I dont know what to do next

Swapnil9 · 2018-08-19T13:36:46+00:00

Travel. Traveling is a sign of wealth and freedom. Travel as much as you can. And see as much of this world and it's beautiful people, and natural beauty before you die.

That's what I plan to do. Good to know a MGTOW brother is doing well and not wasting resources on feminazis.

SaltTax · 2018-08-19T14:58:04+00:00

Depression is the curse of intelligence, friend. Pigs are happy wallowing in shit. That doesn't mean it's a good thing to do.

kjlh9 · 2018-08-19T16:20:20+00:00

You need a goal/mission in life. Something to strive for. Stagnation is a cause for depression.

jkarovskaya · 2018-08-19T17:06:15+00:00

Damn, you are in a position that many married men would die for

YOu have a portable skill to make great money

You are not tied to a wife and children, and her family making demands on you

You have financial independence , and even have assets

You have freedom to move anywhere in the world

You have intelligence, education, and wisdom to be MGTOW

Your horizon is literally unlimited.

That is true liberty.

Maybe what you need is a really interesting hobby or pursuit outside of work.

Learn how to fly an airplane. Get a keyboard, and learn how to play. Get a motorcyle. Join a club or take some classes to learn how to brew beer, build furniture, or make bladed weapons.

If there's nothing else, you could go get some counseling from a male therapist who might be sympathetic, and who could give you some perspective.

Best of luck!

darkmanilluminate · 2018-08-19T16:00:51+00:00

Meditate. Seriously. Depression is a screen--there are worlds beyond worlds on the other side. & the travel thing-- but I would specify NATURE. Get outside, it's a beautiful world. Learn to surf, or scuba, take a long circuit hike. Camp under the stars. Pick another culture that intrigues you & go explore. Life is way shorter than you realize, & a gift. Honor the opportunity!

Luke050715 · 2018-08-19T13:33:10+00:00

If I was you I would get a pet and make friends.

iseehot · 2018-08-19T17:49:51+00:00

The way you are living now is the dream of the 20 year old you, but you are at the destination and look around and it's not what you expected. You're comfortable and finding that it doesn't result in happiness.

You will not find the answer pairing up with someone or buying better stuff. You need a new set of challenges. I know a successful paralegal (he is very good at his job) who is a smokejumper in the summer. I'm not saying risk your life, but try to remember what the younger you leaned toward. That may be a clue.

When you get to that next level, you will look around and say, "This is it?" Then you will realize that life is the journey and will look for your next path.

hart-r · 2018-08-19T13:34:18+00:00

So nice to hear you are on a great path! Family, friends, self-enrichment are all yours.

Your ex re-appearing is not coincidental. AWALT. Awesome ghosting - the best engagement is no engagement.

Congrats. Be grateful for all the great things you’ve got going on so far.You will be especially thankful once you re-visit your divorce raped friends in a decade or so ... in the meantime, maybe some likeminded males around you would help.

“It’s estimated that 3 out of 4 marriages fail. If you went up in a plane with 4 parachutes, knowing that 3 would probably fail, would you jump?”

PS. Somewhat similar situation here. I think of my divorce rape and see my blue-pilled friends and thot watch a bit ... then, I’m ok again.

Blacknvegas71 · 2018-08-19T13:57:00+00:00

Your unhappiness doesn't sound MGTOW related. Seems you're unhappy within yourself. I'll bet you, your so called happily married friends won't be happy in 2 years. Half will either be cheating, being cheated on, or absolutely miserable. Young brother you need to find your center and go from there.

ABrokenBeing · 2018-08-19T15:32:12+00:00

Get a hobby?

If I had money and freedom I’d be checking out all the fun physical activities available in my area to try out and chances are there will be people I can make friends with.

I’d love to have what you have, I’ve got so much less going for me but I keep the depression away because it isn’t what I have it’s what I do with it that really counts.

unsheddogmatisms · 2018-08-19T17:17:28+00:00

Tighten up your circadian rhythms. Greet the sunrise. Limit light exposure at night. Get outside more in general.

mgtow-journey · 2018-08-19T16:25:19+00:00

I'd argue in favour of a hobby that furthers you as a person. Be that meditation, travelling or something physical (climbing, hiking), what is not important - just do something that stimulates your mind as well as your body.

UAV_Pilot · 2018-08-19T13:35:45+00:00

Many of us go through this. First remember that this feeling is temporary as is your friends’ happiness being married. Unfortunately those will end miserably for many of them. You will be the one they look to and admire. Work through this period of time and use some of your resources to travel, sail, scuba dive, earn your pilots license etc. in short become more than you are now. Throw some pics on here of places you are experiencing. Good luck to you bro.

AtoZZZ · 2018-08-19T18:02:27+00:00

The problem is that even it seems like I am "living the dream" I am constantly depressed. I do not know what to do with myself. All guys around me are getting married and they even seem to be happy about as they are the initiative ones and I am asking myself - jesus fuck what I am doing with myself really?

My friend, I feel that is your biggest problem. You're comparing yourself to others (to measure happiness). Don't compare yourself. Just live your best life and do what makes you happy. You don't need to follow a certain path to be happy, you just need to live your own life. Hope this helps dude

bangbang_maxwell · 2018-08-19T19:05:56+00:00

I was stuck in a 3 year depression after a break up and loss of a family member. The only thing that got me out of it was long hikes and visiting different state parks.

JPDG · 2018-08-19T13:34:06+00:00

How's your workout routine? Diet? Community of male friends?

cycloneous · 2018-08-19T14:02:59+00:00

OP, I am sorry to hear you are depressed. One thing you may way to do is start a work out routine, and get involved into something, like a volunteering or get a hobby. This will help offset any issues in some aspect. Another thing is may be to get into martial arts or get into qi gong (meditation). As an example, martial arts has helped me a lot since I didn't know many people where I live, and now I know plenty of people. Something to ponder, and I hope you are able to kick the depression bucket down the road.

Most_Insane_F2P · 2018-08-19T14:42:52+00:00

Eerily similar situation here. Would love to here advice. Maybe we are already at the top of the mountain and "too smart for your own good"?

We know - and it has been proven with data - that when men start with a wife and kids they have lower levels of happiness.

Perhaps depression is a counter reponse to working with our heads all the day.

pitros · 2018-08-19T15:47:52+00:00

Start reading philosophy texts. Why? Why not? And if you are looking for some deep sense but you cant find it, (just like me) then it seems logical to read texts written by the people who also was searching for deep sense, isnt it?

Go with Lucius Annaeus Seneca (the younger one) first.

Mapispema-ta · 2018-08-19T16:28:35+00:00

Go get married then😂

sandwich2000 · 2018-08-19T17:06:08+00:00

I know what you mean. I have days like this sometimes and then I also have days where things are amazing. The key is recognize what makes the amazing days amazing and do more of that. For me, it's hanging out with good bro friends doing hobbies like fishing, boating, camping, riding motorcycles, playing music. I've noticed that I'm usually only depressed when I'm *bored. Recognizing that you're bored is not as easy as it used to be pre-internet / pre-smartphone. Once you recognize the boredom, and put the phone down for a bit, you can take control and focus on what matters to you.

owninfools007 · 2018-08-19T17:16:45+00:00

Not having a woman makes you depressed, I get it. You need to start at the core, value yourself and figure out who you are. Dive in to your hobbies and interests, focus on that.

1st10Amendments · 2018-08-19T18:20:46+00:00

Happiness comes from counting your blessings; counting the things that you DON'T have leads to misery.
It's trite, I know, but it is also true. I was morose for most of my life until I started focusing on appreciating what I had rather than what was missing from my life. I still didn't have that stuff, but I didn't miss it.

hov2787 · 2018-08-19T19:37:06+00:00

Check your T bro, you’ll be surprised most probably that is low.

Get it corrected on a level of 18 years olds, you’ll have no depression whatsoever

Guaranteed

cobaltcolander · 2018-08-19T20:01:47+00:00

It's clinical depression and MGTOWs aren't immune to it. I mean, WTF do you think, that being MGTOW will shield you from disease? Go see a doctor right the fuck now.

pauljs75 · 2018-08-19T20:22:30+00:00

Probably need downtime from work, and take on a hobby. Sounds like you've got the money for it, so why not? (I wish I could give better advice, but I hail from the opposite end. Trouble finding work and there are some things I'd like to do, having time isn't the issue but broke AF so I can't really give them a try myself.)

dvbtupanit · 2018-08-19T20:32:07+00:00

Visit some divorce cases at the court, it'll heal your depression.

TwentyOneBeers · 2018-08-19T20:37:16+00:00

Watch some stardusk on youtube, the dude saved me from depression, especially "man, the selfloathing" and "the endgame" the dude is a god. He and a few others took mgtow to the next level, introspection and understanding of the world and of self, i was feeling really down last year, somehow pushed myself to go for a jog in the park and listened to "man the selfloathing" it's like a fucking glass wall broke in front of me and i started for the first time seeing the true colors of this world.

pariscafet · 2018-08-19T21:48:54+00:00

Looking for a mission? Help other cucks out who desperately want to be in your situation. Write a book- how did you do it? That's what I want to know.

Walker501_S · 2018-08-20T00:14:17+00:00

Dude i think you're depressed because you plateaued and don't have goals. Are you in good shape? If no, start going to the gym. Lifting is very satisfying and you will feel a lot better. Scale your bussiness. Find a way to separate your time investment from the money you make. Hire stuff. Experiment with marketing. Don't stop.

igor_bloodscene · 2018-08-20T00:15:06+00:00

I am you exactly, a bit older, but without the depression.

Your problem is twofold:

1: you still have cravings for women, as your hormones are probably still going strong. as an eastern-european, probably you too come from a traditional upbringing, and you imagined your life with having a family. your friends getting married seemingly happy, is just the current state of affairs. you'll have to look at them in 5 years or so. things will change.

2: speaking of external validation: you are not okay with yourself and your solitude. set goals, learn languages, travel the world, make music (my goal whenever I get to the point where I don't have to work for money), make investments with your money to build your early retirement. all in all, have hobbies.

In my case, besides my work (which I love and would do even when I wouldn't have to), I have lots of other interests. I always say I'll never be bored, because the world is my oyster, packed full with interesting things.

xSlaveMasterXxx · 2018-08-20T02:33:56+00:00

Occupy urself with hobbies

2018-08-20T02:48:46+00:00

I'll trade you my brokeness and melancholy for your richness and depression.

jaie666 · 2018-08-20T06:06:13+00:00

For me I found peace in solitude, not the other way around. That's why being MGTOW is easy for me.

Anyway Im in IT as well and if you have a remote gig and need a helping hand let me know. Im serious :D

SPI-MGTOW · 2018-08-20T16:40:24+00:00

You should find a passion for something non-work-related: like fixing up cars, or growing food, or since you like traveling, maybe get a used RV or camper van (or convert a cargo van into a camper van) and travel where and when you want to. For your job, all you need is an internet connection. Check out people living in their vans - not saying you need to live in a van, but you can see how they've outfitted them very creatively. Check out the YouTube channel CheapRVLiving to get some inspiration. Travel to the Grand Canyon, or Yellowstone, or the Rockies, or the beach...

fezha · 2018-12-21T14:41:48+00:00

Step 1.

Drink or try new beers.

Step 2.

Aim to integrate into society. Ride the public system and visit areas only locals visit. Are you familiar with the host nation? Really? What's their favorite liquor? Or dish? How is it made? What's the biggest local attraction. If your best friend or relative asks you he'll visit your for a weekend, what would you do with him? What would you take him see? You tell me, you live.

Step 3.

Visit a brothel, talk to a couple of hard working girls, enjoy the show.

Tldr; get drunk, get cultured hard, and make love to a woman. Don't forget to exercise in the morning.

Source:been living in Central Europe for 2 years.

Visit local strip clubs

iManZul · 2018-08-19T16:50:37+00:00

You seem like needing more depression Go get married, you need it.

Or

if you just want kid Learn about surrogation Sex? Go to red light district

GoingCamaro · 2018-08-19T15:10:44+00:00

Maybe some high end escorts. Maybe a trip to the US, specifically Vegas. Take $25K and just fucking blow it. Get a nice hotel/penthouse suite, rent a Lamborghini for a couple days, hit the Casinos, see some shows, get a little drunk... That's something I would consider if I had that much saved and wasn't sure what to do. Maybe getting a little impulsive for a week is what you need to break the routine.

Title	I dont know what to do next
Author	tralala501
Upvotes	50
Comments	51
Date	August 19, 2018 1:25 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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