Ahh, my first night out as a single man after a 4 year relationship. Luckily for me towards the end of it (last 4 months) I started working out like crazy and dropped 20 lbs of fat and put some muscle on. Now im 5'11'' and 174lbs. So anyone, whether in a relationship or not, WORK OUT. It definitely helps to give you some confidence.

I was heading to a local bar to meet up with 2 guy friends. One was bringing a chick he wanted to hook up with. I then arranged to meet up with a fling from my past that I havent seen in 4 years. I told her to come meet us out because in case I wasn't interested anymore I had easy outs.

Time is going by, Im at the bar talking to women (practicing my skills) around me and just focusing on having a good time (as is the mantra around here). I didn't need females to have a good time at all.

These two women next to me kept looking my way, preening their hair, and trying to dance with me. I also noticed one had an engagement ring on her finger. I couldn't tell which one was into me, because I think they both kinda were. When I talked to one, the other would begin to "bump" into me dancing, or step on me and "stumble" so I would grab her. When one girl went to the bathroom I started talking to Engaged Girl. I made a comment about her ring and she said that "it doesn't mean I can't have fun" and started to shake her ass on me. What a prize her fiance must have ::sarcasm:: When she went to the bathroom I began to talk to the other girl. This one was less attractive, probably a 5-6. Im 30, this girl was also 30 but looked older. I immediately remembered a thread a read on here about why there is no reason a man would want an older woman instead of a younger one. Her skin wasn't that tight, had some wrinkles, and when I made a comment about her age she flipped. This woman was def. post wall with an inflated SMV. I think she thought she had me in the bag and when I began to make comments about her age and then seeing me talked to younger girls she called me a jerk and left. During this exchange the girl that my friend was after became intrested in me just because those two women were interested in me Pre-Selection??? And when I dismissed them she was even more intrigued. I didnt pursue her or anything but told my friend to think of her as a good time girl, dont get serious.

While this was going on the woman who wanted to meet me sent a text that said "Hahah I fell asleep sorry". I knew what this was, this was going to be a SHIT TEST. I replied "awesome go back to sleep".

I wasn't going to be the typical beta. I wasn't going to encourage a negative behavior or beg her to come or ask why etc. Then the wave of text messages began. "she wrote "Im so sorry, do you want me to come?" I replied "No". More texts until she started calling me, and texting shes in her car on the way. I told her to go back home. She then began begging for me to call her, to which I said no. She sent one last Im sorry message and a "ill make it up to you".

So that was the jist of my night. Nothing else as significant as those moments for me. I didn't get any numbers, but I didnt even care.

Any tips on better handling these situations?