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“Why do you hate me?”

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akrue1143
May 29, 2020
86 upvotes
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After becoming red pilled I’ve given less attention to girls who aren’t treating me in a way I like to be treated. Generally just reciprocating energy and knowing when my time is worth more than interacting with a seemingly uninterested girl. Since doing this I often get the question “Why do you hate me?” Or something similar. What does this mean and how should I respond?


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Title “Why do you hate me?”
Author akrue1143
Upvotes 86
Comments 59
Date 29 May 2020 04:51 AM UTC (9 months ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/668371
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/gsm9oq/why_do_you_hate_me/
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[–]jacknifejones105 points106 points  (2 children) | Copy

"I'm too busy to hate you"

[–]RoloThomazi6219 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

The reddest of the red right here...

[–]i-am-the-prize4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

this. Recursively OI, see not due to butthurt or passive aggressive, but because: Mission Focus.

[–]Versace-Bandit86 points87 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s a test. She’s tryna get you to say some beta, lovey shit about how you don’t hate her and she’s amazing.

I would just act amused, amplify, and change subject. But see what other advice is as well

[–]E9er2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

hate is a powerful thing. you’re in trouble. you gotta make it up to me now.

[–]KamelMedia18 points19 points  (4 children) | Copy

Just ignore it.

If you really want to respond, simple dismissive responses:

"Oh no! I hate you, really? Why?"

Deflect stupid shit back at her. Bonus points if you say it with a charismatic smile.

[–]ezragriffin4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

Obviously a good answer, but I have found that always answering in an amused tone gives them the opportunity and motivation to try again, because they like the cheeky answers.

This question stems from insecurities that she has and because he isn't putting her on a pedestal.

I would personally let her message be on "delivered", but not see it or reply to it for a day or two.

The silence and lack of attention will make the hamster do things that hamsters do.

Let her blow up your message with ultimatums.

Then two days later send "I am busy in building my future. I don't have enough time to talk to you, and much less to hate on you. It's not my top priority."

Gotta put her in her place.

[–]KamelMedia2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Love it if they come back and try again, because ill keep wasting them. Constant reminders they cant beat you re-enforces their submissive frame.

Ive gotten girls to the point of saying "you never let me win", a conversation i also ironically won.

Then two days later send "I am busy in building my future. I don't have enough time to talk to you, and much less to hate on you. It's not my top priority."

My only advice going this route, whether its taken or not is cut the message down to "been busy".

[–]anxiousdweller4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Constant reminders they cant beat you re-enforces their submissive frame.

Be careful with that advice. Whose frame is the intent to beat the other? Sounds like it stems from insecurity. If you are so powerful then you're not even playing the game you could lose at - so a win for her ought to be a win for you in a healthy relationship. So not only are you probably in denial about something the world is trying to teach you but you probably are little fun to be around for people who aren't as domineering. The advice is don't conflate beating someone and winning. The point of wise men's guidance and training for you is not so you can go around beating others but so you can contribute to their lives with the power. Otherwise the people around you will start to actually hate you and with somewhat good reason. That you are busy "building your future" and somehow your mission isn't related to the wellbeing of all humanity is a tell. Meanwhile you're cutting yourself off from what is largely so wonderful about a relationship with another human being. You are basically cutting people down.

[–]Zero-Milk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sage advice. Unfortunately I think it will be lost on half of the retards who have essentially co-opted TRP philosophy and turned it into some kind of role-play based on their flawed perceptions (i.e. imagination) of what it means to be alpha-male.

[–][deleted] 77 points78 points  (4 children) | Copy

“Uh...I don’t have time to hate anybody. Something you wanna get off your chest?”

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[–]morpheus777772 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

I'd love to see how this conversation continues lol. What would you reply with if she says "I don't hate you but you've started actin differently" or some shit like that?

Idk I guess she probably wants to rant about not getting enough attention I guess.

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[–]morpheus777772 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Sounds great.

What's even the point of her asking Why do you hate me in the first place?
Is it her wanting back the attention she used to get before when OP acted like a beta orbiter?

[–]alikebabay8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

No, you hate me No. No you do. Nooo. Yes you hate me hate me.

It can be soo fun to do this to girls.

[–]jackandjill221 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep.

[–]akrue1143[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

This is a great balance of emotional stability and “getting it” very nice response

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[–]akrue1143[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It was last night but I said “what led you to believe that?” she said she was kidding but she invites ted me to say “you’re the best I don’t hate you. “

[–]spartan_samurai44 points45 points  (0 children) | Copy

By asking "why do you hate me", she means why are you not chasing me like an orbiter.

Simple reply to her question: Because you get on my nerves by asking stupid questions like this.

Don't try to justify yourself by saying I don't hate you.

[–]trunksshortsman28 points29 points  (5 children) | Copy

“This is my dog”. Then send picture of said dog

[–]TeanLemonz3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I died laughing

[–]morpheus777771 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'm a retard I didn't get what you're trying to imply please explain :/

[–]trunksshortsman1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re steering the conversation.Showing her that you are still the one in control.

[–]TeanLemonz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He was pretty much dismissing her entirely by bringing up something random. She would get the picture after that lol

[–]red__Man8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

just ignore or change subject

[–]RivenHalf2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read the article on "Beta Bait"

[–]tina-belchers-horse8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Why would uninterested girls ask you this? Maybe you're just being rude..

[–]SmamelessMe7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

"Why would I hate you?"

You clearly don't hate her, so she should be the one explaining why she misunderstood the situation.

But to answer your question. It's one of these three options:

  1. She's been put on pedestal so much by her orbiters it has become the norm in all her relationship with male "friends". Therefore now she interprets your lack of putting her on pedestal as "hate".
  2. She's fishing for validation. I.e. you being fearful you're gonna lose her, because she thinks you hate her, so you go and write her an essay about how much you love her.
  3. She's riding the gray area between interpreting it either as 1. or 2. (doesn't matter if consciously or subconsciously) and testing you for which option you'll go.

You will never know which of these it is, and it doesn't really change anything about the situation.

[–]whiffofass1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

None of the answers here involve actually explaining or telling her why you are ignoring that. Unfortunately I have the habit of doing that.

[–]PizzaAndProtein3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just cut your explanation down to "Ha, you're silly"

[–]SmamelessMe2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

None of the answers here involve actually explaining or telling her why you are ignoring that.

That is the point. She's fishing for reaction. Don't give her one. You don't owe her answer to her questions. Drive the discussion to her doing the talking and you listening.

[–]redaftrp2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s a shit test, she’s quite literally giving you shit for not letting her get her hooks under your skin.

[–]akrue1143[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely

[–]thrwy754791 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy

What does this mean and how should I respond?

She's busting your balls. It's a power grab to know she can emotionally affect you.

Remind her of her insignificance, and rub it in her face with laughter:

"implying you're important enough to be hated lulz"

[–]akrue1143[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can show emotional stability without being a piece of shit.

[–]akrue1143[S] 1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy

Redpill isn’t about being a narcissistic person man. It’s just realizing your worth and not allowing shit to get to you. That’s what makes redpill work you have emotional stability and that is attractive to women. Inflation of the ego is not the way man.

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[–]akrue1143[S] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy

Alright let me know if u need help playing some dungeons and dragons bro 😂

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[–]akrue1143[S] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

You should stop fapping too you could put your energy into something more productive than leveling the charisma on you lvl 4 warlock.

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[–]akrue1143[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Who said I need a support system. I’ve been doing semen retention before I knew reddit was a thing. The fact that you said coomer devalues anything u have to say.

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[–]akrue1143[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

You didn’t offend me you just look stupid. I’m constantly outside

[–]Domebeers1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

"You use too much teeth when you blow me"

[–]janaheyiloveyou2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She digs you bro... One girl even got all. If I'm bothering you please tell me and sent a long needy paragraph after being busy enough to not reply back.. Chicks get emotional.. Nothing new

[–]Zero-Milk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Say whatever you want. Whatever is the truth. Personally, I'd probably go with "I hate everybody," but that's my sense of humor and it works with my tone of voice.

It's obviously a test, but try not to overthink it. She's into you, so keep doing what you do.

[–]brianmcg3210 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It means its working.

Along with the following other questions:

- Why are you working out so much?

- Why are you so dressed up? Where are you going?

-Why are you working so much?

-Who is she?

The correct response to these questions is laughter.



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