Texting girls to meet up is so fucking frustrating

edwardhwhite · 2016-08-09T20:59:31+00:00

Why are you expecting more? I don't understand. Women do this all the time. A number close means nothing. They are not dumb. They have a lot of options.

And you act butthurt all the time. You won't remember me! A loser play.

"That Instagram girl made me promise to text her the next day."

"I can't guarantee it." And get the number and text right way saying "this is AlanWattsRedPill"

You expect way to much from women. Way too much.

knightSwolaire · 2016-08-09T20:27:39+00:00

Wtf has become of this sub

corsega · 2016-08-09T22:59:14+00:00

Women have trouble saying no.

There is no way to avoid this. Develop abundance mentality.

I try to have at least five new girls in my texting rotation at all times. That means girls I haven't met up yet. I know that 2 or 3 will flake, so on any given night I hit up all of them sequentially, starting with the hottest lead first:

"Come over for dinner. 8 PM"

If she doesn't respond, I text the next one the same thing, rinse and repeat until you get a confirmation.

Kingtorythegreat · 2016-08-09T21:16:18+00:00

THIS CAN ONLY MEAN YOU DIDNT LIFT ENOUGH WEIGHTS LOLOLOLOL.

No but seriously. You don't know why they're flaking . Most likely they're not investing much in the interaction.

LordThunderbolt · 2016-08-09T22:09:06+00:00

You're not escalating enough. Never go for the number unless you've already made out with her. Based on what you wrote it sounds like they're genuinely attracted but only in the moment. You said a girl texted you one night out of nowhere and said she wanted to hang? What do you think she was expecting to happen that night? Exactly, she wanted you to clap them cheeks bruv. Stuff like that don't happen to regular dudes.

You're an attractive guy that's generating tingles but you're not escalating further. Makeout, see if you can score a bj in a bathroom etc. These girls night see you as a super Chad initially, so they're expecting you to take them on a wild sexual adventure that same moment.

swimngolf · 2016-08-09T20:57:58+00:00

escalate right then and there, instead of getting the number. worry about the number AFTER.

Expectations1 · 2016-08-09T21:06:37+00:00

Im sorry but this is one of those situations where you need to man up. If a woman isnt texting you back, or only texts you when you text her, she isnt attracted to you.

Start putting the people in your life that matter to you.

RedPillWintergreen · 2016-08-09T22:11:42+00:00

I'm a good looking guy with decent game and I'm pretty annoyed with how girls that I'm texting only want attention and don't actually want to meet up.

Well, obviously being a "good looking guy" with "decent game" isn't good enough. Sorry if that comes off a bit harsh but you're a man and on this sub so I assume you can deal with constructive criticism. Put your video game controller down, put your dick back in your pants and go back to the gym. Or read a book, or get ahead in your career, or start an interesting hobby, or go someplace and network with important people. Or all of the above. You have to set yourself apart to the point where they are complaining that you aren't texting them back. Sound difficult? Welcome to Darwinism. The good news is you have till your body becomes decrepit to slay pussy.

Either that or get a hooker.

Submissively_yours · 2016-08-09T20:43:20+00:00

A woman texts back if she is made excited by a man. A woman can just go on OKcupid if she wants to chat with a male who is sexually interested in her. Women are dogs, of course they are stupid and want attention. It's your job to make a dog follow you.

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-08-09T22:10:00+00:00

You are falling into their frame and letting them dictate things by "texting them".

If you are texting, and its not for logistics, you are digging your own grave.

If you meet a woman and get her number, do not text her for any reason unless its for logistics. Even if she asks you to text her. Mindless texting with no point will put you square into her frame every time.

There is a reason why we say text for logistics only. Any other texting will not work out in your favor.

Unholy_VI · 2016-08-09T23:22:40+00:00

You aren't being sexual. You've done step one which is to get confident enough to chat girls up. Now you need to take the next step. The common thread in all this is you not sealing the deal.

I'm in a similar place so not looking down on you bro. But if you were coming off as a sexy guy who likes sex and wants to have it with her you'll get less numbers and more rejection but the numbers you get will be less liable to flake.

edimaudo · 2016-08-09T20:58:50+00:00

Simple approach, call the person, ask if you want to meet up and get a quick answer. No need for the back and forth texting. Just my $0.02.

playdontpay · 2016-08-09T22:02:25+00:00

You need to make more of an emotional impact on these girls if you want call backs after meeting in bars/clubs.

You wouldn't believe how fast they will leave their friends for Chad, especially if they think they won't see him again if they don't take their chance there and then.

Improve your logistics if possible so it's easier to get them back to your place.

Stop saying negative shit to them " you won't call me back" etc. Assume the sale and stop taking these little girls so fucking seriously, treat them like they were your naughty little sister (amused mastery) and just have fun with the interactions.

kez88 · 2016-08-09T23:49:16+00:00

What are you texting them the next day? If its only 3 or 4 girls that shit happens, maybe next time you'll go out and a whole bunch will text you back in a row, its a numbers game, and sometimes random shit happens. my guess is you're being too 'friendly' to girls and not polarising enough. You're being a 'friendly guy' who in the moment they like talking to and is fun, but when you text them the next day when they're in a different mood and dont just want some friendly guy friend type of dude they dont text you back.

Try injecting a lot of sexuality, escalating a lot and being a little over aggressive, t hen see if you get a reply or not. (not over aggressive as in assaulting her, but just more so than what you might normally do.)

DarkConquerer · 2016-08-10T06:44:47+00:00

If girls are flaking on you, it means your not as attractive and/or your game isn't as good as you think it is. If the girls really wanted to follow up or hang out with you, they would find a way to get rid of their friends or respond to your texts.

stephcurryftw · 2016-08-09T20:35:33+00:00

Remember, a girl/woman's feelings only reflect the present and never the future. They can go from hot to cold in seconds with no logical reason whatsoever. That's why have no expectations from girls you just met, don't take whatever they say to heart.

[deleted] · 2016-08-09T20:47:37+00:00

Same things have happened to me plenty of times. Girl actually asking to exchange numbers to hang out, then they are "busy" or something else and it never happens.

For me, I'm just at the point where if I meet a woman at a bar or club and she's not going home with me, I won't give her my number. Just a waste of time trying to meet up again. I've always found it's about striking while the iron is hot

[deleted] · 2016-08-09T21:08:34+00:00

It’s getting to the point where if I don’t pull the girl I don’t even want to get her number. Because there’s no point and at least that will make her more likely to come home with me since she won’t see me again otherwise.

I can't disagree with this point you made.

Title	Texting girls to meet up is so fucking frustrating
Author	AlanWattsRedpill
Upvotes	0
Comments	20
Date	August 9, 2016 8:25 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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