This field report is somewhat following the last report I wrote. If you haven't read it, I'll copy and paste the important facts.

"Quick notes about me; Live in a small town with my parents due to university work. I'll be stuck here for a year or two before I graduate. Not only that, my parents are traditional and priests. Going out is prohibited in any shape or form. If I want to go on a night out, I literally have to lie, pretend, travel miles to another city only to come back and get in deep shit. Due to this, I've only been on nights out about 2-3 times in my life? Prior to this year I had never been out.

On all the nights I was out, it was with a few PUA dudes but I was fucking useless. After the last night I decided to call it quits and just stick to what I can do. Got into lifting, approached girls from the gym, college approaching and working on my business. I basically accepted that I couldn't do night game so I optimised for everything else. Read the books and improved myself."

At the start of this week I was able to travel back to my home city to spend some time with friends I haven't seen in a long time. I was ridiculously excited due to how much I have changed and how different I will be to them.

The gathering is quite good, we go out to eat, buy some drinks, head back to my place and stay there for a while before going out at night. One important thing to notice was that my friends kept on bringing up how much money I seemed to have. I was able to pay for the dinner, expensive taxis and all the other stuff (Financially independent). I run my own business whilst the rest of the guys work and even then they are all broke. In the days when I wasn't able to go out partying and drinking, I spent my time working on my business to get to the stage that I am at now.

Now for the actual night out, the night was dead due to being the start of the week right after new years. When we eventually found a club, it wasn't too filled but we went in and had a couple of drinks. Drinking has no effect on me whatsoever. In fact, I feel as though if you drink at all to rely on any sort of "fake" confidence. It's destructive. The thing with this club was that it was more of a dancing club than talking and dancing is my biggest roadblock. I just could never do it due to feeling awkward.

Now I'm not going to sit here and say that I gained some godly feeling and stood up. I just looked around me and decided that there was no point in acting like this. I went up to the dance floor with my friends and started moving my body a little then eventually breaking out into my dance. I dance all the time when I'm at home so why couldn't I do it here? I start dancing and enjoying myself and immediately the whole thing clicks. I realise that nobody actually cares. Hell, my dancing was crazy, so crazy that people started watching, in a good way. A girl tried to dance with me but I apparently didn't notice. The second time she tried it, we danced together and I could tell she was into me. Her boyfriend stood behind angrily before pulling her out. The reason I did the dancing in the first place was because I follow the statement of "Become comfortable with the uncomfortable".

One of my friends who had never been out with me before and was quite introverted/BP straight up told me to calm down because my dancing was crazy. This was an attempt to shut me down. Don't get me wrong, I love the dude but had this been me years ago, I'd have listened and stopped dancing. I kept it up and eventually he said that what I was doing was pretty cool.

That was an important lesson. My own friend was telling me to stop doing something whilst he wasn't even dancing only to then tell me how cool it is. Crab bucket mentality at it's finest.

At this point I had reached my zone. Nothing further could phase me. I was sitting with my guys at one point, they then told me to go and dance with a girl. I picked the nearest in front of me, walked up to her and started dancing. It went well. I just left the set due to it being too loud and unable to hear her. I wasn't doing it to pull.

After that, we go to a bar. At this point it's roughly 2am and places are starting to close. My friends and I were sitting but I knew I had to approach at least one girl. Sitting directly behind us is a group of three girls. I don't even think about it and go up to them.

The conversation blasts off. It goes really well to the point that the girls even push off one of their friends to allow me to sit in. I completely dominate set until my friend comes. This worked in my favor as one of the girls started talking to him. I was then able to spend time talking to one of the girls who seemed to be into me. Within minutes she starts making out with me. Passionately too. The girl tried to pull my clothes off in the fucking club. It quickly cuts and she basically asks me to take her home. Now due to some arguments between my friend and her friends, they wouldn't let the girl go anywhere.

Whilst her friends aren't looking the girl gives me her details and makes out with me quickly before whispering "tomorrow" in my ear.

My friends and I get home and chill.

HB Experience

Now this part is an extra to my trip but I imagine it could be very useful to some people. My sister has a close friend who is literally a HB 10, running her own business and a youtube channel. She lives in a big expensive apartment and wanted me to come stay with her. She is something of a big sister to me so she always gives me advice. I have to say that this girl is a mix of pure experience and redpill.

I learned so much from this girl in the short span I stayed with her. The list below is what she personally told me. Her name is Emilia

  • Always address problems straight and directly. At one point, she received a call from a client who was trying to complain and lie about her business. At this point, if Emilia ignored it or didn't sort it out, the client could have spread bad words about her business, she could have potentially lost money and other things. What did she do? She took the phone and hit the client with straight facts. Her attitude was absolutely unshattering, comparable to something you'd see from a lawyer who knows that they have won the case.

After the call, I asked her how she was able to act in that fashion towards the client when she could have lost everything. Her response was that the business will continue with or without that client's input. One person makes no difference to her work.

The client hung up the phone rudely on her after Emilia stated that she wouldn't provide free service. After a few moments, Emilia calls the client, telling them that she is aware that they hung up the phone on her but it isn't important. She then proceeds to offer free service to the client.

When explaining why she did that, she told me that sometimes in life you need to repay rudeness with kindness.

The last lesson she taught me that night was that almost nothing in this world is personal. If a girl rejects you, if a business goes wrong, it isn't personal. You just move on.

Of course she gave me a ton of other relationship advice but it was pertaining to small and personal things.

Seeing her phone made me realise how crazy life was for a girl like her. She has three phones, all of them are filled to the brim with notifications. One guy making six figures buying an island messaged her to ask her for her opinion and to come visit him. I don't even know how a guy would go about getting a girl like her.

We also had a discussion about Instagram models. She essentially told me something about Instagram "models" basically being bitches to Arab men. Apparently some girls let these men do shit like golden showers on them. All so that they can get a trip to Dubai and some money.

Lessons:

  • Finance and work comes FIRST. I cannot emphasise this enough. Throughout the journey, everyone kept on asking how I was able to afford things. From girls to guys. I made my money and now it has allowed me to relax.

  • Become comfortable with the uncomfortable: I literally seek situations that make me uncomfortable. Have you tried approaching 10 girls before? or one girl who looks like she is a high quality model? Try something that scares you.

  • Learn control: I'm only 19 and yet almost nothing phases me. I've made business deals that could have cost me my car and everything else I owned, I've taken risks, I've read books upon books and I actually have a plan for where I want to be. Compare that to the general population, you go into a club and people my age and roughly older than me are drinking away their problems so that they can go to work on Monday and continue. Because of this they're all the same. I have been repeatedly telling my friends this. Always maintain control over your emotions. Always look for a positive in a negative situation.

  • Nobody cares about you: I said this in my last report and I'll say it again. Nobody gives a single shit about you. The girl I kissed that night? She probably doesn't even remember me. Nobody cares what you do so just do it.

  • Rejection means absolutely nothing: This is my greatest feat. I'm now able to ignore and bounce back from any rejection. I've been rejected almost every day this week and now it's to the point where I don't even notice it. Literally nothing can affect you. A girl doesn't reply to your message? There are billions of other girls in the world and you're hung up on one.

  • I'd say lift weights but you already know that.

Cheers