Have you ever been genuinely interested in a woman?

mgtowguynow · 2016-03-03T19:08:09+00:00

Yeah, I had one solid relationship a couple years back. First time ever being involved with a girl. Met through a friend at a college party.

In hindsight though, she didn't genuinely love me and, me being blue-pilled back in the day, I wasn't quite fond of that. She was more or less looking for some dumb time filler relationship and I was that guy. Poor me, actually thinking that it would last far beyond college. We eventually parted ways because she didn't like that I was human and had insecurities as well. Oh the time I spent apologizing to her, begging her to take me back...how fucking pathetic I was.

First kiss, first girlfriend, lost my virginity to her. The heartbreak moment put things into perspective and, similarly, she has made no attempt to contact me since the relationship ended. So be it, she won't get me messaging her at any point in time.

And then college ended, and I realized that in life, you need to work in order to survive, you need to devote a significant portion of your day to making money, and then it dawned on me that, were I to actively look for another relationship, I would have to spend my free time on online dating, which I wound up hating, and sort through hoards of narcissists. Did I really want to do that with my time? Did I want to place myself in a pool with thirsty betas hoping for a scratch behind the ear? Did I want to sacrifice a great deal of my free time just to try and actively repeat what happened naturally in the past and, did I want to hop back onto the emotional rollercoaster of being in an LTR in the name of love?

Ultimately, that answer was no. Enter MGTOW.

nu216 · 2016-03-03T20:23:32+00:00

My ex had a great personality and was really fun to hang around with. Didn't stop her from suddenly cheating on me with her then-ex and immediately blaming me for "driving her away" when I confronted her.

Great personality or not, women are whimsical and capricious; prone to making life-altering decisions based on fleeting emotions. Those are horrible traits for maintaining any semblance of a meaningful friendship.

General_Fear · 2016-03-03T23:33:20+00:00

I have that relationship right now. I call her my "little buddy" because I am taller than her. She is in her 60's. She has lived a lifetime experiences. She is full of interesting stories. We have spoke a lot of times. She never repeats herself. And just when I think I have her figured out, she surprises me. She is very intelligent and has opinions on just about every subject.

My pal is a good friend.

thrownaway_MGTOW · 2016-03-03T21:19:15+00:00

Yup had interactions with several "ideal" women like that.

And each and every time, well shortly thereafter... I wake up.

Mgtowredpillonroids · 2016-03-03T20:00:53+00:00

Nope, was always lust/oneitis if it was "genuine" interest. Never really for her personality or something unique about her. That said, I truly am not interested in women beyond sex. I have nothing against making them acquaintances but I do not believe in female-male friendship, since if I were theoretically willing to fuck them, why would I willingly blue ball myself? That said, I might have a genuine friendship with a very ugly chick or a hamplanet, but then again why would I want to be friends with that kind of chick? Tl;dr: No.

stunningandbrave · 2016-03-03T20:46:19+00:00

T0000009 · 2016-03-03T22:29:09+00:00

I'm talking a girl you liked so much, it wouldn't matter if you had sex or not, because of her awesome personality.

Had a dame like this one time, stone cold fox too, just seeing her made my day and I never did more than hold her hand on evening walks and I was more than happy with just that.

2016-03-04T05:53:48+00:00

Many times. And I still meet someone who does, once in a while. It just does not enough to me anymore for everything we usually discuss here.

Botanical-Concepts · 2016-03-03T21:11:47+00:00

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Raiden627 · 2016-03-03T22:43:59+00:00

My second ex was one of the best girls I've met. She was a math major, president of a non profit organization, and just a cool, laid back person. She was one of my best relationships and I had an incredible relationship with her family with whom I felt even more close to than my own. She then stopped loving me and left me for another guy. I was crushed and couldn't stop talking to her and it got out of hand.

After my most recent break up, I woke up and realized relationships are such a money and time sink and swallowed some red pill truth. I actually still talk to her from time to time but it's because I've given it plenty of time since the breakup and I would still enjoy talking to her as a friend.

There was also this other girl that I loved talking tech about and considered her a good friend. Unfortunately I've lost contact with her and it's probably for the better because she started complaining too much about her boyfriend like I was her gay best friend or something.

I will tell you, ever since starting on the MGTOW path, this life gives you so much freedom. Small things like being able to have the bed all to myself or just getting to go out on a day trip without having to check in or tell anybody is great.

OutWithTheNew · 2016-03-03T22:52:53+00:00

A couple of times. I think it would take careful consideration if the last one wanted me to run off with her. As much as it goes against the whole MGTOW thing, she was the coolest woman I've ever known by a country mile.

But again, she was a prime example of a woman that settled for douchebags.

brownbag18 · 2016-03-03T23:20:26+00:00

Honestly and short answer: no. At least not yet.

I tend / used to give her extra attention because I was attracted to her + she spoke some unusual / nice things (that set her apart from other girls).

But when it came to impress me intellectually or logically, then I am sorry: I am not very engaged / amused by your logic girl.

Botanical-Concepts · 2016-03-04T00:31:34+00:00

When I was younger, girls seemed interesting. Now, the more I get older and knowledgeable, the less time it takes for me to realize how boring and similar most women are.

I can talk a bit about most subjects, but the women I have encountered cannot go beyond what they are focused on. After 10 minutes, they have nothing interesting to say. Then the conversation depends completely on my effort. Oh yeah, that's because anytime you have a disagreement with them, they get so butthurt and can't take any critical thinking.

If the conversation isn't related to them, all they do is nod and agree. Then they usually say something that lets you know that they didn't even listen or care.

No sexual tension or interest, I am yawning and looking at my watch every couple minutes.

The funniest is EVERY girl has to claim they are different, and then show you they don't paint their 3Rd nail or some other insignificant thing. Lol

MyLittleAtomBomb · 2016-03-04T00:54:08+00:00

Growing up, I figured out very rapidly that something was wrong with their gender. None of their behaviors made any rational sense and it became evident that women were nothing like men at all and that something was "missing". This point was hammered home when a girl who I admired a great deal fucked one of the guys who bullied me in years prior. She was a beautiful, polite, and kind daughter of a pastor and he got kicked out of his christian university. Do the math.

My response to this at the time was to swear off their insanity. I figured it was better to be alone and happy than to put myself through the constant hell I witnessed among my male classmates.

Nowadays I have a zen with their gender. They can enter and leave my life rather fuildly with zero attempt on my end to prevent them. They are kind diversions and playing with their tits is fun but I see no benefit from them beyond that. I don't expect anything from them. My happiness is entirely independent of their existence.

This drives them insane.

Isaiah4verse1 · 2016-03-04T00:58:37+00:00

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Isaiah4verse1 · 2016-03-04T01:58:21+00:00

Yes but it didn't last longer than 3 months and that was when I was 20. I have significantly less tolerance. Other than that and maybe one or two others I'm not interested in most women. I see through them. I knew all about their shape shifting into a saleable package.

Bartand · 2016-03-04T05:55:09+00:00

Yeah I did and still amazed how differently they think or see the world, that was entertaining and make me forget my problems but overall I am disappointed, I believe it is the society (the propaganda machines) that are making things impossible for us (man/woman) The feminazi didn't failed their plans was to destroy families and they did it right.

2016-03-04T13:03:13+00:00

Funnily enough, the two women who immediately come to mind are both RP women.

Then I thought about my ex who was unable to initiate or hold an interesting conversation and the times I was bored out of my mind. Once we went camping, no phones, tv, radio... It was probably the most difficult time I ever had with her.

Botanical-Concepts · 2016-03-04T23:09:12+00:00

no. the desire for sex distorts everything. In depth conversations on a variety of subjects was just about impossible with most the women I knew. Like one hand clapping. I got pretty sick of listening to myself talk, sounded more like a lecture so I just gave up and resorted to bullshit facebook type small talk. I did meet a couple interesting women but I was not physically attracted to them. The best looking women were the most boring. Also sex. there seems to be no correlation between looks and sexual ability with women. Some of the worst sex I had were with the "hottest" women.

Nova_sum · 2016-03-05T20:08:14+00:00

One chick I dated in uni took the same History of Critical Theory class with me. She had no idea what to do in uni so decided my interest in english lit studies was hers too. Each week we covered another super interesting subject. Each week I'd try to talk to her about it. Each week she would get defensive and say stuff like "I don't know" or respond to my thoughts with "No! That's not true!" and then have nothing to say. She only ever wanted me to shut up and take my dick out when none of her psychotic friends/sisters/femalecousins were around.

Tongue37 · 2016-03-06T06:38:10+00:00

I've met a few women that had good personalities but I didn't find them sexually attractive..I have yet to find a woman that I'd want to spend my life with. Lol

Botanical-Concepts · 2016-03-06T22:32:34+00:00

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2016-03-03T20:35:43+00:00

Yeh, a few times.

FanofLemmy · 2016-03-03T20:51:56+00:00

No. Reflecting on the past relationships I've had, not one interested me in the slightest. Sure we had similar interests, but they were all boring, would start fights and go see other guys because "I was upset" (me) when I told them I have to get back to work, I'll talk to you tonight. There's nothing interesting about them, and I doubt they will ever be. They only care for themselves, work against the men they are with, spoiled, poisonous, and dishonourable.

Gorkildeathgod · 2016-03-03T21:06:27+00:00

My wife

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Title	Have you ever been genuinely interested in a woman?
Author	Botanical-Concepts
Upvotes	19
Comments	53
Date	March 3, 2016 6:44 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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