Self-esteem is a false idol

Summary: Self-esteem is a false idol. Once you have frame it no longer matters.

I've seen too many post recently proclaiming to be about frame that were drenched in estrogen circle-jerks of self-esteem fluffing. They received an absurd number of upvotes and pile-on of non-critical fluff post to such an extent I suspect it's a subversive effort to undermine TRP. It seemed a PSA sort of post was warranted.

Focus on faux self-esteem was deliberately indoctrinated into the public education system in the 90's to make school ever more palatable for girls. It may well make it a more pleasant experience for the boys but it also means those boys are not developing character. That is the damage done to our society by the self-esteem culture. TRP exist, in part, because of this change to give nascent men a second shot at developing character. This happens to coincide with panty-dropping because women respond to a man with frame. They know he will provide emotional stability in their emotional-tornado of a life (e.g. he's my rock). They know he will not be a push-over because this man will protect his principals with his life so defending his turf and family with his life is a given (this triggers mating instincts when she trust you to be the man she needs to raise her children).

Focusing on self-esteem keys you to focus on your responsive emotional state. How are you emotionally responding to what people are saying and doing to you? How does that make you feel? What does that make you want to do? A reactive response borne from being in tune with these emotions is how you fail a shit-test. That's why she is shit-testing you so she can probe your depth of frame (depth of character). Women have to make a mate selection at a relatively young age and predict how he will develop over the next twenty, thirty, or more years. That is the evolutionary pressure driving her shit-testing to map your frame. This is why men must develop character and through that process master their emotions (do you want to control them, or do you want them to control you?) You have to learn to care more about your principals than your emotions to develop frame.

Self-esteem: You shouldn't hurt me.
You can only control you so focusing on self-esteem is a dead-end. That's why we call it Faux Self-Esteem because focusing on it fails to accomplish the desired goal (a deserved and positive sense of self-worth). You cannot categorically prevent people from attempting to hurt you so this position offers you no grounding to develop your self-worth from. You are focused on your reactive emotions so you maximize the negative emotion you experience when someone fails to treat you the way you expect them to.

vs.

Character: You cannot hurt me.
Whatever vile, insulting, demeaning, derogatory, neglectful, hurtful, belittling things you say or do only reflect your character not mine. That is why self-esteem is a garbage concept. It only matters when you are frame-less.

Giles Corey; Lord of Frame