Number Shaming

asoww · 2020-04-12T14:19:05+00:00

And if a man asks you about the history of the past relationships that you've had, what would you answer ? Like how many boyfriends have you had and for how long ?

2020-04-12T18:37:32+00:00

👌 I've seen some women advising that you should just lie and make up a low number, but I don't agree with that. I would never ask a man how many women he's slept with and would expect the same courtesy from him

katmomofeve · 2020-04-12T17:31:12+00:00

Oh my god!!! I can not stress enough how true this is!!!

I was married to a LVM!!! I kicked him out at the beginning of the year!!! He obsessed over the number of sexual partners I had before we met! He would get mad at me and call me a whore and a slut. This was after we had been together for YEARS!

I started dating a HVM recently. He has never asked.

Something that was such a big deal to my ex, literally hasn't even been brought up once.

Nightingale1820 · 2020-04-12T19:49:51+00:00

I asked specific sex questions, like, have you ever had a 3-some. How long was your longest relationship, etc. Those things are much more important than a “number.”

meanemad · 2020-04-14T00:26:16+00:00

When i was 20, my second boyfriend bullied me about the fact that i had sex with a previous bf. My count was 1 plus him and i was already a whore🤮🤮🤮😂😂😂 i should have dumped him directly and save myself years of mistreating in other areas, that was the first red flag. Never a man asked again, even my husband has not questioned about it, but i would have not answer and dumped the man, preventing future disrespect, what kind of question is that!! i learnt that lesson well. I have a very low number and i suspect they would call me liar, as happenned to some friends that had low number too, liar or prude, we cant win with those stupid LVM. Ladies, dont answer dumb questions, you dont owe those men anything.

2020-04-12T20:14:47+00:00

Doesn't number establish some kind of a pattern tho? Like if I was with a man and then find out he has been with a lot of women (for my taste) I would definitely view him in a different light

saint-just_ · 2020-04-13T14:45:31+00:00

I honestly believe that not answering a mundane question to someone who loves you places too much emphasis and makes that number sacrosanct...

Title	Number Shaming
Author	braidsofglory14
Upvotes	86
Comments	12
Date	April 12, 2020 1:36 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/fzwvtw/number_shaming/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/number-shaming.678509 https://theredarchive.com/post/678509

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