which our society seems geared towards destroying. You need to learn to assess the value of a source, the application of the information and the integrity of it. You need to be able to address that to yourself personally as well as on a wider level. You need to be able to identify and negate the effects of confounding variables.


On a broader level, you need to learn how to gain information. Knowledge is power. You need to learn how to learn. Everyone has a different brain, with different circuitry, which means you experiment to achieve success. An example of this would be the approach of some artists, who will lock themselves into a piece until it is finished- Banksy or Basquiat- while others will work on many different pieces at once- like Da Vinci. Even the time intervals differ. I personally study a topic for a few hours, take a long break, then go back for a few more hours. I also break up each 20 minutes into 15min study, 2min revision of that 15min then a 3min break. If I’m writing something though (normally fiction) I’ll spend anywhere between a minute and five hours on it at a time. I’ll just keep writing until the words stop flowing, then leave it mid-sentence so it’s easier to start next time. It overcomes the inertia, since the first thing to do is complete a sentence. The hardest part about most things is starting and many motivational tools are about making the first step easier.


When you set goals, set the bar low. The idea is to have the bar so you’d have to try harder to miss it. If you want to lose 10kg, make a commitment to step foot in the gym every day. You don’t have to train. Walk into the gym and walk out if you want. Having that goal will make you go though. Getting into the habit of going is more important than any specifics of what you do once you’re there.


Part B: The Indicators of Alpha


The roadmap to ‘alpha’ is as follows: Be disciplined and achieve mastery. Women and men both will respect that, which leads to social proof. It will develop your character in the process, meaning you will authentically be the act others might try. Be open and accepting: mainly of the fact that most people don’t fucking matter. The opinions of random strangers are irrelevant. A girl who calls you creepy, a dude who calls you a douche or anyone without a valid opinion offering criticism is worthless. You don’t need to pander to the masses so don’t.


Strive on your path and follow the non-aggression principle. Don’t try to convert, convince or suppress others but also don’t accept those actions. Don’t be offensive but don’t step down when you’re speaking the truth.


Embrace chaos. Accept that you have no idea what reactions you will achieve. Accept that you have no idea if it will go well or not. Accept that when it does go bad, it doesn’t matter and has no bearing on you as a person. An alpha male defines himself by his own values, whereas a beta male defines himself by others perceptions.


Everything else is words on the page.


Extrinsic Displays of Dominance

The three biggest things you should try and master assuming you want to fuck a lot of high quality women are looks, status/fame and money. That’s in order of my personal recommendation. Why?


Looks are very easy to develop

Five hours in the gym a week, conscious control of what you eat and of your posture will bump you up a point. Skincare, grooming and better hygiene will give a glow that will bump you up another. A style which matches your vibe and smaller improvements- growing your dick, getting a better haircut- will add increments. It’s all incremental, it is easy to track and the results are rapid.

IE looks are so easy you may as well work on them first because they make everything else even easier.


Status is a mixed bag

There are a lot of paths. I recommend the path of mastering something and achieving status within a scene because my friends who have done that have better results than me. I did not do that however. I chose to spend a lot of time maxing out my social media, messaging people constantly and nurturing a very active social life. It chewed up a lot of time and honestly, the results weren’t as good as my friends get. It would have taken a lot of work to maintain and I ended up just dropping it completely, deleting most of my social media and cutting off all the ‘’’’friends’’’’ that I was only partying with.

Status needs to be displayed. That’s a huge detriment compared to looks. Having it within a scene will somewhat alleviate that- everyone will know you’re the guy- but to an extent, the perceptions of others will be defining you.

Fame is extreme status which doesn't need to be demonstrated and will nearly always be the culmination of the pursuit of excellence within a field. A top singer, athlete or businessperson will have it. The rest won't ever approach it.



Money will get a girl to open her legs, but won’t get her wet. Money can buy time, but not friendships. Money can solve problems, but can’t buy happiness.

Money is fucking awesome, don’t get me wrong. I spent the first 19 years of my life painfully poor- to the point of missing meals and moving between so many friends couches I was basically a bedbug- but I was happy. Some of the happiest memories I have were when I was so poor girls used to bring me food, when I had ‘starving artist’ appeal because I wrote, was intelligent and otherwise degenerate. I remember when I finally did get a place, I used to have parties in a fibre board shed with asbestos openly leaking out of the ceiling. They were great.

While I do think being in the middle-class is 100x better, the improvements the others offer are far superior. In honesty the only reason I make good coin now is because A) I was good-looking enough to have a halo-effect B) I attracted the right people (values, confidence, charisma, looks) and C) I took the opportunities given to me by those connections. D) Hustling and working hard is always quoted as the most important. It isn’t. That’s the sad truth of the world we live in: nepotism beats merit in most areas. Be that business, social or sexual life. Your friends are more likely your friends because they ‘like you’ for some nebulous reason than because you have a good GPA, job and ripped abs. Your boss is more likely to promote you because he sees himself in you than because you are the most qualified. Choose values which others respect because respect is a more universal currency than cash.


Part C: Five Lessons on How to Treat Others


The Golden Rule

Treat others how you want to be treated. With respect. Don’t be excessively late to catch up. Don’t insult- negging is for the insecure spinsters. Don’t try to exert possession over people. Treat others as their own persons and be grateful for them, because there should be a reason you picked them to be in your life over others.


At the same time, have self-respect. Make rules for behaviour, tolerate but don’t accommodate. For me personally I have a three-strike policy. If someone does three things to me which I wouldn’t do to them- say they lie to me, they’re forty minutes late and they try to insult me- then I cut them off. Done, no looking back. It’s worked well for me, but it has flaws. Sometimes I’ll judge something as small, then reflect later and realize it was important. Little things can be red flags and while I normally won’t hold something like “looked at message on my phone screen” against someone, it may later turn out that girl is dangerously nosy and tries to hack into my phone regularly.


Another consideration is that in longer-term friendships, you need to make allowances. I have one friend who runs an hour late everywhere. I now just tell her we’re meeting 90 minutes prior to the actual time, because in all other ways she is a great friend. She’s helped me out a lot in life and I don’t want to drop her over that, so I cater to it. Another friend I have is a great mate, except when girls are around he starts boasting and becomes kind of a douche. Therefore, I don’t invite him on my sarging adventures to chase HB8+’s and DMDV (Demonstrate My Dick Value).


Govern by decision, not control.

True power doesn’t have to be exerted. Being powerful is something which permeates your life in all aspects. It isn’t a button you push, an action you take or a belief you have. It isn’t how others treat you. It effects all of those however because It is everything about you. You are either powerful or not powerful. It isn’t in relation to others; it is an aspect of yourself. You can’t ‘dominate’ people with mind-trickery, that falls apart after a few hours unless the other person wants it. More importantly, you won’t be improving yourself. You’re fooling others into temporarily believing you have influence, not being or becoming a person who deserves it.


The best way to have ‘power’ over other people is to have them willingly choose to let you lead. You give people the choice of stepping into and enjoying your reality, or being away from it. Women will want this 99% of the time without fail because despite social justice warrior bullshit, they nearly all want to be fucked raw into puddles of pleasure. If I had a dollar for every load of mein nut a ‘real feminist’ has either swallowed or worn like makeup I’d be a very rich man. The issue with trying to control them is that they will test that control constantly. If you make them choose, they will either align themselves to your persona or walk away. You don’t have to deal with ‘dominance struggles’ or manufactured drama. Alphas are those who possess such an appealing reality that others will choose to conform to it.


Be powerful in the sense of a muscle, not a metal. You need to be capable of being rigid to your core if the situation requires, while being able to compromise if that’s necessary. If you never change, you’ll grow evermore brittle. True strength is being able to accept criticism and rejection as a signal for what to work on. Strength comes with flexibility, you must be able to adapt to difference circumstances and change your approach in both specific situations as well as more holistically, on a macro-scale to alter your life course for the better.



When someone is trying to manipulate you into doing something you wouldn’t want to do the most potent tool at your disposal is the one they’re using. People apply the filter of their lives to everything, so when a person is trying to exploit you they’re going to use the tools which would influence them. If someone preys on a certain insecurity, that’s probably their biggest insecurity. If someone appeals to a certain value, that’s probably what they hold dearest.


Instead of trying to argue from your perspective, shift to theirs and use their tools to prove your case. Instead of ‘fighting back’ and correcting them on the level of values, accept that their value is important to them and appeal to it. If someone says, “You have to help me with this, you’re so smart” then tell them they’re smart enough to do it alone. Or help them. Be conscious of what you actually want to do before you blindly say “yes” to every request but don’t think helping someone makes you weak.


If a girl asks you to buy her a drink, say “Ok, you get the next round.” You’re not stingy but you’re not her provider. If a girl tells you “We can’t have sex tonight, I’m not a slut” say “What I like about you is how you balance being a good girl with being adventurous.”


I’ll stress that this is too high context to use as manipulation. It must be authentic to the moment and context because you can’t just plug in lines and have them work. You must cater to the person whilst still expressing yourself, so it must be spontaneous.



Short-term, pain beats pleasure. We’re more addicted to avoiding fears than embracing the fruits of conquering them. Therefore, the massive inertia to overcome in learning new traits or beliefs. At the same time, giving or withdrawing positive reinforcement is a more powerful stimulus than negative reinforcement in the long run. People may alter their behaviour short term because you criticise it or get mad, but eventually they’ll forget or stop caring. The best way to stop those behaviours which offend you is to show your disapproval and withdraw the signs of your pleasure. The best way to encourage ‘good’ is to reward it.


The reason this works better is because people grow accustomed to negativity. If your girlfriend is always late and it makes you yell at her, any time she feels bored or like you’re not paying attention, she’ll run late to get a reaction. It gives people a handle to move you by when you have strong negative reactions. If instead you withdraw a little- not in a prissy way- then you encourage her to make the effort to fix it. She can’t argue if you’re calmly distanced, anything she says to get a bite you aren’t reacting to and are showing more disappointment towards. No leverage in that case for her to create drama. Instead she will have to reflect on her behaviour.


In the short term, you can yell a girl into cleaning your house or whatever. If instead you say “I value traditional relationships” (which isn’t sexist BPers, everyone has preferences and this is a shared value within my relationship/s) and reward her when she conforms to that, then you will encourage the behaviour long term. If you don’t flip when she doesn’t do it, but show her a lot of affection when she does, then she is motivated to do it especially when she wants to make you react. Which is a lot of the time- like I said, women get bored easily and thrive on attention. So, give them positive avenues to get it.


Girls will often do shit to test you by the way- a phrase I believe to be the origin of ‘shit test’. The absolute best girls will say things which completely contradict their personality otherwise just to see how you respond. The secret is: don’t. In most cases giving a girl a weird look that communicates “why the fuck are you saying that” goes further than special line #449.


An example: If a girl says to me “Are you gay?” I’d say “Fo real?” and just look at her strange. The one time this actually happened, the girl said “Oh nah haha I was hoping you weren’t haha” and was incredibly nervous that she’d offended me. I’ve seen PUA types say something super-smooth like “No, but don’t tell my boyfriend!” The issue is that while you may think it’s mildly funny, really it buys into her frame. You’re entertaining now, you’re rewarding bad behaviour. Now if she wants a funny from you then she knows saying “Are you a player?” or “I bet you say that to all the girls!” will get one. IE, you’re rewarding bad behaviour.


For those who learn by examples:


Are you a player?

I used to say “Nope, I’m very honest with all of my girlfriends.” With a smirk. This is good because it’s a multi-level joke. Level one, she thinks it’s a joke. Level two, you do have multiple girlfriends. Level three, she knows you probably have multiple girlfriends, but you said it like a joke…


I bet you say this to all the girls!

This is another “Really?” one. The reason is because she is generally saying this in a way which questions the vibe, the intensity and authenticity of your connection. The biggest roadblock for me is usually comfort, so anything which could contradict that is a no-go. Thus I’ll never give an elaborate response to this because it’s buying into the frame that we have a connection worth questioning. Instead I’d prefer to look at her like “are you fucking serious right now?” and make her consider the fact that doubting this chemistry is retarded.


Closing Thoughts

Dominance is the alignment of your behaviours to your beliefs, of your beliefs to your desires, of your desires to your goals and of your behaviours to your goals. Dominance is a way of life, not a series of actions or phrases. You can be more alpha getting your buttfucked because you want to then Billy Beta is fucking a THOT so his friends will think he’s cool. Few things are inherently 'right' or 'wrong'. Most are simply personal choices of how you want your life to look, of what you want to align yourself with. Live for yourself because no one else will.

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Title Dominance Manifesto
Author Bigjohnthug
Upvotes 784
Comments 42
Date 10 December 2017 04:34 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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[–]Daegend132 points133 points  (1 child) | Copy

And I thought there was only one Bible.

[–]Carson109911 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

dude you made me laugh out loud and I havent even read the post yet

[–][deleted] 74 points75 points  (0 children) | Copy

this is true red pill material. The best post I have read in a long time.

[–]ChadThundercockII64 points65 points  (5 children) | Copy

Your post only got 100 points for an entire 10 hours since you posted it. There has been a huge paradigm shift in the subscribers of this sub since I came here, 2 years to be precise. Now, no one wants to do the work and put in the effort. Everyone wants to complain and cling to gimmicky trends like NoFap and shit.

Thanks for the write up OP. I'm going to print it and read it as many times as I need to.

[–]Bigjohnthug[S] 25 points26 points  (2 children) | Copy

My last post was in a similar vein and it went well. I think you're right though, people seem to want quicker and more actionable articles, not to be reminded of the long road ahead. Or maybe it's just this week, nowhere near as many posts have gone over the low hundreds.

I know it's helped some people to read this anyway. I like feedback but more important is that others benefit from it. The comments and messages are so far resoundingly positive so hopefully that means it will.

[–]RedPillFreedom3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I wish there was another section for posts like this because the old-TRP was like this. Eventually, I got fed up with scrolling through and trying to find the post I have like 15 to about a 100 upvotes. Those were quite literally gold for me and timely advice on my journey. Whenever I wait and go through top post weekly there are some that worth but just in general the quality has died down so much.

Feedback on actual post. I think you summarized a lot of Concepts in a different perspective that I didn't look at it and it'll take some time to implement but it's great. The one where I would not reinforce bad behavior I would only do when I was tired and didn't feel like putting in more energy. Otherwise in high energy I would play the PUA game. Alphas are people that can bring those around them into their reality. This one is another one. When pushing past barriers or comfort zones. I noticed without consistency or recovering from a slip you end up much farther down the path. Usually a deterrent from resuming journey or proceeding at same pace. The part with friends was also one that I find great. You instead of going this person is shit because of this trait and remove. You simply calibrate. I have a buddy that's great for going out - has shit to work on sometimes gets out of hand. But, I simply calibrate to only bringing him to occasions which he would do well. That would make a big difference. Instead of loathing him, I would actually enjoy the company.

I'm shocked in the little nuances that I could take away and apply.You're good at writing. Enjoyed the piece. Thank you.

[–]Bigjohnthug[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Glad you enjoyed. Consistency matters more than anything else with achievement for sure.

[–]naj3000 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Sure people may believe nofap may be the be all end all you can not deny that it teaches you self discipline and gives encouragement for you to go out. To call it gimmicky would be to deny something beneficial to to any body at this sub.

[–]ChadThundercockII0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

NoFap is for those who went too deep into the porn and masturbation rabbit hole. If you are going on the NoFap route, it means that there are some fucked up things going on in your life, that not only should be mitigated by not fapping, but also with some therapy.

I taught myself not to fap everyday of the year. I taught myself how to not use porn too much.

[–]PoseidonsNutsack12 points13 points  (2 children) | Copy

”Others perception of me is as much an indicator of themselves as of me.”

Were you advocating against or for this perspective?

[–]Bigjohnthug[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's a truth. The lens through which others view you is coloured by their beliefs, their perceptions and their biases.

To illustrate, I had an English unit in first semester that was creative writing. For the coursework I got very good feedback from the class, being voted as one of two people to do a reading at the end of semester. I got a 56% with the feedback "Not all women are like this!" The same teacher marked my exam, which was an anonymous short story I got 94% on.

Basically this English professor was incapable of removing her patriarchy/privilege lens and see that my story with no female characters wasn't a criticism of women, because she assumed as an able-bodied white male I was oppressing her.

On an individual level: don't be like her. Realise you have biases and be conscious of them. That doesn't mean to ignore them, a lot of life is preferences. Instead be aware so you can tell if they're limiting you or hindering a rational decision.

[–]GLADmyNAMEaintDICK5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not sure what your asking, but it seems he just meant others standing on the sidelines judging him are revealing their character through the act of judging others and inaction in their own lives, validating their cowardice. He is well aware of his ineptitude's which the audience echoes, but is a man of the journey and loves the process of growth. As he points out, that which is easy has no value. He may be in a state of mediocrity, but at least he is in a state of action, unlike the superfluous crowd. He is advocating indifference to their perception.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

A point under displays of dominance: smaller improvements- growing your dick, getting a better haircut- will add increments.

And how does one grow their dick exactly....

[–]Bigjohnthug[S] 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Good looking loser has a lot of good info on it with links to studies and anecdotal advice that will make it much easier to do. Basically; you buy a device to stretch your penis and another to provide vascular stress. A stretcher and a pump. It works because your penis isn't magical, it's connective tissue (which will stretch) and vascular tissue (which will undergo hypertrophy and angiogenesis in response to horizontal vascular strain). The myth that it doesn't work is probably perpetuated by the same people who say 'red meat is evil, eat soy instead!" I have 4.3x4.2cm extra IIRC, which is 1.7in length & girth if you're US.

[–]Menchstick36 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy

We can close the sub, this post is everything that the red pill is and everything anyone needs to know.

[–]majorketone9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking great post. To think I almost didn't click on it.

[–]Piotr16282 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Very well explained core of redpill. Very good job ;)

[–]Work_In_Progress924 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is great material; to the point where it belongs on the sidebar.

[–]party_dragon3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Like most other things most of the time, TheRedPill is mostly terrible, boring, and full of bull-shit. But then, this. Makes it all totally worth it.

[–]mynamedany4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Would it be cool with you if I made this into a pdf and share it. Credited of course

[–]Bigjohnthug[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yes, but only if you tell me what for. I'm curious now.

[–]mynamedany2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Easier to view, also to re-read on iBooks

[–]ActNormal8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

One if the few solid posts I've ever seen in this sub

[–]i_amtheice3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Rejection saves pain because it’s the quickest accurate signal for change you can find.

I'm an absolute beginner and I found this to be extremely helpful.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Very well written and accurate post. It's a shame how few men take this advice to heart, and instead focus on constantly doing favours, as if cooking for me and running errands will leave me desperate for their attention.

[–]Bigjohnthug[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I thought that attitude was a joke- no one in my social circle thinks like that- but then I read a mens magazine at the dentist today and remembered dudes actually think like that.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's much more common in Portland/Seattle than in southern states. People are so afraid of offending me or coming off badly that they come off as nothing but bland.

[–]AssDefect201 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This post is such distilled RP core material,that if I was gay&&BP,I would say:marry me!

[–]Attacker8791 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Great post. Read it all the way through and through.

A little confused on one part though. Your section on responding to shit tests with "not responding" and giving a strange look as if to make her question the chemistry -- I understand that TRP usually advocates agreeing and amplifying and using humor to pass the test. Which would you say is more effective? I've usually stuck to using humor to pass tests, but I wasn't aware it made me a "dancing monkey" type of guy. I would appreciate it a lot if you would be able to elaborate a little further. Thank you.

[–]Bigjohnthug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Humour is fine but the issue is when you're trying to be funny to pass her test you're really just jumping through her hoops. Thus making a joke out of it to amuse yourself and tease/frustrate her is fine, but trying to get a 'pass' reaction isn't.

In a lot of cases, especially for me but for others also, shit tests are authentic expressions of the girls insecurities more so than a 'test'. They're more of a comfort test if anything. A better frame to think of it however is that you don't want to validate her insecurity. If you make her feel nice and happy, she'll want to stick around.

[–]pugh881 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great post, everything from dick growth to cooking classes.

[–]AsmellyFinger1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Do you literally mean growing your dick or is that a figure of speech?

[–]1CoupDeGrace222 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Quality post, very solid with advanced insights.

Should definitely get you a tag on your name to get more people to read your shit which is actually helpful contrary to some of the endorsed idiots spamming daily confusing their own ego stroke with generic advice

lift blah blah generic bs blah blah picture of my mediocre ass at 40 blah blah

blah blah my life is awesome blah blah your post history is gay blah blah fuck you for questioning me kiddo

On topic, the last part of praise is genius and has even more depth to it. You touched perfectly on the universal traits everyone respects, fitness, status and money, and with that said social skills and being fit are enough for playing the early 20's game at least in my experience thus far.

So if you're fit and have good social skills Pavlovian-like reward/praise for positive behavior and likewise withdrawal/criticism for negative works on everyone not only women, regardless of attraction but to different degrees, newer generations are stupidly narcissistic so I'm talking praise in the likes of I don't have the full answer to this but I've found that random dudes/girls are either eager to appeal/please or downright ignore/shit on you when you adopt a polarized behavior of either approval or disapproval of them and their views, which again is heavily based on their perception of you ergo their values and point of view, this can very easily make or break your chances of breaking into new social circles, but also saves you time from being the agreeable random guy no one cared about.

[–]RedHoodhandles1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Great Post.

• Deep improvement within facet/s of your life which hold ‘universal’ appeal. These include health/fitness, money, status, etc. The things which intelligent people will debate the how of, but only idiots will debate the why.

Would you mind explaining why you think that it's not worth debating the why? Without a 'why' there is no need for a 'how'.

[–]Bigjohnthug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Why human beings appreciate health, wealth and status is ingrained in our DNA. In short, reproductive fitness. It's very common knowledge here so I didn't bother elaborating, whilst elsewhere it's 'known' but wilfully refuted. Imagine the old "No girls don't care if you're ripped/good looking/rich they just like you for you!" While the same girl describes her ideal man as...

[–]Young-disciple0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

great post!!

At any one time you’re capable of accessing about 1% of the input you’re receiving and will be actively engaged with <0.1%. In other words, the thoughts you have right now- your consciousness- are 0.1% of information you’re processing.

this part really caught my eyes and i think it's really powerful, can you elaborate more on it, and maybe give me you insights about it?

also if possible can you give me the source of that information.

thanks alot!!

[–]MadGeekling0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How to start a cult - Step 1 write manifesto

[–]davmpls0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

All Red Pillers make the same mistake. There's all this good advice about self-discipline and goals. And then there's the sexism. All you'll end up with are messed up women who love being mistreated. It's a lock and a key. I hope you find her.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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