Couldn’t be me, but you do you.

pinkyberries · 2020-02-16T13:34:41+00:00

This is what society teaches us - to be grateful for the most basic manners (paying, opening the door for you, actually reserving a place at a restaurant), ya'll think they'll split the pregnancy too? lmao.

daglowup · 2020-02-16T11:48:43+00:00

I’m good luv, enjoy.

2020-02-16T12:13:41+00:00

This is why women sometimes date older: because we want a guy who’s finically confident enough to pay for a date. I don’t want to feel like a high schooler splitting the bill.

responsiblenatures · 2020-02-16T14:48:53+00:00

I feel guilty as well but it's something I have to work on. After joining this sub I see how important being invested in is.

That feeling of guilt is perhaps a natural biproduct of taking to heart that you should be independent.

But I've been needlessly polite in declining being spoiled. Why??? There's no good reason.

even_thriller · 2020-02-16T21:07:58+00:00

I used to feel the tiniest bit guilty about them paying but then for me after being here and implementing FDS it finally clicked for me: if they are trying to use me to get into my pants, I will damn well make it a fucking expensive to waste their time. Usually if they're a fuckboy they'll duck out quick once they see you won't put out.

The men who don't mind paying don't even act like you're a burden or its a burden at all. The one in my rotation who shows the most promise pays for everything and doesn't even blink an eye. He's intelligent, motivated and owns his own business. The only time I paid for anything on one of our dates was when I wanted something he couldn't eat (a dietary restriction on his part, he can't eat it at all) but he still took me out for it and I paid for it since I was buying my own. ...The next day he venmo-ed me the cost of my it back to me without saying anything about it to me.

nosynobody · 2020-02-16T20:19:33+00:00

Lol we went for dinner and i didn't even reach for my purse. It's one day of the year, he can pay. He had already put me in a bad mood so most of the date was him trying to get back on my good graces. I do pay for some dates but definitely not on Vday

Title	Couldn’t be me, but you do you.
Author	MiaoLix
Upvotes	41
Comments	16
Date	February 16, 2020 11:43 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f4pmme/couldnt_be_me_but_you_do_you/
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