Stats: 35, 5'10"-11", 160 lbs, around 15% BF, married 14 years, two daughters 4 & 11, lost a pregnancy at 12 wks and wife (38) refuses to get pregnant again. I travel for work or work weird schedules usually, but my new job is much more structured and the amount of time at home with the quarantine has helped me focus on actively growing the kids more instead of just doing the discipline when I get home.
Lots of background in my marriage that I'll finally have to unpack in an OYS on RPC soon. Generally my wife is much more lenient with the children and their media consumption than I am, but we do both agree on what's age-appropriate, at least.
Oldest daughter (11) loves reading, like me. Reads far ahead of her 5th-grade peers. She was homeschooled from 1st through 5th grade since I'm in the military and we move often, plus I want her to have a Godly education. She left all her friends when we moved to a new state in October and we found a church around late November. She went to public school from December to March when schools closed from the lockdown. This was not my first choice, but only to qualify for a Christian school voucher in the fall, which would save enough for the youngest (4) to do Christian preschool instead of public.
Anyway, my wife got her a Kindle Unlimited account so she could read lots of e-books whenever she wanted. I didn't really intently keep track of what she was reading; when I'd peek over she was always reading dumb kid jokes, trivia and kids' memes, or elementary school level chapter books. She also chats a lot with her classmates on Google Classroom or something, but nothing suspicious or any bad influence that I've seen. She is actively involved at church and works hard memorizing Scripture, and she invites her acquaintances to church and declines to engage in gossip and bullying, so she's somewhat resistant to peer pressure and tends to have good discernment of right and wrong.
A few days ago, my wife brought up that my daughter's taste in media is changing; we can see what books she checks out. She said our daughter enjoyed the first book in a series about a boy and girl growing up together, dating and eventually getting married and having kids. It's trending #1 in Teen/Youth Fiction, so I guess it was recommended to her. I also thought there was a content lock or something for Amazon and with the laws about kids under 13 and the internet tjere would be some filter in place. None that I could see, and I should have checked that first when my wife said she was signing up.
Anyway, I read the first page of the sample and it used inappropriate language (SOB, damn, WTH , etc, but no f-bombs. Still, it's a "no" from me, dawg). Table of Contents shows the story went from elementary school through senior year of college so of course it probably involved pre-marital sex and hookups and whatnot, as the language shows it wasn't a Christian book, though I didn't skim past the first paragraph since I knew I didn't want her reading that.
I had my wife delete the e-book and cancel the subscription, then talked to my daughter with my daughter present.
High points: -You're not in trouble. We're strengthening our relationship when we talk, remember? -It's good you love to read, but be careful of what you feed your spirit. -I understand you're growing up and want to explore new types of literature, but there are books aimed at more age-appropriate themes. -We're created to glorify God and form and fill the earth. As Christians we need to evangelize and make disciples to bear fruit across the world, like Johnny Appleseeds of the Gospel. -The girl in this story is not a good role model (gossiping, obsessing over boys, etc.). While we are single is the best time to serve God without worldly hindrances, so use our youth wisely. -Let me find some wholesome books for you that nurture your spirit and reflect the concepts you learn from your Bible reading. -You read your Kindle first thing in the morning, not your Bible. Where you prioritize your time shows what's most important to you. (Had to ask my wife privately if she was reading Scripture also, as I hadn't seen any plan completions or highlights from my wife in the Bible App lately. I need to be more active leading the family in spiritual meals)
So, I know there's a glut of "Christian" novels out there, but I obviously can't check them all. My mom and sisters used to read those Jeanette Oake books and Amish romances and stuff, but I don't know if those are really wholesome as far as biblical gender roles or just Christian granny porn.
Any recommendations that stand out? All she said is she likes "realistic fiction". (I've also ordered the Five Aspects study for our family, and the preteen girl one, The Jeweled Fountain.)