I've noticed the following phenomenon here in Tokyo:

Black man chooses Asian woman over Black. Black woman shames him ("He can't handle a strong woman/He doesn't know what he's missing.")

White man chooses Asian woman over White. White woman shames him. ("He can't handle a woman with an opinion. / He just wants a servant.")

Asian man chooses White (Black/Latino rarely happen) woman. Asian woman doesn't care.

What's going on here?