Summary: This is something that's been kicking my ass emotionally lately, because I saw TRP as a new way to interact with women without using it as a way of life. Social structures I had created as a beta that felt good and familiar I didn't feel a need to change. I'm giving this advice so recoveries reassess their social life right now and determine if they're ignoring a similar time bomb that I was.

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Long story short a girl I knew for 7-8 years and called my best friend decided she didn't care if I walked out of her life (whole story for the bored and yes I realize how Blue Pill this sounds as it was written before this epiphany).

After a bit of reflection I realized I've just been another orbiter to this girl and she dumped me when a more interesting one (an alpha) came along. My mind didn't see it that way because I still viewed her as I did in the past, through the Blue Pill lens, as a friend. I wasn't taking what I know now and applying it to our friendship because I didn't want it to change.

When I got a hint that things were going badly I started using a variant of "No Contact" (where I respond but kill the conversation within 2 responses) and it was beginning to work like a charm. I went from getting one message from her in one month to two messages within three days (it gradually increased). Although instead of seeing how well it was working I saw it as me playing games with my friend. So I reverted back to my beta ways and within a few weeks we stopped being friends.

Lesson: The hard lesson I learned is that Blue Pill logic doesn't work with any woman no matter how much you want it to. Don't be like me, let the past die.