Need serious life help.

axiscontra · 2020-05-29T02:31:04+00:00

Get a therapist, your family dynamics are destroying you. You wont ever be anything being at home, there is internal conflict. Go your own way. get out of the house its toxic, you likely failed as a subconscious form of rebellion. You're depressed because you entire life has been toxic and not conducive to you. I lost my virginity at 21 so it doesn't matter. no one gives a fuck. There are things wrong with you (because of you're upbringing) and you have to fix them. Everything you say screams controlling parent. Hurry up before your brain develops in this mottled form. You are still a child in both mind, you wont mature until you break free.

My advice: Move silently, go to therapy, act like you're appeasing your mom while making an exit strategy, Figure out a way to make it work. Psychology today is your best friend. DM me if you need help finding a therapist. and if you have a therapist get a different one, because the one you have is ass.

Snowboard18 · 2020-05-29T03:18:34+00:00

So you've been reading trp for 5 years and haven't lost your virginity and your built like a gorilla?? Something is off. You must not be talking to any girls or are just a massive pussy when it comes to talking to them.

BlueBrye · 2020-05-29T04:29:26+00:00

Active duty mil here. Join the branch that is most in line with your personality and has a career you'd like to pursue. With a 99 asvab pretty much any job is going to be available to you w/ some exceptions so make a list of jobs you'd like and try to pick one most in line with that. Each branch has different nuances and general quality of life. That being said I'll shamelessly plug the Air Force. Lmk if you have any questions

daymi · 2020-05-29T11:07:58+00:00

The air and water is clean, no homeless people, I have dogs and a river nearby and I’m happy which is more than I can say when I was at school.

Yeah, school is stressful. A friend of mine finished a masters in economics fifteen years ago and he still has nightmares that he would fail a specific exam now.

In a lot of countries the piece of paper that says that you finished university (almost any degree) can open a lot of doors, and not having it can give you a very real glass ceiling in your career (also in the military).

Note: Engineering is very difficult. In my city the engineering dept made it into the national newspaper because they failed 70% of all juniors. They said they'll keep doing it too--and I agree that they should, because lives are more important than feelings.

But I’m terrified of failing again.

You know the difference between a successful person and a loser? The loser lost once, the successful person a hundred times.

Get out of your comfort zone.

If you want it, try it again.

But the actual problem is: What do YOU want?

make them proud.

Bad mindset.

Better would be to figure out what YOU want to reach in life, then do what is necessary to reach it.

She says it’s the same with the Marines and it’s just mentally exhausting to me because even I don’t know what I want.

Find out.

She wants me to join the Airforce but it’s not the branch I think I want to join. All I’ve ever done is point myself in the direction of success and hoped for the best.

That's all anyone can do. Also, maybe talk to some actual people already in the marines, airforce or in the university program you want to do.

being a Virgin is just life now. It doesn’t bother me and it should.

Why should it bother you? If I didn't want women, my life would be so much easier and there'd be no dramaaa. I wish I didn't want women.

You decide whether it bothers you or not.

I’m terrified of doing something different and exciting.

So? Everyone is. Do it anyway.

But time waits for no one.

2020-05-29T12:58:31+00:00

Start by looking up "decision making process" online. The only way you're gonna solve your problem is by looking at it logically and objectively with respect to your own interests/strengths.

Involving your parents in your decision, especially your mother, is not going to help you find the best path forward, since their point of view is purely subjective.

Title	Need serious life help.
Author	IncendiaryPolitician
Upvotes	9
Comments	21
Date	May 29, 2020 1:45 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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