Rejection is a blessing in disguise

privacythrowaway2003 · 2016-12-18T23:25:26+00:00

Learning to deal with rejection is just part of becoming a man, regardless of the source.

thisoneisnreiswear · 2016-12-19T00:30:25+00:00

I look at the time cost and see that I spend 2-3 hours at the bar, get rejected by 5 women, spent ~30 minutes talking to each of them, their words are a bore and I feel like I don't really want to continue any interaction with any of them.

I could have spent 3 hours working/making money, or spent 3 hours on a hobby I'm interested in.

Why is my "need" to interact with women not just another bad habit I need to grow out of? I had a "need" to eat junk food, a "need" to do plenty of time wasting things like video games but TRP told me they were time wasters and to cut them out.

Why didn't TRP tell me to cut out the most time wasting activity of them all?

Camnel13 · 2016-12-19T03:35:21+00:00

Two months ago I got myself into a NoFap journey, getting my shit together, quitting videogames and started working out. By doing that I gained confidence to start doing more of a social life. Recently I got rejected by a girl that I was dating, my strategy was "being myself", reality is that she got bored of me real quick. That got me into thinking "What went wrong?", that's when I discovered the redpill. Man I did everything wrong with this girl, I'm glad she rejected me, a true blessing, now I'm aware that it was my fault and I'm already stepping up my game. Reading the sidebar and started lifting as well, now I'm 100% into improving myself. I'll keep meeting new girls but rejection is just a thing that'll make me stronger and wiser, since I'll be learning from my mistakes.

meyia · 2016-12-19T06:41:01+00:00

I was listening to a podcast called "the art of charm " and this lady came on and offered what was perhaps the best nugget of advice I've ever heard on this subject. I've also been dealing with a recent break up and it fucking sucks. But she said something like:

when you are "in love" with somebody else, that feeling does not come from the other person. The feeling is created inside your own brain with chemicals that come from your own brain. Love is not this mystical thing that involves two people and magic and shit. If the girl feels the same way and has the same chemicals coursing through her Brain then that's great. But if she does not, no matter.... you and you alone created that feeling. You don't need her for it.

That helped me. Hope it helps someone else

Fredo100 · 2016-12-19T01:03:26+00:00

Rejection is definately a blessing if utilized correctly. If you go home and cry like a beta bitch, your loss. If you use it to motivate yourself to become a better man that women can't resist, good on you.

Oh and did i mention, once you get used to rejection you won't even think about it even 5 minutes later, you become a true stoic when it comes to rejection.

akatsukirp · 2016-12-19T01:38:23+00:00

I would rather be rejected than attempted to be strung along. I'm using my last rejection where I did everything wrong to continue to motivate me. The more I read trp the more I have those epiphanies of where I can improve. Great learning experience. The fact is when you get rejected the woman sees nothing to gain from you: either alpha or beta needs.

youcantdenythat · 2016-12-18T23:48:54+00:00

I would much rather try and fail then never try at all.

If I don't have the balls to walk up and talk to someone then I feel like a little bitch.

If I go talk to her and she rejects me, I still feel good that I overcame my fear. It makes her rejection mean nothing. I think to myself "it's her loss".

favours_of_the_moon · 2016-12-19T15:15:20+00:00

9 times out of 10, a bitch will initially just reject you as a matter of general principle, just to see how you react. It's a "shit test," you could say. It's really just a formality.

She wants to find out if your self esteem will rest on her judgement of you, or if you will get all humiliated in front of everyone, if you will burst into tears like a bitch or start spreading bad rumors about her like a scorned 12 year old girl.

I usually just be like "My loss momma," and fist bump the bitch or something. Give credit where it's due man. Her ass was tight enough to draw your interest. #Respect.

StoicCrane · 2016-12-19T13:28:06+00:00

Rejection is better than Regret -Rollo Tomassi

Cantloginhere · 2016-12-19T13:53:41+00:00

When I think of the women I've rejected it is usually includes a feeling of respect that they took some action.

Title	Rejection is a blessing in disguise
Author	CyanogenCX
Upvotes	61
Comments	41
Date	December 18, 2016 10:26 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5j2rxd/rejection_is_a_blessing_in_disguise/
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