So here's the deal... me and my "partner" are both 40.

She moved in about 3 years ago. It was supposed to be temporary, a few months... but somehow it's almost three years now. She knew it then, and I suspected she had no intention of leaving, but gave her the benefit of the doubt.

We had plenty of problems, but she always did her "duty" as she put it... making me cum everyday at least once. Usually through oral (she's very good at it, and with zero hands - I'm done within 4 minutes). So I was able to tolerate her... she also cooks and cleans.

Anyway, last December, we had a real big fight, and we haven't really recovered from it. Basically, the understanding is we're not together... but while she's living in my house, she's going to keep cleaning, cooking, and doing errands for me.

Anyway, whatever, I don't really care. I feel sorry for her because of her background (orphan, bad childhood, sexual abuse, trafficked to the US as a teen, no education, no family). So, as a somewhat privileged person, I decided to just let her stay in a spare room. And now of course with COVID, what is she going to do? She can never really work anywhere or do anything. She used to do Uber but as a skinny Asian woman with large breasts and thick lips, you can imagine the kind of passengers she had to deal with on a daily basis. Previously she worked as a secretary at a bail bonds place where her boss offered to take care of her in return for being his sugar baby. Prior to that she managed a 99 cent store in a bad neighborhood where a homeless guy slapped her and now she's traumatized from working with the public.

Anyway -- so she cooks, cleans and all that... and we mostly get along... but no physical stuff. We don't hold hands. We don't kiss. We don't touch. She's been a born-again Christian for like 10 years, and it never stopped her before, but this year she's talking about how pre-marital sex is wrong, even if she does have the urge as a flesh and blood human, she cannot give in. She even says things like how I need to meet a younger woman who will be more submissive and listen to what I say.

So I was kind of fine with that, but this past weekend, an incident took place where I realized she still considers me her partner to some extent anyway. Like, she was really upset and angry with me over some stupid shit (my cousin came over and we hung out, so my ex felt left out).

I thought it was so strange that a chick who is not even my partner, was upset over that. She's really just a guest. Someone who needs a place to stay. Someone I'm helping... and in return, she does some house chores and cooking, etc. Not much. But seems like she felt she deserves more.

So what's the deal here? I'm not going to kick her out because she literally has nowhere to go. I kicked her out last year and she ended up living at a shelter for 5 months before coming back after having a mental breakdown at the shelter.

I don't mind her staying at my place. I have the room. But I don't want her to think she can tell me what to do, or what is owed to her, etc... My feeling is I provide the room, internet, pay for food, and give her a credit card so she can get some things here and there (I don't mind, I have the money).

...but due to my busy work schedule I haven't been dating either. Of course there's also COVID. I did go on a few dates and meet some girls over the last 3 years, every time me and my "roommate" were not talking, but none of those girls I dated turned into anything worth pursuing.

So -- what do you all think? She's basically stuck with me. Should I invite other girls over and fuck them? Will that send the message? Or -- what's going on? Is there a chance that I could fuck her again? Should I just forget about it? It's confusing, because sometimes she still struts around the house wearing her tight clothes where her breasts are looking to burst out of her shirt. She knows how much I love them because I used to do all kinds of things to them back when we were still doing stuff. So she knows she's getting me horny.

I told her I'd marry her if she wasn't such a Jesus freak. That's really the main cause of our problems. I like to smoke weed, occasionally do some psychedelics, and I happen to have a couple LGBT friends... she thinks it's all sinful and bad. And she's very judgmental and says it's wrong and how she prays for me to change my ways. But she's not soft about it... she goes hard on this. Like she's a Christian warrior or something.

She even says that I'm not the one giving her a place to stay. That I'm not the one helping her. She says that God is using me to help her. Like WTF?

If she could just shut the fuck up about Jesus and understand that her only "savior" in this world is me, then perhaps we wouldn't have such crazy arguments. And why is she now for the past year opposed to pre-marital sex when before she used to suck my dick everywhere?

What would you all do in this situation?

Keep in mind I won't be kicking her out... she needs to move out on her own. The way I see it, there's two options: (1) try to work something out with her, or (2) bring over other girls. (I did joke about it and mentioned how if the girls asked, I'd tell them that my roommate/ex was my cousin.)

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TLDR: Christian ex-gf still lives in my house in a spare room. Her moving out is not an option. She needs a place to stay, has nowhere to go. She does everything a good wife does, EXCEPT the physical stuff. We used to have a damn good sex life. Should I try with her or invite other girls over?