There’s an episode of Always Sunny in Philadelphia where Dennis talks about his “God Hole”- a proverbial hole in his heart that most seek to fill with religion, but he tries to fill with pussy. Link is here because it’s hilarious, but that’s all the relevant information.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Wf7IgoXQk-M

Just moments ago, I read a post on here about someone who lost their virginity to a hottie and was underwhelmed- realizing that perhaps what he wanted was companionship and not sex.

I do not want this to sound judgmental, so don’t take it that way, because this post is for people undergoing the same struggle as that other poster: You will never be able to fill your proverbial “God-hole” with a woman.

It is unfortunate, in fact it’s THE reality that crushes the disney fantasy. To be emotionally dependent on a woman kills her attraction, a catch-22 that prevents a happy bluepill love life from ever coming to fruition.

In my times of struggle with that concept - still hoping, in an animalistic desperation, not a logical hope that love could be real- one quote carried me from hoping to find a woman to fulfill me to me fulfilling myself:

“The more a man can do for himself, the less he looks for in others.”

The point of all this is ultimately to liberate the users here from bluepill orbiter betadom (hell) and this is the crux of this salvation. Everything you need to be happy CAN and MUST be found inside yourself. And not in a “you have to love yourself to love someone else” tumblr bullshit way, I mean you have to be capable of being completely independent to be able to live comfortably in an interdependent state.

Think of it this way: If you want love to elevate you out of an emotional hole, you will never be happy. If you dig yourself out of the hole, then seek outside comforts to elevate you just a little higher, you can then fully enjoy those things. This is the real reason we push abundance mentality - scarcity implies you’re in the aforementioned hole, and then you contribute nothing to anyone. In fact, you hope that THEY contribute to YOU.

Find self-satisfaction however you want. For me, it was as simple as internalizing the above. I was already where I needed to be (hobbies, lifting, meditating, etc...) but I needed a “why” to really comprehend it all and allow myself to be happy. Do the same for yourselves. Monk Mode is indispensable.

TL;DR we all have unfulfilled parts of our spirit. Fill it with yourself, stop pretending “love” will ever make you happy.