Am I doomed?

Ody_ssey · 2019-10-13T06:11:59+00:00

She is controlling you. Divorce her before you have a child.

crityouallday · 2019-10-13T06:07:23+00:00

What you did wrong was you got married. The quintessential rule of mgtow is don't marry or cohabitate

It's very hard for a woman to reach zen and happiness.

Copypastable · 2019-10-13T06:11:14+00:00

You give a woman more and she will want more than that. Elementary my dear Watson.

user_miki · 2019-10-13T08:59:43+00:00

She tries to closed me off from relatives and friend. It was just catching up news with each other, then she read the text, shortly after then she throws tantrum.

This is very, very bad.Don't allow that under any circumstance.You will be isolated and easy manipulated.

If you allow that and she get pregnant this will be come worse as she has the child to keep you in line to serve.

Dude, get out asap.Save yourself.Listen if you mention the divorce she will beg and try to get you back on plantation.As soon as you allow her to come back ,100% she will get pregnant fast and you are finished.

It appears this girl had all planned in advance(she is 27,wall is coming duh!) and in her plans you have no say.You must outsmart her.

Learn from older guys experience.

rapister · 2019-10-13T06:12:45+00:00

She is showing her true colours. Be glad that not a lot of time in your life is wasted. If you are not happy, think of what to do next. Your whole life is ahead of you, and it is a very long time. Once you have made your decision, be brave and strong . A lot of men change their minds after seeing a girl cry or beg.

sootlord · 2019-10-13T11:02:53+00:00

This is classic female manipulation. Witholding sex, keeping you away from your family/friends, and being emotional nag she slowly claiming dominace over you.

Plot twist: its going to get worst.

Awalt

holidaysboots · 2019-10-13T07:12:48+00:00

The mask is only half way down now, OP. Wait until you have a kid with her. Then you'll see the real monster. Run before it's too late.

RealBiggly · 2019-10-13T06:34:59+00:00

Get out!

2019-10-13T07:10:09+00:00

At this point I'm at loss what I did wrong

You are being manipulated. You are trying to analyse cause and effect with reason. There is no reason behind it, it's just lies, shaming, gaslighting, manipulation.

Run while you can, run and never look back!

westnblue · 2019-10-13T06:24:45+00:00

She's testing the fences for week spots...

https://youtu.be/DwAOHVBKTwg?t=1m50s

duong9006 · 2019-10-13T06:43:30+00:00

Sure you will be doomed if you keep staying married this way, to this... person. Doom is inevitable. Find a way to get out, simple as that.

Krazyrobus · 2019-10-13T07:32:50+00:00

Yes. If you have to marry then get to know the person a minimum of 5 years.

Divorce is going to hurt, but rather a small bleed than a bigger one later.

PrinceRaj53 · 2019-10-13T06:20:48+00:00

She is slowly establishing full control over you and the relationship. Divorce her, go zero contact and get her out of your life, now. And for fucks sake don't impregnate her.

This should help you :

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THOTdestroyer_6000 · 2019-10-13T06:50:16+00:00

Yeah, you're fucked. Haha. As for me, I'm waiting when my Vietnamese tinder date finishes shower, send her out and then resume my blissful life. Probs go to gym later.

Chakra_Devourer · 2019-10-13T07:17:02+00:00

the marriage has just started but she couldn't wait to control you. GET THE FUCK OUT ASAP!

lone_nordic_wolf · 2019-10-13T08:02:24+00:00

Sounds like Narcissistic abuse. First off, read about “narcissistic abuse” and educate yourself (but do it ASAP). I suggest you make an escape plan (bugging out, divorcing, and staying “no contact”. I dealt with a disordered ex spouse for 10 years, and went through this hell.

The longer you remain in it, the worse it gets, and you will lose yourself, friends, and family. The harder your personal recovery will be as her fingers get deeper in your head by manipulating, “gaslighting”, and emotional abuse. You may end up losing yourself, resources, and most of all... time.

Bottom line, you’re in danger as you’re in an abusive marriage. She is an abuser, plain and simple. Please read up on “covert narcissism” and “narcissistic abuse” and prepare to get out (rip the bandage off). You’re going to need to be strong, learn some boundaries, and go to war to save your soul. This is serious stuff.

simplisticallysimple · 2019-10-13T11:05:45+00:00

married

Yes, you're doomed.

I didn't even need to read further.

Cizzar · 2019-10-13T14:05:51+00:00

Ask yourself if you like that situation and if you want it to go on for the rest of your life.

If the answer is no, then you need to divorce asap ...

debanked · 2019-10-13T06:14:52+00:00

The red flags appeared from day one, you just missed them. You've always got choice time to take control of your life. Ironically, the more you focus on yourself and take no shit, the better she'll treat you, but it's not for me to say stay or run, I know what I'd do, but each of us should make our own choices and take full accountability and responsibility

2019-10-13T07:36:38+00:00

You are still very young man. You can definitely recover from this, so don’t stress yourself too heavily. She is establishing control over you. Don’t listen to TRP advice that she is shit testing you and that you can pass that shit test. If you try to establish control in the marriage over her instead, she can use that to say you abused her when you eventually divorce.

Get out and take the L this time if you absolutely have to. Not having a kid with her is still a huge plus. You’ve got this!

DinDoNuffin182 · 2019-10-13T06:30:51+00:00

She scared youre gonna leave her for something better. Shes also jealous of the love you have to spread with your closest family and friends. Its just unfortunate she has to be greedy and want all of you.

If the tables were turned, where right now you are in her position, you trying to control her, she would cheat and not hesitate to leave you in a heart beat, under the guise of emotional abuse.

Theres alot of insecurities inside her that needs to be talked about and dealt with.

You’ll be doomed if you get your wife pregnant. Or maybe she slready might be and dosent know it yet.

GoodMan_Gone · 2019-10-13T08:15:55+00:00

Seems you don't stand your ground, OP. If she's going childish you correct her. Not by beating her op OC. But really in a way as "daddy is saying no." You make the decisions and stand firmly behind them. She can either follow you or leave. Nobody is forcing her to stay. You're the leader. She's the advisor at best. So no more BS with "you want a present?" She despises that behaviour. If you gift her something it should be something really rare and special. And only when she behaved well enough. Furthermore: you don't ask to see anyone ever. You tell her that. And needles to say you are actually going there.

ijnenak · 2019-10-13T10:13:41+00:00

You maybe can annul the marriage since its recent and avoid divorce rape

KingRagnar1588 · 2019-10-13T12:47:56+00:00

Leave before you have a kid. Trust me i was in same situation but had a kid so i was stuck. Divorce asap before u have to pay chils support. She is not attracted to you. She does not respect you. She thinks she settled for you.

boltjamison · 2019-10-13T13:47:47+00:00

1) get a divorce 2) GYOW 3) ????? 4) profit

2019-10-13T14:53:22+00:00

I had a particular gf for 3 months at one point, and she began to withhold sex in an attempt to control my behavior.

I broke up with that bitch within a week.

inushishi_no_kaze · 2019-10-13T17:16:30+00:00

Women will have sex without nagging or asking anythin in resources if they are physically attracted. Dump her and save as much assets as you can.

monk2019 · 2019-10-13T17:27:00+00:00

You need to set your feelings aside, and divorce her ass.

roscoedangle · 2019-10-13T22:27:25+00:00

sounds like you've got your self a classic narcissistic sociopath on your hands. read up on them and get your ass a divorce!! hope there are no kids involved.

groovybooboo · 2019-10-13T23:59:57+00:00

Never ever date an older woman.

Yonisensei18 · 2019-10-14T02:25:05+00:00

Hold off on getting a child, prepare papers, and look into what your options are. Start collecting proof on how she acts, what she says, and where she goes.

Above all else, start being assertive. If she complains, shut her down with facts. If she cries, be firm. If she threatens you, don't even blink.

jackstorm79 · 2019-10-14T08:25:47+00:00

You divorce this manipulating scumbag cunt and never speak with her again after you take your losses in divorce. She will never improve she will only pretend to improve to lure you into another false sense of security

mansrandom · 2019-10-13T08:13:02+00:00

To answer your question is yes. Look up how to fire your wife.

Get some hobbies, get the guys back, and stop listening to what she says.

She’s just shit testing you man, and you’re allowing her to run all over you.

GrisBosque · 2019-10-13T08:17:00+00:00

nothing is ever good enough leads to insanity. you need to dump her.

RedPillConfessions- · 2019-10-13T09:18:29+00:00

Divorce immediately and never look back. It’s just pussy. Never worth putting you life on the line for. Sounds like at the moment your pretty much doomed.

intuitivewanderer · 2019-10-13T09:48:17+00:00

Divorce her!!!

peguy2000 · 2019-10-13T10:19:59+00:00

Tell her youre thinking about divorce and that you wont do it if you have a threesome with her best friend

During the threesome only fuck her best friend and tell her how much hotter she is

After you creampied her, full ghost. Move countries if you have to

flock1316 · 2019-10-13T10:52:12+00:00

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2019-10-13T11:44:54+00:00

Classic mistake, thinking her pre-marriage behavior would continue into the marriage. That's how they sucker you in.

Divorce this bitch asap. The longer you're with her, the worse you'll be treated by family court. I'd also start recording all your interactions with her. She's sure to claim assault at some point. I hope she hasn't pooped out any crotch goblins, else you're doubly screwed.

Decided to add something else. The longer you're with her, the more opportunities she'll have to cheat on you with Chad and Tyrone. If they get her preggers, while you're still married to her, you're fucked. Get out NOW!

2019-10-13T12:20:32+00:00

Don’t have a kid. Just don’t.

2019-10-13T12:48:55+00:00

Dump. The. Bitch. And. Run. For. Your. Life.

Never. Look. Back.

bobgray1 · 2019-10-13T13:35:58+00:00

Leave

NAILmg42 · 2019-10-13T14:05:38+00:00

The moment kid happens it mutliplies the abuse without any reward or sex.

Leave now.

Tell her you were wrong and she can't be responsible for her own emotions.

And thats a deal breaker. If she bitches with emotional transference for control ever again. Tell her to be responsible for her emotions.

Eventually the female either explodes and inverts with the globe, or she fails the attempt each time and you just leave.

She probably gonna pull the pin on the Fat grenade. Walk away and save your life. You lose an arm in divorce and not your head and life of you leave now.

Badgerbud · 2019-10-13T15:06:19+00:00

You have a very important decision to make. Unfortunately it will not get better and you need to protect yourself from getting divorce raped. You need to put your foot down and decide how you want to be treated. You know and are recognizing the red flags. Do something about it while you still have time. The longer you allow this to go on, the harder it will be to do what is right. We've given you the advice. It's your life. Do what you want with it.

awruther · 2019-10-13T15:06:39+00:00

Maybe don't marry someone after 1 fucking year.

RedpilledAesthetics · 2019-10-13T15:25:49+00:00

Female nature showing its true colors, my friend. Don’t cope, don’t do the sunk cost fallacy... drop this women off before it’s too late.

Don’t think things will get better... they won’t.

Cheers!

TheGravelMan · 2019-10-13T15:48:15+00:00

Man up and put her in her place, should she still refuse then leave her

some1arguewithme · 2019-10-13T16:01:17+00:00

Get an annulment NOW. I THINK you have six months once married to get annulment. DO IT NOW.

2019-10-13T16:20:43+00:00

No children and few assets == you are lucky. Once she has a child, you become her mule for the next 20 years and the state will transfer most of your property to her (it's for the well being of the child, lol).

The divorce should be cheap and fast. And I hope you've learned your lesson.

MrMagtow · 2019-10-13T21:25:16+00:00

This is covered in "The manipulated man" - women isolate their betabuxes because that makes them easier to parasite off/control.

If you cannot compare notes with other men about female behavior, you're more ignorant and unable to see her tactics.

quickGunShoot · 2019-10-14T02:01:20+00:00

Run. She showed you just a sample of what your future would be like.

asdfguy17 · 2019-10-14T05:11:28+00:00

Divorce her immediately

Peter196513 · 2019-10-14T16:46:04+00:00

If you need to ask AFTER THESE 3 OBVIOUS SIGNS, you don't belong on this subreddit!

Atton_Risk · 2019-10-15T04:44:36+00:00

A married man is a woman's bitch what did you really expect out of this?

lonewolfsigmamgtow · 2019-10-13T17:47:10+00:00

You took a bullet man. I cannot say anything else. Its 999 for ya.

Title	Am I doomed?
Author	flock1316
Upvotes	49
Comments	67
Date	October 13, 2019 6:02 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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