Hanging out with LV brothers.

MyGilleyCat · 2019-12-29T21:10:45+00:00

Men know what they are doing, they dont need an education. The change can only come from within them. Are you able to be part of their babies lives? Be a stable loving auntie? Show those babies that your family does value them? To me that would be the only reason to be part of your brothers lives.

Do you communicate to your brothers what they are doing wrong? How they can level up? Or are you just hanging out? I dont know that it would make too much of a difference but I guess what I'm really asking is how much are you kidding yourself?

fim_de_semana · 2019-12-29T20:43:14+00:00

You don’t convince a LVM to change by giving them what they want. They won’t stop seeing women as objects just because you are there with them.

raindampened · 2019-12-29T21:11:17+00:00

I only have sisters (thank the universe❤️💖♡ ♥💕!!) but I think the same goes for brothers as to other men; they just can't comprehend the fact that women first and foremost are human. which honestly causes my brain lack like a bad computer from the 90s. how can they not put aside all the stereotypes, biases, and everything that's caked onto the female gender and see what we truly are.

like when I look at men and women often my first thought is not "would I fuck this person" but just look at them. maybe wonder what their personality is like. but when men look at women, I feel like, all they see if they find them attractive.

same goes for your brothers; when you try to reason with them they won't try to see your reasons they only see you "whining", someone who "expects too much of them instead of accepting them". just try to see yourself through a man's eyes and you can actually feel your brain shut off all empathy and just file the woman's reasoning as "nagging".

men never try to see women's reasons bc they will never consider that they are wrong. they will think they are right or in the "not that big of a deal" area even when you can reason with them for hours why they are actually wrong. their egos had been so blown up by society that they rarely consider the option that they might be wrong and that's not their first or first few options.

so no. don't try to change. if you want to love them when they are normal and be distant when their LVM qualities come out.

PrettyCicada · 2019-12-29T20:26:47+00:00

Fuck em. Ditch all the LVM in your life whether you're related to them or not.

Zreull · 2019-12-29T22:23:35+00:00

I barely talk to my LV brother he’s wasting his life working a low wage job and living at home while I am a successful non commissioned officer at the navy He just brings this negative energy and I don’t live for it

thesleeplesss · 2019-12-29T22:39:11+00:00

I don't feel any responsibility at all. It's not my fault my LVM brother sucks (I'm 20, he's 25). He still lives at home, my mom does his laundry, cooks for him, cleans for him, dogsits, the list goes on... He thinks men are smarter, funnier, and should always be in charge of women. I've spoken to my mom about it because I thought he was just spoiled and hadn't been enlightened yet. Fuck that. He knows he's full of shit and he doesn't want to change. I refuse to engage in meaningful discussions with him because I'd rather save my breath. This drives him crazy and he says all radical feminists are like that because we don't have reasonable arguments. LOL no!!! I just don't want to argue with a fool!!

MyGilleyCat · 2019-12-30T15:46:18+00:00

I'm sorry that's a tough situation. In my experience with men in my family they only change if they want to. If they are open to it. So i think men can change, but it's internally motivated. I dont think wanting to sleep with a women or not would affect it because its more about how they perceive women as a whole.

Title	Hanging out with LV brothers.
Author	gesticulatory
Upvotes	16
Comments	9
Date	December 29, 2019 8:18 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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