The original article by you know who : https://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/

I know my post is stating the obvious, but IMHO the male perspective on this needs to be explained a bit more, especially in the context of fairness based egalitarian arguments.

Apart from the need for men to spread their seed vs the much greater need for women to have an exclusive relationship with a man, there is another point.

With men, if they aren't suffering from oneitis, sex and game only get better and better with experience and awareness. In other words, a man always brings (or at least tries to bring) his best game to the table by default. And that's where male logic fails when it's applied to women. Most men's guts are aware of this, but the culture today can easily convince their minds to rationalize it away ("Dear regressive patriarchal men, don't judge a woman by her past. She's mature now....").

With women, they save their best for the alpha lovers of her teens and 20s and by the time they settle down they don't really have that same spice with their 'provider husbands'. It's part Beta Bucks, and it's part alpha widowing.

Many a married man has been quite surprised and even angered at this revelation, because that's not how men would do it. Men can get better at sex and game over time, women, once alpha widowed, do not. Any man believing otherwise is heading straight for the edge of a cliff plunging into disappointment.

There is no equivalent of this in a man. It is possible for men to prefer one female over another based on attractiveness and how they are treated by women or sometimes chemistry, but men naturally never do anything like 'saving their best' for their college girlfriends only - there is simply not so much polarity or a clashing system of needs for a man.

Men usually suffer more from the difference between the hottest girl in the room and a more moderately attractive one. The sheer strength of the male drive compensates for SMV variations quite well though, especially once a man realizes that beautiful women are plentiful. Pair bonding is a different story, but if you look at patriarchal societies, men have room for more.

The second point about 'saving her best' has to do with the betaization process. A woman's attraction to her lover climaxes when she has secured her man's love exclusively for her, which is why virtually every other movie or romance novel you see or hear about is either "Happily ever after" just after the moment of securing exclusivity, or a star crossed lover story where she pines for her lover, which is basically keeping up the intensity indefinitely. Marriage or pregnancy therefore, is post climax by default for a woman. And that's why dread and separation games work so well most of the time, but also why their effectiveness often declines after marriage or pregnancy.

A man's climax is the sex that comes after that part, and his climax goes on for much longer thanks to a fantastic sex drive that switches on with no effort (and which, on the flip side, blinds him to the way the woman sees it, until reality ensues). As far as the betaization process goes, there is no equivalent in a man. Intrinsically every man is aware that unattractive women (both in looks and behaviour) make terrible partners and mothers. A man gains nothing from making his girl less attractive, except a fat feminist.