How to get over the ugly sting of the "slow fade"?I feel gross

Elegant-Stop · 2020-05-30T13:31:06+00:00

He can’t slow fade you if you block him 💁🏼‍♀️

divdec · 2020-05-30T13:31:56+00:00

It only hurts because you’re putting him on a pedestal and focusing on the ways that he’s so great. Focus on his flaws and insecurities. Did you ignore any red flags? Write those down. A slow fade is a red flag btw. Slow fade means “I’m too immature and emotionally unavailable to tell you that I need space/I’m not interested.”

Write down all of his flaws and traits that make him undesirable. Then write down how let down you feel as if you were writing a letter to him, but obviously don’t send it. I’ve found this to be one of the best ways to stop myself from reacting emotionally to a situation. Just write out how sad, disappointed, and pissed off you are. Write down what a jerk he is.

Then, when he comes back, which they always do, you can tell him you changed your mind about him and the trash will either take itself out or he will try harder to get back in your good graces. Men do not respond to complaints and whining about their communication. They respond to rejection.

Muffcakelord · 2020-05-30T11:50:00+00:00

If you're refering to people slowly losing interest?

Remember that the only people that means something to you is yourself and already established close relstionships such as friends and family. It's a lot better that people don't pretend to like you and disappears, than if they stayed to use you. Not everyone is compatible and it's bound to happen, what's bad about that? Is certain foods disgusting just because some people don't like it? Taste in people is subjective like everything else.

Stay selfish and don't mind what others think of you especially in the dating arena

throwawayitst · 2020-05-30T13:12:15+00:00

No external validation should mean too much

Title	How to get over the ugly sting of the "slow fade"?I feel gross
Author	Rules-Girl
Upvotes	12
Comments	9
Date	May 30, 2020 3:09 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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