How to feel better after a breakup?

throw248348 · 2020-04-28T08:49:19+00:00

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foieblah · 2020-04-28T09:31:15+00:00

Cheesy girl power shit- - Someone Great By Jennifer Kaytin Robinson

Intense men are trash Arthouse shit- - Love by Gaspar Noe (honestly my fave director)

Old school - Some like it’s Hot by Billy Wilder

Mom’s recommendation - Legally Blonde by Robert Luketic

Sad n cute - Eternal Sunshine Of the Spotless Mind by Charlie Kaufman

Indie mumblecore stuff - Drinking Buddies by Joe Swanburg

Coming of age hilarity - Booksmart by Olivia Wilde

Sad drug things (trigger warning this for everrrrything) - Heaven knows What by Ben and Joshua Safde

Men ARE TRASH compilation - The Players by multiple directors

Cute young love w a twisty twist - Tomboy by Celine Sciamma

Lesbian shenanigans but make it hot and indie - Blue is the Warmest Color by Abdellatif Kechiche

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TV shows with similar vibes that I personally fuck with- - You’re the Worst (Amazon, Hulu)

Easy (Netflix)
Love (Netflix)
Master of None (Netflix)

-Better Things (Amazon)

Insecure (Amazon-HBO)
She’s Gotta Have it (Netflix)
Fleabag (Amazon)
Bojack Horseman (Netflix-I just absolutely love this show but there are specific episodes that really hit home in terms of break ups, toxic people, and independence/self reliance. If you want specific episode recs let me know!)
Midnight Gospel (Netflix)

Hope this helped!!

teallavender · 2020-04-28T08:34:33+00:00

I had also quite recently broken up so I understand how you feel. What I did for the first few days following the break-up was surround myself with friends and my family. I know now with covid that isn't physically possible (if you live alone, that is), but even phone calls to vent or just talk to them really helps. I had to remind myself that I have other forms of love in my life (platonic, familial), and while I did lose romantic love, it does not mean I am completely isolated and loveless. I also wrote out my thoughts, it helps to release those emotions in a material way rather than let it just sit in your mind, I even wrote down why i left the relationship. The latter is most important, imo. It's so important to convince yourself you did the right choice, even if it means having to look at that list every other hour. Do it till you eventually don't have to one day anymore. Write down your fears, too, like how you said you're afraid you can't find an emotionally available partner in the future. Reflect on that and also tell yourself that is not true, and even if it is hard to find one i think it's so important to tell ourselves it's better to be single than to be with someone who isn't capable of loving you the right way. I think the fact that you know it yourself is already a step in the right direction.

In terms of media i consumed, I watch and listen to a lot of inspirational shows and songs. I love sports anime, so I currently watch it the most because of the messages they carry of self-discovery and self-improvement. I think consuming any form of entertainment that carry those sentiments really help, because personally I feel my mood improve so much through them. Also, I didn't let myself listen to sad songs for a few weeks, because while I do love them I also know they would be fuelling my sadness even further in this time.

I also let myself feel sad/miss him. I don't repress those emotions, because I'd eventually have to face them at one point. But I let those feelings come and go as they are, which is why I don't listen to sad songs or read sad quotes on the internet when I feel this way. Feelings are natural, but when you purposely do something to keep feeling negative, that feeling turns into an unhealthy habit.

I hope this helped, this was actually my first break-up so i'm not as experienced as the next person. Just remember that you're not alone in this and you will get better, you made the right choice. Take care :)

LadyGrimes · 2020-04-28T10:44:23+00:00

Treat yourself to something good. Just realize that you did what you had to do because you weren't happy.

AfraidofFollowers · 2020-04-29T04:37:41+00:00

I broke up with mine in January and it still hurts. His effort wasn’t there. I allow my heart to hurt and I look at FDS weekly. I haven’t cried in 2 months.

I started to do yoga and jogging. Progress makes me feel better.

nutshit · 2020-04-28T22:08:43+00:00

I like to escape to youtube. Really funny videos get so far with my healing. I would watch Rhea Ellen (sooo funny) and SheRaSeven1 eventually. I tried new things with my looks and bettering myself did a real number. Unfortunately we’re quarantined rn so you can’t party, go to brunches, stores. And lastly, it’s okay to just have hard cries every once in a while to process the emotions— journaling helped so much.

Title	How to feel better after a breakup?
Author	throw248348
Upvotes	28
Comments	16
Date	April 27, 2020 3:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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