Red pill often talks of how to get laid, how to spin many plates, how to get your shit together. All of this is well and great. Lately I've seen a lot of discouraging post about the system altogether. If woman are so horrible as they seem to be is there even any hope of finding a good woman?

This may come off as anti RP but I do not mean for it to be. There are still some things missing here at TRP, depending on your intentions. If your intent is not to get laid but to find a great partner you connect with then this post is more geared towards you.

First off I hope you are very very lucky. Dating a girl you barely know puts things in a "were trying this" mode. It isn't natural, it will often feel forced. Having sex before getting to know her very well, more often than not, will often mean you will not get to know each other very well.

Consider how many things in life are better when you have to work for them, when you have to wait. The leave as fast as they come in is the saying I believe. As I said, you gotta be very lucky but of course act on opportunity. Ideally you meet a girl at work, or at a consistent social gathering where there is chemistry and you are drawn to each other. When the time feels right, start doing activities together. If you truly have your shit together the friend zone is nothing to fear. Your intentions are well known but you're being patient. Take it slow, let it unfold.

I suggest looking to:

-Find a girl who doesn't take many selfies or selfies at all -Find a girl who is young, and mostly been in consistent relationships -Possibly a girl from a smaller town or the midwest -Find a girl who has empathy for other people -Find a girl that doesn't complain a lot, but is obviously submissive and sensitive

If you find a girl you have chemistry with, where the conversation flows easily and endlessly, most of the issues won't be an issue.

I think by the time you're on a first date you should have already built up loads of tension and interest. You should be able to talk about needing to take a shit or her periods. Then you ease into sex and moving things faster. You can't amass great depth in a rush.

I discovered that once my lust for sex and banging as many women as I could went away, I couldn't get the women to stay interested. If you're not sincerely into a girl other than the interest being sexual attraction then most likely she will pick up on it. From your perspective this is like a woman who wants you as someone to settle down with, support her, be her bf. Not very attractive is it? She might still want your power and your cock, but she will probably never take it very seriously if you don't. The same as you may like hanging out with rich people, movie stars, chads, but if you don't have a good friendship who gives a shit if you screw them over? Your relationship was purely based on these instinctual, often ego based, desires.

Think of it like being an Alpha who can do beta things in an alpha way. Can you actually hold her hand and really fucking mean it? The problem with beta behavior is not necessarily the behaviors but the intentions behind those behaviors.

Yeah, the majority of women out there are shit. Finding a good one and one you connect with is going to be like winning the lottery. I still recall talking to an older red piller on here who I thought was crazy at first. "Yeah my first date with a girl is 30 minutes, then were done. If she passes that test there is a second. Then maybe by the 4th or 5th date we will have sex." I've come to realize this is a much better approach to having something meaningful. If you do stay together with that one night stand, you might be wasting your time and splitting your interest up into a weak watered down apathy stew.

I have only seen in my experiences that the longer you get to know each other and slower you take it, the better it is. Hell, at this point I would just tell this to a girl from day one. "You know why you can't find a guy, here is why. If you want something good you need to go about it like this. Get off tinder, quit posting selfies of yourself for validation, be a good woman and you'll find a good man."

Even if she cheats in the future or leaves you, you're going to be one of the rare men who acted differently. And while you may not ever take her back for her betrayal she will respect you and regret the decision. Personally I'd lay that shit out there as soon as possible. I don't think older women are always gravitating toward betas for the support. They would prefer something in between. They may be done with chads the same as I'm done with banging random women.

By the time sex just becomes sex, you're going to know that the best thing you could have is a partner you just like to be around. Because who gives a shit what anyone else thinks if they do it for you.