How do you deal with that thought "No one gives a fuck about me and no one ever will." I am truly alone.

1-800-CALL-MGTOW · 2018-09-04T02:54:31+00:00

You're free to do whatever the hell you want to

cafeorange · 2018-09-04T02:57:20+00:00

Thats not only a thought. Its fact and reality. Oh wait theres one person who give lottas fk. That is yourself. Ok let say you are the most richest person, happiest person with the most loving family and relative. At your last breath no one but yourself have to face it yes face it alone.

Onidramon · 2018-09-04T03:03:09+00:00

Chew on it a bit. Savor the bitterness. Eat it. Digest it. Shit it out. Build a shelf. Grill some ribs. Lift weights.

Whitegamerinc_Twitch · 2018-09-04T02:57:48+00:00

Accept it and realize the only person who can truly give a fuck about you is yourself. Strive to be who you want to be and do what you want to do. Fuck everyone and everything else.

Wallstreet3 · 2018-09-04T03:05:57+00:00

I am alone. Finally! Surrounded by my equals!

Who cares. I have always felt alone. It is nothing new. From a child I've had no one else but myself for a companion. No one has sheltered me, clothed me, or fed me. Its all been me. No one has ever given a fuck about me.

No one fucking owns a sliver of me. Only I do.

Being alone is a price I am happy to pay for freedom. Responsibility is the cross we die in. Its the old folks retirement home where we languish in indignity. Its the plantation where we work for others enrichment. Its the insane asylum where the doctors and orderlies are the patients. Its the zoo where we are alienated from our true natures and live lives of false consciousness.

MenGoingTOWin · 2018-09-04T02:58:58+00:00

Create a tulpa?

pepe_the_third · 2018-09-04T03:38:11+00:00

I find it comforting. I traded attachment for freedom.

flee_market · 2018-09-04T04:45:42+00:00

You are not alone - because millions of other men are in your situation and would understand if you talked about it with them.

You are, however, free, and that is more valuable than words can express.

SleepyMethHead · 2018-09-04T05:53:21+00:00

No family or friends? Fuck female validation man. If that’s what’s bringing you down don’t let it.

zangatti · 2018-09-04T03:05:46+00:00

Learn to love yourself now that you know the truth

marcopoloman · 2018-09-04T03:13:56+00:00

Do you care about yourself? That's all you need

strongandhappy · 2018-09-04T03:50:36+00:00

That need for deep understanding is bullshit Disney and advertisement programming. It's not natural. Our generation was raised to be simps, not men. Meditate on masculinity and you'll find your way.

D0p3y3 · 2018-09-04T03:58:33+00:00

I mean getting a dog will solve that. But at the end of the day I got toys most dudes in relationships aren't allowed to have.

hypergamous · 2018-09-04T03:04:54+00:00

Question: How do you deal with that thought?

Answer: Motivated to move forward every day. At times by leaps and bounds - other times its inch by inch.

Biblically: Even Jesus had to go it alone, had 12 people with him and in the end, the loyal ones he took with him fell asleep on the day he needed them to be supportive.

Personally: Get your shit together, or go back to the plantation, but that's me - you do you!

Go whatever way is for YOU. With freedom comes the weight of creating your own reality.

Best to you on the journey.

Alocaco · 2018-09-04T03:10:47+00:00

if you're asking that question in general: that thought never comes to my mind. I knew that being alone was the consequence of me going my own way.

if you're asking this question because 'that thought is going through your mind', maybe you need to reevaluate the path you're on.

lone_nordic_wolf · 2018-09-04T03:14:24+00:00

No one will ever give a fuck about your life as much as yourself, self-preservation drive. You live alone with your life experiences, and die alone with them. Energy converted, matter transforms, and the universe machine moves forward.

Once you accept and embrace that cold but real concept, like accepting mortality, you don’t need to fear it. Let it drive you to follow your passions.

I know it’s easy to say... I still have the occasional existential crisis “what is my purpose”... but it passes and will be resolved.

Crisis - look at :32

Liammgtow · 2018-09-04T03:23:10+00:00

I'm not alone I spent far too much time on the road busting my ass with no appreciation the f****** little gray kitty cat will not leave me alone or let me out of her sight get used to it you're born into this world alone and you die alone no one gets a f****** s*** about you even God damn Google speak cast spell no one gives a f****** s*** about you just be glad you don't have a bunch of parasites pretending that they give a f*** the s*** about you when no one gives a s*** about you I had to put my dog to sleep for a s***** job he was elderly and needed constant care and of course there is no one available to give the dog constant care he could have lived a while longer I had to put him to sleep to go on a stupid shity job which I have subsequently quit because I'm at an extremely talented Carpenter but I don't need the stress of trying to make furniture gray cabinets on a rickety table saw with a Harbor Freight circular saw although the cabinet's didn't come out looking bad my idiot of a simp wimpy boss was bitching that they weren't f****** perfect Going Your Own Way means going your own way it also means not allowing yourself to be used when you're dealing with an idiot micromanaging boss who manages to get hurt every time we went on a job had one tenth of my talent but could point out every single one of my mistakes the point is being migtow and its simplest forms is telling assholes to go f*** themselves you see assholes cannot exist without hard-working decent confident men and assholes much like women cannot exist without the decent confident man did you ever notice your idiot boss will be riding you that you are the most incompetent bastard he has ever met and as soon as you say I quit you get the grumbling wimpy I need you you need me but I don't need you.

2018-09-04T03:23:43+00:00

One answer is to get a job or volunteer somewhere that will matter, somehow. That is, where you will seriously be missed if you don't show up.

2018-09-04T03:49:06+00:00

The way you deal with blue pill thoughts like those is to take more red pills per day, stop being a victim, undo the brainwashing, do things you enjoy and get stronger physically and mentally.

User-31f64a4e · 2018-09-04T04:18:03+00:00

Thoughts are mostly unimportant.

Most thoughts are just like clouds drifting across the blue sky of your mind.
They have no substance. They will be gone in a few moments. They do not matter.

Sure, sometimes you have a great insight or idea. They aren't actually all that common, but they happen. When they do, great!

The funny thing is though, those insights and great creative ideas can't very well occur if you let your mind get crowded with rubbish, like the thought you just mentioned.

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Alternatively, you might extract the tiny piece of insight in that thought - that you are alone, so self reliance is necessary - and file it away.

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The problem is that most people will not just file it away as a description of reality.
Instead, they will attach a feeling to it. Pleasant or unpleasant. So they will grasp and desire it, or be repelled and push it away. Actually, most of what we meet is not subject to the passion or aggression I just mentioned, but rather with ignorance. Who cares? What does it matter? Ignore it! Fughedaboutit!
This is as bad as grasping or aversion, as it can lead us to tune out useful information.

MGTOW, PUA, Red Pill and MRA are actually about NOT tuning out useful information. Everyone sees women, and male-female interaction, many every day! Despite that, they are disinterested in its nature, and tune out the vast profusion of data right there in direct contact with their senses. Data we call the red pill!

So back to the thought. Only if you can just let it be and sit with it, can it be useful in describing reality. Only if you can strip it of emotional charge and be with it, can you use it a basis to come up with skillful actions. Skillful action is the name of the game; actively navigating the world.

There you go grasshopper, hope that helps!

ResidentTruck · 2018-09-04T07:04:03+00:00

Lol, you haven't even scratched the surface. When it comes down to it, "you" don't even exist. Your memories aren't real things, even the thoughts you're thinking right this instant don't have any "you" to think them. It's entirely possible that nothing exists. Does it matter, though? To you, personally? Does it make a difference in your day-to-day?

Do yourself a favor and don't dwell on shit like this. I suggest getting up and going out and doing something. Nothing like getting your hands dirty to get your head out of the clouds.

2018-09-04T07:10:23+00:00

I reflect that fact back in peoples faces. I let everyone know by not acknowledging they exist and they are dog shit. People that used to use and abuse me or never gave me the time of day. I vanish like a ghost. And the harder they try to find me. The more power I realize I have. And I only care and love myself. I used to think it was selfish, but now I know its the most beautiful thing in "this" world.

MenGoingTOWin · 2018-09-04T04:36:31+00:00

Maybe a tulpa was a bad suggestion for your situation, but several other people I think already basically told you that other people don't matter and to stop giving your power to them.

Being sad is much easier. It's comfortable. It's like you're winning because you get the result you expect ( depression ) without any effort. You can't fail at being sad, but you can sure fail at winning! So why even try? .......

You've got to forgive yourself for being how you are. When you accept where you are, then you can strive to be the person you always wished you were: you just do those things that you imagine the "perfect you" doing, and if you make a mistake you analyze it and do better next time. There really isn't any such thing as a mistake -- only an opportunity to learn. You make that opportunity into a mistake by being mad about it instead of seeing your failure more like an experiment and growing from it.

It starts that you need to realize that doing anything and having any goals is better than being mad that you don't have them. And then just do it. Don't worry about doing something, tell yourself you're going to get off your ass and do it. If it doesn't work out like you thought, you already know you're going to analyze why and be more likely to succeed in all future endeavours because of the effort. So what's there really to lose?

Define who you want to be based on your own desires, not pressure from society, not shame from shitty people. That society and those shitty people are the ones who blue pilled you in the first place! They're not on your team no matter how much you wish otherwise. And to get the people on your team that you want, you need to make yourself a worthy teammate. This is going to take time and effort, there is no magic switch, no magic line, no magic incantation to grant you this. Just work. Work that YOU know to be valuable because YOU want it, not work that someone else told you was valuable and you don't care about.

Mgtaoteching · 2018-09-04T09:37:37+00:00

Turn that thought around. Do you give a fuck about you? If not, ask yourself why. If you do give a fuck about you, that means someone gives a fuck about you. When you do give a fuck about yourself, and grow your self-love, feelings of being alone tend to go away. You may be alone at the moment, but life is a whole other ball game if you have this perspective.

I think that being "truly alone" is also an illusion. Just a thought. We are all made out of the same star stuff, we all came from the big bang which is still an ongoing process. We are all in this together: men, women, the animals, trees, birds, and rocks. The sense of separation you have of yourself is an idea constructed by our society. By recognizing that all is one, you can turn your awareness on itself and have a chuckle that you think you are alone.

Hymandestruction · 2018-09-04T10:12:10+00:00

Embrace it... not like a woman can truly help that feeling anyways... you were born alone and you will die alone once you except these truths you are truly free

Willinbc · 2018-09-04T17:08:04+00:00

I had a friend years ago named Clay. Anytime I over thought things or made statements similar to yours he would shrug his shoulders and say " Don't worry about it. " And he meant it !

Title	How do you deal with that thought "No one gives a fuck about me and no one ever will." I am truly alone.
Author	OmegaChance
Upvotes	10
Comments	33
Date	September 4, 2018 2:53 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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