After dating multiple men on tinder and in real life, I realized timing is really important. Also don’t settle for guys( even though you see him as HVM) unless he considered you as HVW, don’t put in any effort. What most women don’t realize is guys compartmentalize women. They have women to fuck(hookers or fwbs) and women to care( family or wife) and that’s what you should be doing. Sometimes men messes this up and that’s when breakup or divorce happens. I used to go after so called hot guys who’s my type. In society’s perception, they might be considered high value but to me they weren’t. Even though the guy is hvw, if a guy doesn’t make any effort to you , he’s lvm to you. And also don’t make any exception to any guys. Few days ago I was texting this cute Brit guy, he texted me around 11pm. Then he just ghosted. If a guy texts you on tinder during the night, it means he’s just bored or high. I used to make exceptions for some guys thinking oh he’s hot, it’ll be different this time. Once you lower the bar for that guy, he’d be considering you as LVW. It’s be east for him to pass the bar, so he’d consider you as his when it’s not.

You should compartmentalize everything in life. You can’t put everything on priority list. For those of you, who’s learning of dating and relationships, other than this sub, is recommended you to watch shallon Lester and mindful attraction 2.0 on Reddit. But the essence of their lesson is, if there’s single red flag, drop it and leave. That’s why spending absolutely 0$ and putting in the least effort is really important. There is no sunk cost in leaving as you barely put in anything on to the relationships. Also I’d recommend not doing fwb. I used to think I need sex therefore I’d look for fwb. It’s not.

Women are put in higher risk of consequences than men for the sex, and socially taken negatively for having fwb. It’s very very hard and most guys wouldn’t take their fwb seriously. I actually wrote a post about it, but there was this lady who she started out as fwb with this hot lawyer and turned into exclusive and he dropped her like nothing. Most guys would consider ugly girl with low smv or uneducated, vulgar girl as fwb material and consider the opposite as relationship material. Even guys who say they’re not looking for something serious drop everything to be with girl of their dreams. So don’t believe in possibilities and think that something more could happen with fwb. I read on one of the comments and I thought this was such a clever one. She said she doesn’t share private info and fmaily details with her fwb. And when he wanted more, she’d dismissed him. That’s what you should be doing if you were to have fwb so you don’t have feelings for him.